Is she prettier than me

donedreadpirate · 2018-03-26T19:48:17+00:00

I have no idea. My wife lost her shit this weekend when I was recognized by a hot 23 year old fitness chick. Sobbing, hiding in the bathroom, I had to take her home and white lie to our friends about why we left without saying goodbye. The sex was fantastic.

Edit: Meh, go figure, I came home to a love note and a dozen roses. I feel like a princess!

RPWolf · 2018-03-26T20:09:43+00:00

You need to figure out an AM to this. Is she hotter then me? Yeah, but I bet she can't do that thing with her tongue. Fill in with whatever inside joke you guys might have.

This weekend my wife was putting on a sweatshirt and it shrunk in the dryer. I see her stretching it out as shes putting it on and I am laughing at her cause shes getting stuck etc. She looks at me and says, "I wouldn't have this trouble if someone hadn't put this in the dryer", immediately followed by "I am also getting fat." I looked at her with a smirk on my face and said, "You are absolutely right...but I didn't put your shirt in the dryer." I immediately got a punch to the stomach and an asshole comment followed by a laugh. I also saw her go down to the gym that night.

SeamusAwl · 2018-03-26T20:32:11+00:00

This was a missed opportunity for some fun AM fogging.

Her: does she look better than me?

You: Not sure, its hard to top you in bed. But we can find out. You can hold the camera.

thunderbeyond · 2018-03-26T20:55:07+00:00

Similar experience in an airport queue when wife says "god look at that girls ass. Is mine that good?"

Hell, now this was heaven in yoga pants. I told her "sure thats a nice ass but you got her beat with the tits" (which was true).

Lighthearted punch and a cheeky smile from the wife and life goes on.

I didn't think I had to lie to my wife about it - she wouldn't have believed me anyway. But I gave her comfort she knows I find her attractive.

UEMcGill · 2018-03-26T20:23:40+00:00

"Right? I remember when you used to try hard. You should try some lipstick like hers maybe that'd work?"

SteelSharpensSteel · 2018-03-26T19:41:11+00:00

If you want to stir the shit, you say "Define looks." or "I'm going to need a second opinion."

But yes, that was a comfort test. A oak response was warranted.

Remember, sometimes you want to stir the shit. But you have to have the frame and SMV beforehand.

Quick note, sometimes when women say this it is a shit test. One of the shittiest of tests, actually. It also depends on your wife's SMV. Here, because she is fat, I'm wagering it is more comfort test.

BostonBrakeJob · 2018-03-26T20:24:56+00:00

Specifically how do you keep competition anxiety without demoralizing progress toward being the girl I want her to be?

I've been negging the ever loving shit out of my wife lately. She doesn't know what the fuck to think about it, and that makes it even more fun for me.

If you can give her a muddy answer and get a genuine kick out of her reaction, then do it. If you push hard ("Eh, you've got some work to do if you wanna catch up with her.") then you better be ready to pull even harder. That, or, spend the next 3 days with a raging bitch (your fault, not hers).

Point is, if you're standing there like the manchurian candidate working a verbal formula it's probably not gonna go so well. Ask me how I know, I was there before here.

If you're legitimately amused by watching her squirm for awhile before releasing that tension then you can say whatever you want. And 9/10 you'll get that competion anxiety, or other positive response, as a bonus to your own amusement. And that 1 time...doesn't really matter. You still had fun.

Did I accomplish this well or was there better ways to do it?

If you are happy with this reaction...

She smiles and a moment later puts her ads against me in line standing close and moving back and forth a little to get me turned on.

...then yes, you could say mission accomplished. Just be cautious for now. You're here asking, which means you're playing with dynamite.

Big_Daddy_PDX · 2018-03-26T22:08:57+00:00

Having a frame in this type of question means not worrying about whether she’s shit testing or not.

I don’t think these are a comfort test if she hasn’t been putting any effort into no longer being fat; so your instinct is correct in that you don’t want to let her off the hook for poor habits. Then respond with “sure she’s hot; but she’s probably going to the gym and working for that ass 3 or 4 times a week”. That way you hold strong with acknowledging that another woman on the planet, that’s actually putting work into her physical appearance, is indeed attractive to you.

If your wife is working really working hard and showing the right behaviors, then this is a comfort test and you want to keep her focused on the things she’s doing correctly. “Sure, she’s cute, but I kind of feel sorry for her. She’s nothing like how you look lately with all the hard work you’ve put in.”

However, in this case, even though you claim your wife is putting in the work, she had to complicate things by comparing herself to this other chick. That is an easy Shit Test that I’d shut down. “You’re asking me if this fit girl in her twenties is cuter than you?!” and I’d chuckle as I’m saying it.

weakandsensitive · 2018-03-26T20:09:30+00:00

I say simply yes babe you look great.

So you lied to her and want a pat on the back? Meh.

mattizie · 2018-03-27T09:03:43+00:00

To me that sounds like the general response when you're just checked out and not listening to what she's saying.

Maybe she was acting that way to get your attention?

ReddJive · 2018-03-29T15:42:54+00:00

Another spin from UEMcGill is:

I love you and I love tacos. Some days I love you more than tacos. Now put your hair back the way I like before I replace you with tacos.

Alphaphux · 2018-03-31T08:29:51+00:00

Was she?

mala_madre · 2018-04-07T08:43:30+00:00

If my girl ask her I either ignore it if I don't want to fight, or tell her "yes".

Then when she gets angry I ask her what she expected and tell her to don't ask stupid questions if she don't want the answer.

Rian_Stone · 2018-03-26T19:26:52+00:00

wife blew up, my fault

Why are her emotions your fault?

[deleted] · 2018-03-26T20:06:24+00:00

I freeze thinking hmm I don't wanna be like no baby your fine and built comfort with her current state which isn't what it could be, she's prob 5-10% over ideal bf. I also don't wanna blow her out by saying no this girl looks better and demoralize her progress on dieting. hamster hamster hamster hamster hamster hamster hamster hamster hamster hamster hamster.

"Nope".

She gets mad? She knows how to fix it.

kendallb183 · 2018-03-26T21:34:38+00:00

I don't like this question. I don't like being asked this question. It's a shitty manipulative tool. The goal is to get you to lie to make her feel better. More insidiously to get you to lie to assert a reality where she is better than she is. Don't.

I've dealt with this a few ways in the past.

"It's either close so it doesn't matter. Or it isn't close and you already know. Don't ask me stupid questions."

"Sure is. And I would totally nail her. Why?"

Title	Is she prettier than me
Author	kendallb183
Upvotes	14
Comments	85
Date	March 26, 2018 7:19 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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