FR, Lifting, SAHM and Shitty wife getting shittier

May 19, 2018

WARNING: Just a bunch of random thoughts and reflections i been having.

M34 W26

1: Finally got around my fuckarounditis and been going to the gym consistently, finally understood why lifting is the cornerstone of redpill, been feeling a lot better, emotions more in control, better discipline at work, i feel calm and confident most of the time, no diet yet, been researching on keto and looks like the way to go. Wife seems to like the fact im being consistent, sex life is on a very good point, wife is squirting like crazy again, awesome blowjobs, rimjobs you name it, but she's been trying to sabotage via the food, told her i'm going to make a few changes on food, avoid sugar and bread (carbs), and been pushing for brownies cake etc, but i just ignore and carry on.

2: Now that i'm going to the gym, wife has been talking about taking care of herself, a friend of ours goes to girls only bodyweight classes 3 days a week, so i arranged for my friend to pick her up, i offered to take car of the baby at that time etc, been 2 weeks and she hasn't gone a single day.

On that same line of thought, started talking about taking care of herself, i reminded her that she got a bunch of supplements and vitamins at home, that she could start taking them again, and now comes the fun part, wife started talking how she would like to stop working to take care of herself, told her it was not feasible at this moment, and then started how she wanted to have a social life, got to the gym, sleep until late etc, i know STFU.... but it was too great of a opportunity to let it pass, i say it was a GREAT idea, we could take turns at it, i for a year while she takes care of herself, and then next year i take care of myself while she works, lol had a lot of fun with her hamster trying to counter that, never touched the subject again.

3: The shitty part, i have a daughter from a relationship, wife been increasingly shittier in that part, last time my daughter was here i had to go out to some office stuff and she stayed at home with my wife, and she treated her like shit, my daughter didn't tell me anything, but told her grandma ( my mom). had a talk with my wife about it and she agreed to be courteous.

This weekend we had plans to go to the wifes best friend wedding, i took care of the travel plans, money etc, wife got new dress, etc. Problems started once wife was notified, my daughter was going with us, ( how the invitation was for 2 persons and stuff like that, )so i told her to go by herself, so we didn't become a problem, after that she changed her tune.

When i picked up my daughter problems arose again, ignoring her, forgetting to serve her dinner, making remarks my daughter played with the baby, so after kids were asleep notified wife, she would go by herself, and gave her the bus/uber money offered to take her to the bus station in the morning. Next morning threw a tantrum on how i was ruined everything for her bla bla bla, so she did not go to the wedding, and threw herself on depression.....

And i don't care anymore, while i wasn't going, i gave her the means to go, she was responsible for going or not, her tantrums instead of affecting me like before, looked to me like a teenager, if she goes, she stays that her problem not mine, im not going to put any pussy above my daughter or my son.

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Title FR, Lifting, SAHM and Shitty wife getting shittier
Author turbospeedsc
Upvotes 13
Comments 24
Date May 19, 2018 7:06 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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[–]Barvazon10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I once had a girlfriend that told me many shitty stories about how her step mom was shitty towards her. What was bothering me back then was the question "where the fuck is the father in all that".

After taking the pill I realized he was just a beta putting pussy up high on heavens.

Beta men - destroying families by allowing that shit to take place under their roof.

Shame on you, OP, your daughter suffers for your lack of backbone (don't you dare blame your wife, she only does what you allow her to do)

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

im not going to put any pussy above my daughter or my son.

Now, there is a mission statement OP. Try to apply it with an even hand. Easier said than done....

Part of the problem, mentioned by others here, your wife is one of your children. What's not mentioned is your mother. More on that.

This is complicated by the nature of children to obfuscate the truth. Much like your childish wife, it's their nature. Be careful of believing stories carried by your child to your mother. You would then have your mothers point of view bias compounded with your child's point of view. Not really the most reliable input sources. Who knows, your mother might have lead your daughter's story... In effect, they could be innocent co-conspirators against the evil step mother. You've heard that story before.

So now OP, you have 3 female children to deal with, not counting your daughter's mother. (Wife, daughter, mother) Yes I included your mother as another child, she is still a woman and that's just the way it works.

Deal only with the shitty behavior of your wife towards daughter, that you observed. This has to be addressed firmly. I think you made an attempt that pissed the wife off. Not a bad start.

Now you are going to have to figure out what your boundaries are, and what the consequences will be. No one can tell you that. You are just going to have to figure it out, and, it seems to me that you are up to the task. One suggestion is to err on the side of less. If you make the consequences severe and don't deliver, that is much worse than milder consequences that you enforce completely. You can always raise the consequences later, but DO NOT BACK DOWN from what you set. You might need to just spank her at first.

[–]Wolveryn2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Fark man, you have yourself a large side of strife to go with that wife.

Sorry I don't much else to add to that.

[–]oneredguy2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I would never accept responsibility for her feelings. The depression stuff. When she brings it up let her know that you sympathize, (it must be terrible to feel that way), but you accept no responsibility for how she feels. Seems like a good time to remind her that working out slaughterers depression, and smirk. Go back to winning and hopefully she'll follow along.

[–]SteelToeShitKickerRed Beret4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

M34 W26

Your wife is basically a child. You need to guide her on how to act. Be firm.

[–]hypergamous0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

She will continue to multiply the childish acts as she begins to wonder If she spent her youth on "the right one" - it's only uphill from here.

The best time to plant a tree was a decade ago, the next best time is today.

[–]InChargeManRed Beret3 points4 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Your wife is very young, immature, and it sounds like jealous of your prior relationship. Just in the way that women love kids more than anything else, you should too. In my book there is absolutely no wiggle room here. No pussy footing around the issue, your daughter is an extension of you, if she can't care for her as a mother would, she needs to hit the bricks.

Feel free to use my line: "If you ever again treat Stacey with anything less than full respect and don't care for her as if she were your own child, well...I just hope it is during the day when Home Depot is open." "Why?" "Because you will be out of this house so fast the door will come off the hinges."

[–]BobbyPeru5 points6 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

If you ever again treat Stacey with anything less than full respect and don't care for her as if she were your own child, well...I just hope it is during the day when Home Depot is open." "Why?" "Because you will be out of this house so fast the door will come off the hinges.”

There is too much gray area to be throwing out ultimatums - she would likely just switch to more subtle forms of disrespect. It will almost certainly backfire.

I haven’t met a stepmom who treats her husband’s kid like her own over the long term. They may do it for a while, but over time, they always start slipping. It’s on the AWALT continuum.

So, you have to treat it just like everything else - like she is the oldest teenager in the house... because she is. You have a talk with her about it, and approach every situation that arises appropriately. If she doesn’t fall into line over time, then you might have to make hard decisions. It’s way too early for an ultimatum tough, especially given so much gray area.

[–]fuckmrpRed Beret2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

[–]BobbyPeru2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

And there you have it....

[–]InChargeManRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Everyone is different. There are soft boundaries, there are hard boundaries. This would be a hard boundary for me. One and done.

[–]Big_Daddy_PDX1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

I missed how old your daughter is, but your “wife’s” behavior toward her is a non-starter for me. At however long you two have been dating/together, it should be pretty damn obvious that you’ve got an obligation with taking care of her.

[–]turbospeedsc[S] 1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

daughter is 9 years old, we been together for 4 years, shitty behavior to daughter started this year.

[–]PersaeusRed Beret2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Shitty around the same time you and she had or conceived the baby?

[–]turbospeedsc[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

after my son 1st year bday party

[–]PersaeusRed Beret4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Right on cue

[–]turbospeedsc[S] 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

FR UPDATE: After a long night of crying, tantrums, depression, panic attacks, calling her mom to tell her if she can go live there,calling her friends about how she made all this efford for nothing. all kinds of drama and me holding the line on the way she should treat my daughter......

Guess who changed her behavior??? Yup wife made a big change this morning on the way she treats my daughter, she still very sad and resentful she missed her best friends wedding, but now she knows i will burn down rome when it comes to my children.

[–]RuleZeroDADRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Hold the line and be constantly tuning that fiddle.

Every woman, mine, yours, all of them in relationships, need to be reminded that a man will burn it all to the ground.

Pussy is always below progeny. Your daughter is unique. Your wife is but one in a sea of vaginas. If your ex ever mistreats your son when he's older, same thing. These women need to know that poor behavior towards your children will NEVER be tolerated.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

she knows i will burn down rome when it comes to my children.

First you figure it out, then she does. Women, amazing but simple creatures. Seems so simple now, right?

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

There a reason why stepmothers were such a frequent villain in Grimm’s Fairy Tales. AWALT was a thing even back then.

[–]ReddJiveRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

what the fuck?

All I read was she she she she her her her her.

Yeah I don't know what you problem is.

[–]RedPillCoach0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

A woman is using your children against you to gain power in a relationship?

Who ever heard of such a thing? I thought women were all about the chillen.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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