Full disclosure- there will be some "she's and "hers" in here but overall i am trying to work this out for myself.
Trying to completely unplug has been very trying. The more I see the more i hate. And yes there are times that i get mad at the dog for barking and being a dog because some dogs don't bark as much. I am only about 4 months into this whole thing. I started posting in oys, still lift 5 days/wk, 33, 6'3", 200lbs, ~9%bf ,married 9yrs, 3 kids. I have read almost all of the sidebar, listening to some of chateau now. Some of the manipulation and shit tests i am seeing amuse me. I have learned to stfu but at times i dont want to. My anger for the hypergamous behavior seriously pisses me off. I really want to call this shit out when i see it but to what end? I see that this will likely do nothing for me so i resist. For instance, wife went out with a friend last weekend. I really could care less when she goes, i enjoy spending time with my kids without her. She stayed out late and i went to bed. The dogs woke me up around 3am and then shortly after she came home. I believe she was trying to make me jealous telling me that her and friend played the "we are lesbians" game. Undoubtedly to get as much attention as possible. She was telling me what some of them were saying to her in which i replied with something about getting hit on by only losers. We proceeded to fuck into the wee hours of the morning (shitty sex). At first, i ignored the behavior of obviously trying to induce attention but it ate away at me when i thought back on it later. This is where i want to take my anger at her behavior out and essentially tell her she should've gone home with one of them and not come back. It is taking an obvious toll on my day to day, as i really dont want to be around her let alone be friendly. Hoping for some advice to deal with this, is it just anger that i need to accept and deal with? Or is there more going on that i am not seeing?