I was reading through the 16 Commandments of Poon and #5 reads:
Give your woman 2/3 of everything she gives you. For every three calls or texts, give her two back. Three declarations of love earn two in return. Three gifts; two nights out. Give her two displays of affection and stop until she has answered with three more. When she speaks, you reply with fewer words. When she emotes, you emote less.
I see the logic and how you're making yourself the prize by following the golden ratio. But I'm trying to square that with always gaming my wife. I'm kinoing her every day (displays of affection). Hug and kiss leaving for work and when I get home, spooning going to sleep, hug from behind and kissing her neck while she's doing dishes, holding her hand walking, putting my hand on her leg while driving or watching a show, grabbing her for a 10 second kiss (that she usually breaks off in one second or less), tickling her back or rubbing her neck sitting next to her in church.
Clearly she's not attracted to me as all that kino goes largely unreciprocated, and it has been that way for the last decade of being a beta. If I was strictly following the golden ratio, I would have kinoed my wife maybe once a month in the last year. I'm at a 100/1 ratio rather than 2/3.
What do you guys suggest is the right balance between always gaming/kinoing and following the golden ratio, specifically for those of us in the early stages of RP and not generating much dread yet?