It's funny, I started this journey in an effort to become a better husband and in the process quickly realized that I needed to be a better man. 37, married 9 years with 2 kids ages 4 and 6. For the past 4 years my wife has suffered from anxiety/depression and its hurt our marriage and specifically our bedroom. I wouldn't say I was full beta during the last 4 years but I was definetly walking on egg shells and cared more about how she was feeling then how I was feeling.
I read NMMNG and then MMSP and I just started the rational male. I've been lifting/working out and lost 10 lbs in 3 weeks (down to 190). So I am ready to dive into TRP.
My question for the group is what should I be concentrating on when interacting with my wife knowing that anxiety and depression could appear at any moment? This seems like a slippery slope knowing that I have needs that need met at the same time.
When she's down she isn't necessarily bitchy to just me she's bitchy to anyone around her, including the kids. She knows it's an issue and is in therapy but she's half assing it and doesn't go as much as she should. Anyways, I'll stop rambling. Thx in advance for any feedback and I am really excited to be a part of this group.