Long term attractive women without oneitis for them

March 15, 2019

Hey MRP,

now a year after looking into TRP/MRP, I have one thing in mind, I wanted some feedback on.

A few years back I had a girl, where I did everything right according to book. The effect was, that she did a lot of stuff for me. Was down to fck when ever I wanted. Invested a lot. And I trusted her.

Now after 3 years LTR, I grew bored of her and ended the relationship. It was just no more flame burning inside me.

To TRP I came because of an oneitis, I couldn't get enough from. It destroyed me (in the time I let it), but I was addicted.

Now after I navigated through both experiences... and reading all here. Do you settle for a woman you trust and stuff, even the feelings aren't there? I can hardly imagine this really working out. What I would look for, would be a match between both, but I know I can only do the right thing, if I'm not overly attached... So atm I'm confused about what is the right long term plan for this? Just switch every few years? Could work, but I'm not sure if I get fullfiled by that, as I like the concept of doing something to complete mastery...

How are your thought about this?

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Title Long term attractive women without oneitis for them
Author teabagabeartrap
Upvotes 14
Comments 23
Date March 15, 2019 7:42 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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[–]simbarlionRed Beret12 points13 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Hmm there is a song about wanting what you can't have.

And another about how you can't always get what you want.

But if you try sometimes.....

[–]FereallyRedHard Core Red4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

And you may find yourself

Behind the wheel of a large automobile

And you may find yourself in a beautiful house

With a beautiful wife

And you may ask yourself, well

How did I get here?

[–]RPWolfAlpha_as_Wolf_2.08 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Chase excellence not pussy and the right girl will find you...or she won't but that won't matter because you will be living your life on your terms.

[–]0io-Tsundere8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You might like blackdragons blog. He does multiple long-term open relationships. It seems to work for him.

At some point you may decide you want to focus on family life, which is kind of fun in it's own right. You'll still need all the MRP tools to keep it going. Because of all the legal crap in the West you're probably still better off not getting married. But having kids and raising them can be a big part of life, and very fulfilling.

But after 20 years your hot girlfriend or wife is not going to be as hot as she was 20 years ago. And there will be new 20 year olds who are much hotter if you just want to have sex for fun. That never really goes away.

I don't know how old you are, but you could be a player through your 20's, have a kid at 30, focus on being dad for 10 or 20 years and then go back to being a player again after the kid has grown up, or just stay at home if you're happy doing that.

Ultimately it's about what is going to make you happy. There's no real "answer" that works for everybody. Having blue-pilled delusions about how everything will just work out is not a good strategy though. If you want to have a family and have a sex life you're really going to have to stay on top of your game a lot more than you would as a single guy. It's definitely hard-mode.

[–]JameisBong6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

If she doesn't make your dick hard it won't work out long term...women can pick up on this.Leave her alone and hit the gym.

[–]The_LitzRed Beret4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

> Just switch every few years?

Are you worried you will get married and there is still someone better out there that you haven't met yet?

There will always be someone better,younger,hotter and tighter out there. If you want to choose someone own your decision. Don't second guess yourself.

You are on the right track though, YOU are the one choosing your mate, not the other way around.

You sound young, no rush. Go forth and get to know women young man!

[–]teabagabeartrap[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thank you a lot for your answer.

I started to write multiple answers, but every one made me answer my questions by itself while writing... You helped making someone happy today!

[–]Tbonesupreme2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I'm most attracted to dysfunction.

Bi-polar artsy chicks give me unending wood.

I had to work hard for normal women to feel normal, if that makes sense.

Attraction is just ONE component. I went for less attraction and more of everything else, and I'm far happier.

Plus, I enjoy making a "normal" girl into my own personal whore.

[–]red_matrix1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

If there’s no fire or desire you have to walk. Relationships are hard work for a reason, but you have to love her to keep her long term, otherwise you WILL stray and cheat. Most men aren’t wired for monogamy and you can’t force desire.

[–]shouldergirdle1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You asked for what is the right long term plan, so I will tell you. 1) don't get anyone pregnant and 2)don't marry anyone. As long as you don't do those two things then you can do whatever you want with whoever you want, experiment, explore all that life has to offer. Enjoy the journey.

[–]James18321 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I married a thunderbolt. Model gorgeous. Big heart. Daddy issues. Just my type.

Been together 10 years with 3 kids. Shes still slamming although were experiencing some slowdown in the sex dept

Point is do not settle. If things dont work out. I will attract another stunner. Physical attraction has to be there imo

[–]SorcererKingMod / Red Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This sounds to me like you want us to do value selection for you. Whether you spin plates forever or pick one and stick with her, YOU have to decide if that's what YOU want. Figure out what you value and what you really want from women, and get that.

[–]Cali-Bruh1 point2 points  (6 children) | Copy Link


[–]SBIIIRed Fucking Commando5 points6 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

He wants to know how to "do mrp" without doing the sidebar.

[–]teabagabeartrap[S] 5 points6 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

nope, he actually read the sidebar. deida, pook, the trp stuff complete.

to be more clear: I got the feeling it taught me how to be successful and do it perfectly on paper. but from my own feeling perspective it feels shallow. The stuff that hurt felt better. But hurt.
my question is more like a: is there really a middle ground in between? or do you settle for "there is no love from a woman but my mother, but that is ok, I accept it and live the best life I can get"?

[–]RedPillCoach1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

is there really a middle ground in between? or do you settle

Life is a perpetual settlement. Every day. Every hour.

You should take careful consideration that what you feel is a loss of limerence- that first excitement of new pussy smell. If that is what you have lost you should definitely consider settling because that is the best it gets.

On the other hand, sometimes a relationship ONLY has limerence and once it is gone so is the relationships. Torrid affairs and cheating tends to be like this.

I assume you are trying to decide on a woman you care for but are not as attracted as you were when you were in limerence. Proceed very cautiously else you regret your rash decisions for the rest of your life.

[–]BarracudaRP1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

(I) actually read the sidebar. deida, pook, the trp stuff complete

a year after looking into TRP/MRP

I call bullshit. You have not internalized RP, you want to come to Fight Club and just watch. Fine, but here's the answer you should already know:

"there is no love from a woman but my mother, but that is ok, I accept it and live the best life I can get"?

Yup. Until the day you realize that AWALT applies to mommy too.

[–]CrazyLegs780 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

So, yeah. Everything you said here is my experience. Before MRP I was blindly in love with my wife, she could do no wrong and all I did was what society had told me to do. Now, it's just like your last sentence. It's a little sad, but the first time you get screwed over really good, you get over it.

[–]JameisBong-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link


[–]donmcde1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

It sounds like you're looking for the kind of love described in romance novels where the 'spark' is always there and the burning passion never dies. It just doesn't seem to exist in that form in the real world. Get to know what you want out of a mate. Learn what your non-negotiables are and what your nice-to-have traits are. Find somone who meets all of your non-negotiables and some of your nice-to-have traits and go long term (if you want to). If you want to make sure you snag a woman in the 99th percentile, you'll never be happy because as someone pointed out, you can always find somone smarter, hotter, thinner, fitter and with a higher sex drive. Know what you want and when you find it and willing to commit, do it. Arranged marriages work because the more time you spend with someone, the closer you'll grow. There grass looks greener where it is tended.

[–]teabagabeartrap[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

and willing to commit


I was looking for the experiences and common opinion of this, if I understood it right.

So basically everybody tells "seek with the brain, not the feelz" and then it will work out fine. So far, the times I did this, I grew bored after a few years. Even it was a 99% girl. That's why I had the urge to ask.
Had a girl that was good looking and all, but I started after 10 years of absence to play video games again, because my time with her bored me...
I'm back to personal growth and doing more meaningful things. But was unsure if seeking someone only with the brain really works and what the users here experienced...

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

You didn’t dump her she dumped you.

Go lament somewhere else. Perhaps /r/relationships would be better.


[–]SorcererKingMod / Red Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

You're the most sensitive whiney-bitch detector we have. What did you see here?

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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