Lot to unpack here

UEMcGill · 2021-04-02T13:20:30+00:00

No thanks. Not for AskMRP.

Redrover857 · 2021-04-02T10:08:17+00:00

Man as a father and a man that’s very close to your age this post makes me kind of sad. You are a 33 year old financially secure man, not tied down by anyone or anything. You have the whole world by the balls, you just have to grow some yourself and do something with it. First of all, I have no idea how you are that weak. 130 lbs bench press is pathetic. This sub loves to preach low body fat levels but you need to eat some food and put on some size and strength. You aren’t strong enough for PPL, you need to be on a linear progression until you start to stall which seems like you might have figured out. Hell you don’t even have to stall, just get to a respectable level of strength. Other than lifting the important thing is you do things that you like and are important to you, if you figure out how to enjoy your life in addition to lifting and dressing better the women will follow. Don’t do it for them though, do it for yourself. In a few years you’ll look back and think to yourself why in the world did I even want that girl in the first place. I know several men around our age that are divorced and bettered themselves afterwards. They will joke and laugh about how they were ever so pathetic that they were ever married to that woman. They seriously can’t believe that’s who they used to beg for sex, Bc they wouldn’t touch them with a 10 foot pole now. I wouldn’t give the woman in your post another thought. The idea you fucked up your adult life is insane, you already have freedom and money, those are huge. So many 33 year old men would kill for either of those, much less both. But very few would kill for those lifts..Your first step should be to really focus on lifting and stop feeling so fucking sorry for yourself.

jellysquat · 2021-04-02T10:30:52+00:00

Not sure why you're posting in the married TRP, you will get more appropriate responses in asktrp.

RedRovers comment is bang on. That you are financially secure and single, most guys would kill for that, at 33 it's even better.

If you focus on the bad that's what you'll see. Some men NEVER become TRP aware and you could have married that girl and be stuck with a kid. It can always be worse.

When you talk to yourself you can do it in 2 ways, fight or flight "I'm such a fucking idiot for wasting my life", or a COACH "well that didn't go as planned, let's learn from it and figure out what's next". Be a coach.

I feel like it's your thought patterns and emotions that are really challenging you. I very strongly recommend practicing meditation. Download headspace and do the basics course, 1 session a day. Happy to give further advice.

Tyred_Biggums · 2021-04-02T12:47:32+00:00

I am in I need literal hand holding to move forward.

You’re in the wrong place. We help those who want to help themselves. No one is giving you a reach around here.

TRP knowledge used focusing on getting a single girl. Then being heartbroken when she dumped you.

Onenitis - check

Don’t think you can find someone else and depressed since you lost her

Scarcity - check

No motivation anymore that you lost the girl

External validation - check

Go shut the fuck up, read the MRP sidebar, continue to lift, forget about the “one” and improve your own life. Go find some strange as a short term fix to your lack of being a man.

simbarlion · 2021-04-02T10:20:34+00:00

Get the fuck out of your own head Mr. Random - sort your shit out then learn to back yourself, especially in the sack.

Title	Lot to unpack here
Author	RandomDude11111
Upvotes	11
Comments	7
Date	April 2, 2021 9:26 AM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askMRP
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