About a year and a half ago, SO and I agreed with a proposal from our MC... scheduled sex. On 2 specific days each week we have starfish sex. Per her agreement with MC she's supposed to be "enthusiastic" about it. Of course, she can't possibly be, 1) because I've been very beta throughout the vast majority of our relationship so how could she possibly get aroused by me, 2) since it is scheduled, there is NO game or arousal of any kind, and 3) because she never has been even remotely interested in any intimacy (I was her first BF and even first kiss at 23! and she has always rebuffed or shot down any attempt to flirt or arouse her in any form... words, sight, touch, taste... you name it).

 

I don't need anyone to tell me that she isn't attracted to me. I don't need anyone to tell me that I'm not using any (or the right) game with her. Yes, I've read RM, Pook, NMMNG, WISNIFG, "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck," and I'm making my way ravenously through the the other materials in the sidebar.

 

Here's the question: What's the best RP way to end the "scheduled" sex arrangement? I don't want sex out of obligation. I want to improve myself until she can't wait to fuck me. The current arrangement clearly doesn't get me that. Sex is an obligation to her.

 

I've thought about simply trying to initiate on a different day, but she's so conditioned to just the two scheduled days that she doesn't even recognize any statement or action from me as a sexual advance. She would only understand a direct request for sex, which I agree, is pretty pathetic on my part.

 

I've thought about saying "We're going to end the scheduled sex arrangement. We don't need it." or "It doesn't do anything for me," or "I'll just get my needs met elsewhere" ;) or anything else along those lines.

 

My intent isn't to tell her I don't want sex, I just don't want obligatory/guilty sex from her. Porn is no better and cheating wouldn't be any better, and I still have needs. But I don't want it for what it is right now. I want to work on my game with her, lift heavy and gain another 10 lbs, own my shit, start passing her shit tests, induce some healthy dread, keep taking TRP and focusing on my mission, and then maybe she'll want to fuck me (or at least I'll be in a good position to move on to someone who does).

 

Or tell me if you think I should just take the scheduled starfish sex while I work on myself.

 

Suggestions?