Knowing the path and walking the path

stoicstephen · 2019-07-31T10:43:37+00:00

The problem here is that your mission was to improve your marriage.

Now that there is no marriage, there is no mission.

Without a mission there is no motivation to improve and evolve.

Get a mission, preferably one that is not dependent on other people.

tspitsatgp · 2019-07-30T23:25:23+00:00

The thing is that you are going to feel shit no matter what you do, so you might as well focus on doing the “right” things while you feel shit, instead of compounding that shit feeling by continuing your drunk captain habits.

That means continue to lift, eat well, get sleep, socialise, be a good father, educate yourself, etc.

Use this solo time to rebuild, learning from your past mistakes.

BuddhaGorilla · 2019-07-31T00:51:54+00:00

Posted today in /r/stoicism:

"You cry 'I am feeling severe pain.' Are you then relieved from feeling it if you bear it in an unmanly way?" - Seneca, Moral Letters.

The manly path is that way —->

red-sfpplus · 2019-07-30T23:32:18+00:00

I'm stumbling around drunk in the fucking bushes

Welcome to the party pal!

Taipanshimshon · 2019-07-30T23:43:45+00:00

You sound like a guy to whom things happen.

.you should try to be the guy who happens to things

MrChad_Thundercock · 2019-07-31T02:28:41+00:00

Would Chad find it acceptable?

We each have two lives... the second one begins when you realize that you only have one.

Get to work faggot.

simbarlion · 2019-07-30T23:02:30+00:00

Is it acceptable to slip up for a short time to grieve over the corpse of my old family life?

Yes, any man must be able to reflect on mistakes and make changes. Its the rebuilding that counts. Rian Stone u/RStonePT/ talks often of burning it down, rebuilding V2.0 (or 3.0) better than ever.

Get busy.

screechhater · 2019-07-31T00:54:45+00:00

You are prime example of turning the gas up to quick to boil the frog. “Slowly” turn up the heat. Most of all STFU.

Reset. Take stock and move forward.

Your mangina assessment of the situation tells me you really have not got it and you are prone to rinse and repeat.

Lift. STFU to your own hamster and getvon with your life.

Instilling MRP is not hard. STFU when you want to persuade someone to jump on your idea of MRP is.

helaughsinhidden · 2019-07-31T00:01:23+00:00

Is it acceptable....

Sure. Take as long as you need sweetie, you deserve it. Get some wine, chocolate bon-bons, put on Lifetime movies for a couple years. You are a strong independent woman and don't need no man! snap snap

unnaturalcontrol · 2019-07-31T02:56:10+00:00

Yes, it’s ok to grieve. Yes, you’re a pussy. u/BuddhaGorilla said “The manly path is that way ———>” Notice the arrow is pointed forward,not backwards

FlyingSexistPig · 2019-07-31T04:19:57+00:00

Go ahead and grieve. My girl recently left me.

I'm so happy she's gone. I have plans, and I can implement those plans now.

But I still had to take a couple of days to grieve. And this was just a girlfriend, not my wife.

Take the time you need to process your feelings.

Rogue68486 · 2019-07-31T05:11:16+00:00

Your biggest risk is being beta and recreating the same dynamic in your next gig

Who are you?

We determine this when the chips are down. Not when we're winning.

This is not an either or

Take some time for yourself and do RP activities.

ReddJive · 2019-07-31T12:08:40+00:00

Another tragic hero of his self created problems.

I want to make one point clear.

The failure of OPs marriage isn't indicative of anything. His mindset is. He's clearly navel gazing and needs to get his dick out of the dirt.

We'd like to say because he's divorcing he didn't do it right and that may be. He may have pushed the car over the edge. He also may not have.

MRP saves the man not the marriage. He may have been too beta too long for her to accept anything else from him.

There's a slow debate about how much is a man's fault. The promarriage movement within the manosphere would like us to beleieve every failure is ours. Probably true when you are first starting out but it is equally egotistical to believe you are the sole lynchpoint of success and failure as it is to say everyone is fucking things up.

When you no longer expect the world to be as you wish but accept it for what it truly is, then you will know with certain that some things are not your problem.

Either I'm right or it truly won't be your problem any longer.

Imaginary_Historian · 2019-07-30T23:17:49+00:00

I am not sure you did this right. Sounds like you went Rambo on her and blew up the marriage. Not saying this is a bad thing necessarily.

Well, there is another possibility. Was your wife psycho?

I know AWALT but in my experience, some women do not respond well to RP. The ones I have encountered like this, though, are psycho in the first place. And by that I don't mean normal psycho (as all women are a bit nuts) or even most out on the fringes, but real psychos, like actual diagnosable mental health conditions.

Don't get me wrong, as I think that true psycho women are still fundamentally attracted to RP, but some are just too psycho to deal with it and they crack.

40mullet · 2019-07-31T09:10:08+00:00

You learned only to dodge bullets. You are nowhere near where you don´t have to.

BobbyPeru · 2019-07-31T00:44:40+00:00

Put your foot back on the gas and grieve simultaneously. Having a pity party won’t solve anything

johneyapocalypse · 2019-07-30T22:52:48+00:00

Butch up you fucking pussy.

umizumiz · 2019-07-31T12:03:23+00:00

The stoics are correct in this.

abratoki · 2019-07-31T12:19:11+00:00

Time will pass anyway no matter what you do. You will get older, wrinklier and the number of days on this earth will diminish.

What do YOU want to do with your time now? Do you want to grieve? Thats OK. Do you want to do something that is RP. You probably should.

Ultimately RP teaches you that you get to do what the fuck you want to do, but if you do DO it at least be fucking deliberate about it.

lololasaurus · 2019-07-31T14:19:52+00:00

You didn't do enough because you did it for the wrong judge. Do it for you. Fix yourself, and the marriage might come along.

I do know this is easier said than done but that's why it's hard work.

Hit the sidebar. Lift. Fix you. Go. Fight. Win. ----->

Tbonesupreme · 2019-08-02T19:34:06+00:00

I hope you had a written custody agreement entered with the courts BEFORE you moved out of the house. If not, you fucked yourself.

No, your kids don't need to see a sparring match between parents... but that's not as bad as having a whiny pussy for a father.

Man up. Go lift something heavy. Fuck whores. Get into a fist fight. SOMETHING other what you're doing now.

ice_walker · 2019-08-04T18:07:05+00:00

You can grieve while you lift. You can grieve while you read. You can grieve while you cook healthy meals. You can grieve while you go out for beer with mates. You can grieve while you pay bills and set up your budget. And the list goes on...

Title	Knowing the path and walking the path
Author	Awakeningof17
Upvotes	20
Comments	33
Date	July 30, 2019 10:50 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askMRP
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