How to balance work and wife

BetaInBag_BagInRiver · 2018-03-22T01:35:49+00:00

What you won't see here is guys giving you much sypathy or the answer you want to hear.

Here's why.

It sounds harsh, but it is not worth it. No, you and your snowflake aren't different. Twenty some years ago I met the one. She accepted me even though I was a bit wild. Fine ass young chick. True count 1 before me. I was smitten. Yet I was young and wild didn't want to commit. Actually moved away so I could keep on being wild. She followed, thought to myself well if she is following I must be everything she dreamt of and caved to the blue pill. It was good for a while. Was still pursuing my dreams, she was riding along but going after her own.

Then it wasn't going along her dreams and I got so sopped up in her pussy, because she was fine way beyond my smv or at least what I thought I was. I caved dropped my mission and followed her away. To end up splitting after she got back to where she wanted to be.

Me away from my plan, had to rework my mission. 20 years later I'm back where I wanted to be 20 years ago. I missed out on industry booms. I missed out on all sorts of pussy and possibilities. Want to be mad at her, but I left my mission. I didn't have to, it is all on me.

Your girl may have the tightest pussy on the planet, but if she isn't following your mission you will regret it later if you follow hers.

In all reality it doesn't sound like you guys see much of each other anyways better grab that job before you move in together. You think you miss her now, wait till she gets all bitchy and you wish you had to work more. A bit of distance is good. That Is one thing I have truely learned here. I was way too much up in the pussy.

drty_pr · 2018-03-22T03:35:52+00:00

The fact you first posted in RP over a year ago and you're still wasting people time with some shot like this. Fuck off. If you actually swallowed that pill back then, you wouldn't be asking such a stupid question right now.

simbarlion · 2018-03-22T04:44:28+00:00

I am going to take a different tack here and say that you, like everyone else, need to realise that part or all of your mission should be to optimise YOUR happiness OVER YOUR ENTIRE LIFE. Your life mission and decisions should be primary, but LTR / wife will have a large secondary impact on YOUR Happiness.

WIFE

A nice wife is likely to make you happy, or unhappy depending on how you play it. If you stay alpha and she cherishes you, lots of sex, likely you will be happy on the long term. If you go beta, or is she loses her SMV, and sex dies, she will start to make you unhappy. This is called "Wife Vetting" and "OYS"

JOB

A good job should make you happy, or unhappy if you get trapped in a "need the money" / "long hours" cycle/ hate the boss / bought too big a house you can't get out etc.. Some people are happiest with less money but spend hours on woodwork or exercise. Thats cool. Others work their brains out, and get lots of money to go ski Aspen every year, and choose a new ferrari. Also cool IF IT IS WHAT YOU WANT FOR YOUR LIFE. And yes, lots of people work hard with the intention of reaping rewards down the track (investing in future happiness). Personally i am a work life balance guy cause i might die any day, and that is not the normal view on here. YMMV

DECISION

The Money Vs Time debate is as old as anything. So to answer your basic question (who asks this shit on the internet?) It seems to me that at your age, you should go for the job, telling LTR that it is in the best interest for the future (entire life happiness) / OR BECAUSE IT WILL MAKE YOU HAPPY ANYWAY (if that is true).

Make your choice. Most would take the job and re-evaluate your course 5 years from now. But remember, as much as i agree you should optimise your own happiness first, LTR / wife will impact that happiness severely if she sees fit (e.g. your never around so she cheats).

TLDR - do what makes you happy as priority. Give some consideration to LTR's happiness cause it will come back at ya

ReddJive · 2018-03-22T00:15:20+00:00

I love this.

How quickly we forget.

It wasn’t all that long ago historically that there was no 5 day 40 hour work week. Henry Ford institutionalized the concept. He further postulazted that as technology increased this work schedule could reduce.

Only he pushed it so people had more time to spend money.

Prior to this people worked 7 days a week, all hours of the day as needed to make money for their families. The idea that we as men need to work less is ridiculous. Work is work. It needs to get done. Now I am not saying work 20 hours a day BUT you must begin to make priorities in your life. This is on you.

The message you will get is not to get married. What does marriage bring to you? Sure you could keep the LTR. Move in together. Live a life forever....but why the contract?

The idea that you would willingly sacrifice you potential for marriage says a lot. You need to rethink this. You also need to consider what changes you can make other then sacrificing your career aspects. If the relationship is that fragile that a few more hours of work a week can ruin it. Then it’s not worth keeping around or you need to stop being a pussy.

My bet is on both aspects of this.

red-sfpplus · 2018-03-22T01:08:49+00:00

How do you all manage work and wife?

Dont place your wife higher on the importance ladder than you.

Problem solved before it is one.

MrChad_Thundercock · 2018-03-22T00:33:38+00:00

You are only 26 for fucks sake. Go for the new job and promotion as chief engineer. This is your life.

Put yourself first. She comes along for the ride or not.

Not even married and you are afraid of what she will think. Maybe the retired guy was poor at managing his time. Maybe when he was home, he was a lazy bastard who sat on the couch all weekend drinking beer. Maybe his wife fucked Chad and only now he’s realizing he needs more time at home.

You haven’t even lived with this chick yet, what if (when) she turns out crazy?

Stop thinking so much. Take the fucking job. It will potentially open up even more opportunities for you. More doors.

The burden of men is unrealized potential.

Reach180 · 2018-03-22T14:15:22+00:00

It's tough to take a simple "More time with the family" line from the hiring manager and make judgements based on it. What does that mean? Maybe it's just the first thing that came to his head to explain away his better job to the guy he just hired. Maybe he's got a bitch of a commute and found something closer to home. Maybe this employer ius a slave driver who expects more hours than they let on. Maybe he's a henpecked beta who needs to work fewer hours so he can get the laundry done.

You frame this as "family" vs. "career". And so guys here are going to tell you to choose anything and everything over a woman. Not a bad general premise. But fuck employers, too. You can be just as metaphorically blue pill for the guy who writes your checks as you can to a woman.

So while I understand the idea of establishing yourself before making big life decisions, remember that there's no virtue in signing up to be a company plowhorse either. Take the path that works for what you want, and let whoever wants to be a part of it be a part of it.

Alpha_Engineer99 · 2018-03-22T14:47:22+00:00

Get your head out of your ass. Don’t be scared of work.

Take the promotion - there’s only so many great opportunities that come along in life.

Dont fuck this one up.

FoxShitNasty83 · 2018-03-22T17:59:59+00:00

Work hard, fuck hard. In that order.

P.s don't get married no matter how many times you get anal.

31Olives · 2018-03-22T00:08:36+00:00

Don't get married. Everything else is easy.

hystericalbonding · 2018-03-22T00:52:31+00:00

You're too young to get married. It's a serious legal and financial arrangement with high risk, and you clearly don't have those issues sorted.

FlyingSexistPig · 2018-03-22T03:29:51+00:00

You are approaching this the wrong way.

If you decide to spend 1 hour with your wife a week, then make it a great hour, one for her to remember and cherish and look forward to, week after week.

If you spend 167 hours a week with your wife, she'll wonder why you don't have anything else to do with your time. She'll resent you and get sick of being around you.

Your job is not to care for and nurture. It's to lead and teach. You need to value the quality of time not focus on the quantity. You need to set expectations for your family.

Also, don't get married. Marriage is a contract, a business arrangement. You can stay with her forever, have kids with her, but still not get married.

88Will88 · 2018-03-22T05:21:39+00:00

Career/ money first, relationships second. Problem solved

TurdDoctor · 2018-03-22T13:34:36+00:00

So you want to make more money but not work more hours or increase your skills/value to your employer? Lazy faggot.

What makes you deserve more than your "dead end" job? Inflated self worth.

Typical millenial snowflake- put the work in and prove me wrong. Who cares about what your LTR thinks. She will follow or not.

Title	How to balance work and wife
Author	freedominlight2
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Comments	28
Date	March 21, 2018 11:45 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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