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[–]abdadaRed Beret2 points3 points4 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Next.
[–]nastynickdrRed Beret0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Hmmm, loses his house in a divorce rape and goes live in with 40+ year old crazy single mom who behaves like a 18 year old.
Suggestion for your "friend": dump her, improve himself, lift, gift him a copy of NMMNG / WISNIFG / MMSLP. No, he cant fix the "situation", but he can fix himself and avoid putting himself in a shitty situation like that again.
[–]mrpthrowa0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Once she woke up in the middle of the night, grabbed handful of his hair and hissed "If you ever cheat on me, I will cut off your dick, because that's what really matters for you, isn't it". And so on, and so forth, this guy is stressed like hell, but isn't quite ready to call it quits, after all she's hot, sex is good, life is convenient (moving out from her would mean living with his parents until he wins his legal battle, IF that happens at all, and who in his forties could live with his parents for more than a day?).
Listen up, this is what happens when you have no abundance mentality.
Don't care for your friend. He has to want to fix himself by himself.
Cool story though, he's at least a tiny bit useful as a blue pill example.
[–]En0der points points points 7 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
He helped me when I was in a shitpool, the least I can do in return is talk to him and help him see things from different perspective (especially that when you are in a difficult situation, you tend to get tunnel vision and outside view is needed to see things clearly). First thing I did was offering him keys to my spare apartment which is under renovation now, so he can go sleep there in case of emergency or if he just needs to remove himself for a couple of days. That's not a long-term solution though.
We've talked and analyzed different approaches, and still staying with that woman beats staying with his parents. It will take at least a couple of months, possibly more than a year, before he makes enough money to live on his own (child support and mortgage bleed him dry). If only there was a way to talk sense to that woman... That's why I came here for ideas, MRP has helped me quite a bit in my own struggles.
[–]mrpthrowa1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Well offering him an apartment is good and is a good thing to do as a friend, it gives him options = help him with abundance.
That's the point - RP is about change from within, completely 100% outcome independent from anybody else - there is no talking sense to anybody (can't negotiate a relationship). What this shows is that even you lack a clear understanding of what RP is so it's like the one-eyes leading the blind. Start with reading the sidebar, and show it to him. That's where it ends.
Your friend has to realise he is the primary instigator for his sorry state of affairs, and only he can change himself. You can lead a horse to the water but you can't make him drink.
Oh, for what it's worth, staying with parents beats staying with a crazy woman who threatens physical violence. YMMV.
[–]zeteomegaleio0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You can't fix crazy like that through RP tactics. This woman has major issues and trauma she needs to work on/through. This is psychotic behavior.
Run like hell.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Tell your "friend" to post it himself
Nah, he's not into this internet thing. Moreover, he doesn't speak English nearly well enough to describe his situation nor to understand answers (we're both from Europe, where English is still taught as a second language).
Also, it's not me hiding my own story behind an imaginary friend's cover - the quotation marks are unnecessary. I've had my own load of marital troubles, and reading TRP/MRP helped me a lot; after reading the sidebar and browsing through the posts I never had to ask any questions on my own behalf.
Being red pill aware, I try to advise my friend, and my advice also is "next time she misbehaves leave your stuff, go out, come back after a week, if she's sweet tell her there won't be next time, if she's bitchy pack your stuff". Also being aware that I'm by no means red pill proficient I came here to ask if there may be another solution which I overlooked. Looks like there's not. Tough titty.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
can lead a horse to water, removed the post, as it has nothing to do with men owning shit, but red knighting.
As you like, I was trying to get some honest answers here.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
it's about as honest as they get. search for 'red knight' in here, you'll see the exact same answer
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