5"11 42 208lbs 17% I do not drink and have not in three years. Very good career with solid finances Big fucking house I built myself.

Gym 1 rep max: Bench 315 Squat 405 No deads due to back Thick back Decent arms. I am in damn good shape and the gym is my temple....habit for 20 years

Readings: NMMNG Rational Male all three Way of the Superior Man Book of Pook Shit Test Mastery MMSL MAP

Found RP three years back.

Reading through the sidebar. Reading NMMNG again.

Made a mistake and posted on Marriedredpill and the responses FINALLY made me see how I never stopped living in my wife's frame.

Sex is bad and I always initiate....when I cannot hold out.

I have made progress on myself. I am starting to understand that I need to put myself first. I dress better, I get deep tissues regularly, I go for long bike rides, and starting to do more with the guys.

There is so much in chaos though, but my post is about my two young sons; 5 and 8.

Me, no ipad during dinner, no ipad when we are out on the weekends, brush teeth every night, clean up every night, I do not reward with toys, eat a solid breakfast, and so on.

Her, ipads ALL THE TIME, not consistent with hygiene, cleaning up toys not a priority, constantly buying toys, junk food for breakfast, and so on....she shares the same habits herself.

Me, I am organized, do my own laundry, clean my own dishes, etc.

Her, clothes and dirty underwear everywhere, sink full of dishes, clean laundry piles everywhere, trash in bathroom full of bloody maxi pads, etc.

I have stopped helping her with her shit a long time ago and only focus on my things.

My boys constantly whine around her. They behave but do have fun around me when she is not around.

She goes to bed with them EVERY night.

My sons are now showing signs of entitlement. Why should I clean, I don't want to clean the toilet, I can't throw the trash because I can't walk 30 feet because my legs hurt but I can run around and throw my toys around.

Just today, we went to Dave and Busters for my 8 year olds birthday. My parents were there as well. His face was stuck to the ipad. I told him his grandparents are here to spend time with him and he needs to put the ipad down and spend time with them. He was reluctant but he knew I meant business. As soon as the wife came back from the bathroom, he whines and she gave it back to him. I held firm and said no. My son was caught in the middle, but she eventually took the ipad away because she knew how she looked with my parents there. She loves them. She squacked and made comments, but I was solid here......not always the case....I am 50% on this.

All of this is part of a bigger picture but wanted some candid and serious medicine from all of you please....so please lay it on me.....