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Is this something worth addressing?

InconspicuousWand
October 5, 2017
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My LTR is a great girl I have no complaints at all she adds a lot of value to my life and we get along very well. I only have one issue. She entertains her orbiters quite a bit. And when I say entertain. I mean responses. She will say she has a boyfriend say it’s me but she still continues talking to them nothing overboard but still. She doesn’t ignore them. That or I constantly see guy sending her Snapchat. I don’t think she responds but the fact that she has them it’s quite annoying. Also catch her liking pictures on social media. Is this something I should address. It a minor thing that I’m sick of worrying about.

can I also do it in a way that doesn’t seem insecure?

I was thinking about saying “is there a reason you entertain every guy that hits on you? Do you want me to set you up on a date?” But say it playfully.

Or the old “my girlfriend isn’t going to be entertaining every guy who messages her”

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Title Is this something worth addressing?
Author InconspicuousWand
Upvotes 4
Comments 38
Date October 5, 2017 3:25 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit /r/askMRP
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Comments

[–]BluepillProfessorMod / Red Beret8 points9 points  (9 children) | Copy Link

catch her liking pictures on social media. Is this something I should address.

Is THIS what people think MRP is all about? Monitoring social media and policing her 'likes' is not exactly "Alpha."

a way that doesn’t seem insecure

Secretly keylog her accounts and STFU about it. Be prepared for the nudes, the bad talking about you, and most shockingly the egging on and leading on of her Beta orbiters that you will see.

AWALT. More than 50% of women have a "backup husband" in case her current husband doesn't work out.

[–]InconspicuousWand0 points1 point  (7 children) | Copy Link

And I can’t come to terms with that. It makes me ill to my stomach

[–]BluepillProfessorMod / Red Beret2 points3 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Read the book: The Key Logger

It makes you ill because you are still unplugging and still in the early anger / bargaining stage. Once you accept the truth the sick feeling goes away. Sometimes it is replaced by a lonely feeling when you realize the woman is not yours, its just your turn and that also fades with time.

[–]InconspicuousWand0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

Okay I will. In the mean time what the fuck do I do.

It’s stupid to say “my girlfriend isn’t going to be entertaining these guys” I’m assuming. But it’s leaving an uneasy feeling in my stomach. How can I make that go away in the mean time. Or learn to accept this better or accept myself (this insecurity)

[–]BluepillProfessorMod / Red Beret4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

How can I make that go away in the mean time.

You can't in the mean time. You can in the long time.

[–]Red-Curious0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

This.

[–]BostonBrakeJob3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I've been where you are and I can tell you there's no way to bring it up without seeming insecure....bc you are insecure. Women are professional subcommunicaters.

My advice, keep your lips sealed but continue monitoring. Over-exposing yourself to it while you continue to swallow the pill may help with that gut wrenching feeling.

Think of it like weight training. When you start, everything hurts. You ask yourself "Why the fuck am I putting myself through this?". But...after awhile the weight feels lighter. You're body feels better and now you're getting strong as a fucking ox!

This, mixed with going on with the relationship like it's a non-issue, will show you it's not the end of the world. And if you do the work, one day it really won't be an issue for you. You'll realize she's either going to cheat, or she won't and you'll have a plan you can actually follow through with if she does. Self respect is a helluva drug!

edit: Understand, you want to address this with her to sooth your anxiety. And that's the kind of beta behavior that people are clinging to when they first find the red pill. Keep making progress. Don't step on your dick.

[–]drty_prRed Beret1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

You know what cures that feeling in the pit of you stomach? When you rid yourself of oneitus and start getting IOI from any chick you see throughout the day. When you put in the work around here and are now worth a shit. Read, lift, STFU.

Edit: Sp

[–]InconspicuousWand0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yea you’re right I’m too focused on her. I do lift I’m actually jacked as fuck I juice. I do read. I need to stfu

[–]crimson_chris0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

D.U.G. (dick under glass)

[–]Rian_StoneMod / Red Beret7 points8 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

My LTR is a great girl I have no complaints at all

Well, you did have the one. Neat how you can flat out lie and not even notice, eh?

You have one issue. Your issue is scarcity, the rest is a symptom

[–]dcapt461 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Funny how you have no complaints but go on to complain both about her social media habits and hitting on guys around you. D N G A F Be fun but if she pulls obvious shit with other guys in front of you be (legitimately) too busy for her.

[–]InconspicuousWand-1 points0 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Well yes my wording was off. You’re right. I have one.

I don’t think that’s my issue tho. I have abundance I actually have a plate on the side and other girls I can fuck whenever I want. I think it’s more oneitis which is weird to me because I never had that.

I also never dated a girl that entertained orbiters

[–]Rian_StoneMod / Red Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I don’t think that’s my issue tho.

you would be wrong, which is normal. think you're the first guy to have this problem? You probably the 589th in this sub alone.

and the 589 guys who solved it, solved it by being able to replace his woman at the drop of a hat. Keep two in the kiddy. You can find this, and other advice that you don't think is your issue in the sidebar. Try it. I know it's cliche, but it's worth it

[–]SteelToeShitKickerRed Beret4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I also never dated a girl that entertained orbiters

Red flag. Demote to plate.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red5 points6 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Your snowflake is the typical social media validation basic bitch.

Your SMV is not high enough. You reek of Cognitive Dissidence and you are in her frame.

My guess is your early or mid 20's at best?

Who gives a crap about what she does and who she talks to. You need to focus on yourself.

When you date this type of chick its expected. My money is on her having a high N count as well.

Get your shit in order and do a better job on preselection before you ring her or baby her.

[–]InconspicuousWand-2 points-1 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I’m the second person she’s slept with. I know for a fact

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Ok

[–]The_LitzRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yip

[–]SorcererKingMod / Red Beret2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Here we go again.

This is really simple: set a boundary and enforce it. If you don't like her on SnapFuck or whatever, tell her so. Tell her you don't date girls who are validation seeking like that. If she blows up over it, dump her. Period.

If you've got Oneitis, I suggest you call up that plate you claim to have, and make her do some really sick shit with you to help purge that Oneitis. Remember that they're all capable of that, and your little crush is on Snapfuck trying to find someone to do that to her.

In the meantime, review the Principle of Least Interest, as well as the whole rest of the goddamn MRP sidebar.

And be selective about what you post here or on MRP.

[–]InconspicuousWand-1 points0 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Thank you. Thank you. Will do.

My issue with the plate is I’m so tied up in this chick. My sexual interest for the plate isn’t very high. I guess find a new plate?

[–]SorcererKingMod / Red Beret3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Jesus, you really are a train wreck. WHAT DO YOU WANT?

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

His mommy.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I have no complaints at all s

I only have one issue.

Have some internal consistency.

are you lying to yourself or us?

You are an insecure faggot who is concerned about how some THOT is acting.

So which is it cumstain, do you , or do you not have a complaint?

[–]InconspicuousWand-2 points-1 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Just one. Which is obviously. You guys are worst than people giving me shit for miss using their and there.

You knew what I meant

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

how quick are you balls deep in another girl?

[–]ReddJiveRed Beret1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

you've got a lot more issues then you think.

when a woman has an alpha in her life she doesn't entertain orbiters. Attractive women will have orbiters, betas and alphas, alike. Just as Alphas will have women hanging around. This isn't the issue. The issue is how you deal with it.

She knows exactly how to turn off interest and how to maintain it. You give her the reasons either way.

Learn why she does and how to deal with it. Start studying.

Welcome to the war. Because it is. It's full on combat.

[–]InconspicuousWand0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

Okay this makes sense to me because every girl in my past wouldn’t entertain them.

Why do I think she does it? I honestly think she’s insecure and likes the attention from them. She dated a beta loser before me and had been with him for 6 years. Now she got a little taste of freedom and I think she’s enjoying the attention.

What are proper ways to handle it?

[–]ReddJiveRed Beret2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Why should I give up my experience that easily?

research mate guarding. That's about as far you get. It's all there in the sidebar and on /r/marriedredpill

[–]InconspicuousWand-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Oh no I have. I know what it is. I’m just honestly so fucked up by this. I never been this invested in a girl that I’d even care about it this much. It’s confusing to me.

But I also have a fear Bc I seen a guy who didn’t mate guard his girl. And she cheated on him nonstop. He’s still with her and has no idea.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Dread up. Part of what she is doing is possibly trying to get you to commit with the unspoken implication that if you put a ring on it she will change - or something similar. Those are not the terms you want to be in a relationship in. Either make yourself more valuable to her where she is trying to impress you more rather than subjecting you to passive threats if you do not improve to do what she wants.

The power dynamic is way off. You need to fix this before you get any further entangled. Not to say that you need to mate-guard. You need to become more valuable. Maybe you need to end it and work on you to start something else on more favorable terms with somebody else - or you can keep her around and keep working on you until you become attractive enough to her that she knocks the shit off.

[–]Downhere_Seeds1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I had an LTR who used to do this. She might still do it, but she used to be my LTR. Know what I'm saying?

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

You just said you catch your girl liking pictures on social media.

Really? That's what you catch her doing?

can I also do it in a way that doesn’t seem insecure?

You can't because you're insecure as fuck.

[–]tacko2760 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Look stop being such a faggy little shit monkey. Worrying about this shit is a complete wast of fucking time Your frame is cow shit on a hot day. Work on that.... Any worth while girl will have orbiters That is why we have plates Stop mate grading In fact just stop giving a fuck Go lift and work on being more awesome

[–]MRP-Sucker0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

I know from your first 2 sentences you are trying to polish up a turd.

[–]InconspicuousWand0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

😂

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