My wife and I have a 17 yr old daughter who has been dating her bf for a couple of years. They keep breaking up & getting back together. Every time, she tells him that he better straighten up, or else. Or else she'll tell him to straighten up again. After doing some reading on TRP and MRP, I now see exactly what he's doing. He's plating her. But if I try to tell her what he's doing, well... I just don't understand. He's not like that... etc, blah, blah, blah. So the challenge here is 1, how do I convince her what he's doing? And, 2, how do I do it without divulging Fight Club to the wife? I'm pretty new at MRP, so I don't want to screw this up.