180cm

75kg

18% bf

Lifts:

Squat 65kg

Row 35kg

Bench 35kg

Deadlift 65kg

OHP 30kg

Doing stronglifts 5x5

25M, wife 24

So we got married 2 weeks ago, and this was a "civil wedding", and have a church wedding in October.

She asked me where we're going for our honeymoon. I answered that I wanted to drive around Europe for two weeks in a camper (smth we've been talking about for a while). I added that best would be to go in the spring. We'll save enough, get vaccinated, and won't drive in the snow.

She was happy with this, and went to bed. She then asked me why we have to save if we'll get the wedding gift. I answered that this will partially cover the wedding costs. She didn't like that. Started saying she understands savings and investing, but wants to live life. I said I agree. I also want to live a life, but want to do it smart. Since I was shit with money, and we didn't save anything for the last 2 years, and we're planning on buying a house. So sure. We'll go, we'll enjoy life, but we'll plan it ahead of time.

While she was emotional, I was stoic and held my frame. I was open to talk about it, but not to break my decision based on emotions alone.

This time it ended with her saying "forget it" and laying down. When I came back after brushing my teeth, it was all good. She's now talking to me normally, being nice, and connects with me. I act as if nothing happened.

Is this an example of a shit test? Previously, I'd break my frame at the slightest threat of a temper tantrum.