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[–]threekindsofluckyMod who asks, "are we the baddies?"[M] [score hidden] 2 years ago stickied comment (0 children) | Copy Link
Deleted his OYS post after getting banned for Rule 9, leaving only the comment:
Deleting comment as I am already discussing it in askMRP
As a consequence you get no askMRP post or MRP OYS.
[–]hopeunseen 13 points14 points15 points 2 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
The advice here covers pretty much everything. A couple observations
I haven’t had sex in a year. Noticed the problem 4 months ago and have been working on fixing my shit since then
It took you 8 months to notice you weren't having sex? Sounds like the ultimate drunk captain.
Already in phase 3 of the MAP.
You are absolutely full of shit. Wake up call: If you have properly executed phase 1 & phase 2, you should have seen significant changes already. If not, it is FAR more likely you're still dancing monkey vs have actually internalized the identity shift required to create real change in your life.
You're going through the motions maybe, but your wife needs to FEEL the shift on a permanent level, not just see you changing a few things for a couple months. Additionally, you've likely been beta bux for at LEAST 4 years, if not all your life... If you were a hardcore alcoholic for 4 years, do you really think in a couple months you'd have fixed everything you need to fix?
When I 10second kiss her she says she feels it in her pussy and her body is turned on but that goes nowhere... more excuses.
Realize what you're doing here: You've skimmed RP, read a few books, and now you're looking for cheat codes. "I did X, Y & Z, but sex didn't happen - What gives?"
People are people. Situations are complicated. Having almost literally walked through the same journey, looking back I now realize how much fucking time I wasted because I was so focused on an external result that I skipped the internal process.
It's not WHAT YOU DO - It's who you ARE. Your actions flow out of your identity. Change the identity and the behavior change will be real, congruent and natural.
Simply change the behavior and you have no congruency, low confidence, and will forever habitually drift back to your old patterns and ways of acting as soon as you let your guard down.
TLDR - You think you get it, but you don't. You think you've done the work, but you haven't. You think you're hot shit, but you're not.
I genuinely feel for you bro. It's an absolutely rock bottom painful situation to be in. But you've got to sack up and do the work. YOU are the only one you can change. Ultimately you can't change your wife. Stop focusing on her completely. Focus all your energy onto improving and fixing yourself and owning your own shit - Because I fucking guarantee you're spending 90% of your time focusing on hers because deep inside your mind, you still think SHE is the reason you're not getting what you want, and not you.
[–]wkndatbernardus 1 point2 points3 points 2 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
+1. Best response here.
[–]upintheayem 1 point2 points3 points 2 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
no doubt
[–]UEMcGillI am become McGill, Destroyer of Blue Pill 24 points25 points26 points 2 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
The real question you need to ask yourself is "Who cares?"
One of the funniest stories I ever read was from Tucker Max. He fucked a married chick like two hours after she had a miscarriage. Do you think that chick was worried about roids?
Your stay plan should be your go plan. One month of getting unfucked is not a lot of time. Get your shit right and someone will fuck you. It's up to your wife if it's her.
[–]We_waz_alpha_n_sheet[S] 8 points9 points10 points 2 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You are right and I was in the middle of typing out a defence and it read back like somebody who was coping. I deleted that shit, you are right man, thanks
[–]business----travel 2 points3 points4 points 2 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I love when you come out of the woodwork and comment.
[–]mbmbmb0101 0 points1 point2 points 2 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
“Who cares?” His wife’s boyfriend cares
[–]UEMcGillI am become McGill, Destroyer of Blue Pill 2 points3 points4 points 2 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Probably, but until he quits hearing excuses he won't get out of his own way.
[–]We_waz_alpha_n_sheet[S] 2 points3 points4 points 2 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
What should I focus on today? Do I work on becoming a family alpha or do I put distance between myself and my wife to generate dread and to spin other plates. To me these concepts are a little exclusive since a good Captain must pay attention to his first officer, however should I reward the first officer with attention after a year of no sex?
[–]HornsOfApathyMod / Red Beret 5 points6 points7 points 2 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
My my my.
That's how powerful a woman's hamster is when she's a rape victim.
Everything about us fits the: i love you but I’m not in love with you meme.
So, you got the ILYBINILWY speech?
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[–]HornsOfApathyMod / Red Beret 0 points1 point2 points 2 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
She's not attracted to you at all.
Links just fine. She's just not attracted to you at all.
[–]DrPsychGainz 7 points8 points9 points 2 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
IF it is medical... Fibromyalgia is a pain in the ass because by the time they have it, they have YEARS of cycling negative thought/sensation patterns that are almost impossible to reverse without drastic change/necessity. And it is a response to your years of behavior which has been expounded upon here. Short of growing 6 inches taller, gaining 50 pounds of muscle, having a purpose, and likely attracting other women passively/moving on for 6 months or more, she will not overcome this WITH YOU, even with meds (tricyclic antidepressants, SNRI, dialectical behavioral therapy, cognitive behavioral therapy, etc.). But her other guy probably won't have that problem.
[–]hopeunseen 2 points3 points4 points 2 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
DrPsychGainz
Great insight right here. My marriage had the same thing, different names. Instead of a physical illness as an excuse, it was a mental one.
Even IF you've pull off a total transformation (unlikely), those patterns of thinking and feeling about you are neurologically linked up inside of her, and at least for my ex, were something she never got over
BUT the stay plan is the go plan. Either way you should be doing the same shit.
[–]Tyred_BiggumsDon't let these gypsy women fool you 18 points19 points20 points 2 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Shitty guy: Check
Hot wife: Check (please verify with pics)
Thinks a good career makes it all better: Check
Excuses for sex constantly: Check
ILYBINILWY: Check
95% chance she's getting sex elsewhere. 100% chance she doesn't find you attractive.
she says she feels it in her pussy and her body is turned on but that goes nowhere
Watch what she does, not what she says.
You're her provider - not her lover.
when i kiss her and then she used to tell me how she doesn’t feel sexy or feels ill so she cant escalate.
She feels ill because you repulse her. I feel physically ill when I'm repulsed even though nothing is physically wrong.
Be attractive. Don't be unattractive.
I haven’t had sex in a year
Why the fuck are you not looking elsewhere if this is the case? Oh... because you have no options. Which is why you repulse her.
[–]WolfofAllStreetz 4 points5 points6 points 2 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Big agreement on the provider not lover.
Bad place to be.
Figure out how to get out of this place.
[–]HornsOfApathyMod / Red Beret 1 point2 points3 points 2 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
NMMNG. Sidebar.
You're full of covert contracts Mr. Beta Bucks
[–]mbmbmb0101 26 points27 points28 points 2 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
If you haven’t had sex in a year, you need to seriously consider the possibility of her having an affair. It doesn’t add up if she’s hot, gets worked up by fore play, but doesn’t want to go forward with sex. There’s a very good chance she’s having an affair, and considers sex with you to be cheating on the other guy, the guy she’s in love with and fucks. I think you need to spend effort trying to be certain whether she is or not. I mean I guess it’s possible that it’s more innocent than that, just seems less likely.
[–]We_waz_alpha_n_sheet[S] 0 points1 point2 points 2 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Spending effort on this would make me feel like an insecure cuck. I think i would rather just be a cuck for now
[–]business----travel 4 points5 points6 points 2 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Married to a 27 y/o we are both hot and in shape
Share pictures of your wife or else you are lying.
[–]wkndatbernardus 2 points3 points4 points 2 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I'll stake my Glenrothes 1985 that she's cheating. Strangely, however, that doesn't matter right now. What matters is you finding your sack under all that fupa lard and getting your legal affairs in order because with no sex for a year +, this marital relationship is on life support, if it's not dead already. She's probably testing her branch right now seeing if it's "hard" enough to swing to.
My advice; get her working STAT or quit your current gig and drop down to a lower paying job. This will level the playing field, somewhat, when the court orders child support/alimony (btw, no alimony if you divorce before 5 years in many states). You can thank me later. Your journey to self improvement (lifting, reading, praying/meditating, etc) should start immediately while you are interviewing lawyers. Even if you're wife does a complete 180 and starts sucking you dry every night, you'll know what you are up against should she decide to kill the puppy one day.
[–]Twovaultss 1 point2 points3 points 2 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
She’s cheating on you. Sorry to lay it on you bud.
Hire a PI. You’ll find out the truth within a few weeks.
[–]thisisme0007 1 point2 points3 points 2 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
So you're saying you haven't started to lift yet?
[–]business----travel -2 points-1 points0 points 2 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Men that don't lift deserve to not get ANY pussy. Fuck em'.
I say that a bunch of us MRP guys railroad his wife.
[–]thisisme0007 8 points9 points10 points 2 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Wow this place has gone to shit. OP is a fuck up, you want to bang his wife and several others are asking for pics of her. Its like beta thirst has made it all the way to this corner of the internet.
[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red 3 points4 points5 points 2 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
I walked into the kitchen the other day. My gal was wearing a pretty nice shirt that shows off her nipple rings perfectly.
I ran across the room, pushed her over the island and fucked her from behind with my thumb in her ass until we both came while her nipple rings clanked on the island granite.
No words, no talking, no foreplay.
Just raw passion and chemistry.
Fuck off beta pussy.
[–]mbmbmb0101 1 point2 points3 points 2 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Nipple rings clanking on a granite island sounds so much better than the sound of moist skin smearing against laminate counter top underneath a cabinet that happens over here. Thanks for making me jealous
[–]HornsOfApathyMod / Red Beret 2 points3 points4 points 2 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
She's already a rape victim. By you.
[–]business----travel -1 points0 points1 point 2 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
her nipple rings clanked on the island granite.
Nice.
[–]bob--man[🍰] 0 points1 point2 points 2 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If your wife is as hot as you keep telling us, why haven't you set up links in your post of her?
[–]SelectAirline 0 points1 point2 points 2 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
she says... from eating... When I 10second kiss her...
she says...
from eating...
When I 10second kiss her...
Her mouth clearly still works. Just sayin'...
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