If you have been following my OYS, you'd recall that my wife moved out of the master bedroom and into my 3yo's room shortly before I discovered MRP. Since then she's withdrawn all affection and attention. During the day we've been pretty ok roommates/co-parents. After the kids go to bed she hides out in "her room" and avoids all interaction with me. I've been working on myself and trying to weather the storm.
Someone sent me this article about narcissism thinking about my wife. It describes her pretty well. Over the past 2.5 months we've been sleeping apart, she's had a number of blow-ups and emotional outbursts, but always blames me for something and never any capitulation. I don't think she's capable of understanding that a relationship is a two-way exchange ... at least not now.
Things have been calm all week until last night I went out to a meetup group related to my career. I came home, kids asleep, and she was in her room with the door mostly closed. I just did my own thing and let her be. She comes in an hour or so later (I was working out on the pull-up bar) super pissed that I didn't greet her or say hi upon arriving home. Cue huge monologue about how I don't respect her or care about her blah blah blah. I literally chuckled and said "Oh now you want my attention after shutting me out for two months. I think you can figure out a better way to get it"
This morning she's raging, demanding an apology (for what ... I'm not sure really). We're in some crazy power struggle but she continues to dig her heels in and refuses to enter my frame.
Any advice that can help break this cycle?
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