LTR has made a point to tell me i never compliment her.

rathalos1 · 2016-05-18T13:03:05+00:00

You're a fucking idiot.

EDIT

To be a better moderator I will expand on my immediate emotional response which was pure disgust and disappointment.

You have a wife/GF/whatever - it is your job to lead her. Not just towards personal and professional growth, ensuring she is striving to be better each day - but also that her inner 'self' is developed as well.

It is your job to ensure she knows that you find her beauty captivating.

It is your job to ensure that she is 'rewarded' for the efforts she puts in.

It is your job to ensure that she is developing a strong mental foundation from which she can build her inner empire.

You want this woman to produce kids someday? How can she confidently raise strong kids if her man hasn't made her a strong individual.

She is telling you that she needs that from you and you aren't delivering because reddit?!?!? what in the actual fuck.

Give attention, compliments, and your time when it is deserved. It seems this woman deserves the time and attention and you're just being a dick.

This shit isn't just about sex, physical appearance, or making her 'submit'.

It's about inspiring all of that to happen inside her and for her to want to do those things with you.

You know why my wife is the way she is? Because I've fucking led her to that point.

Lead your woman and fucking listen when she's telling you that you're lacking in an area. From there you can decide whether it is comfort or shit test. whether she is fishing for compliments or is actually becoming disheartened at the lack of attention.

Do what works in your relationship and don't follow TRP to a T as it needs to be catered to the relationship, not the other way around.

EDITx2

Because I wasn't done.

Do all of these things out of genuine desire. Don't fucking fake it, she will recognize that immediately.

Tell her you like the way her neck looks when her hair is up. Kiss her neck and show her specifically where you are looking and why.

Her necklace, shoes, dress, shirt, whatthefuckever* if it does it for you, fucking tell her. She is a woman, she is the light of this world with her feminine beauty. Keep that light shining by making her feel beautiful and that she is pleasing her man.

Keep being an unresponsive dick and she'll find someone else who makes her feel.

rathalos1 · 2016-05-17T22:46:36+00:00

Damn her with faint praise huh? Seems pretty fucking stupid to me. You should praise her for doing things that you want her to do.

Physical beauty is part of the genetic lottery but does she make the most of herself? Does she look good and does she make a particular effort to look good for you?

Think about all the guys on here griping about how their wives are fat slobs who don't care about their appearance or grooming.

Don't be so fucking stingy man. If she looks good, hot, sexy as fuck or however you like, then speak up occasionally for fucks sake. Otherwise she may think you don't care if she takes to wearing some old house coat rag and stops getting her hair done.

Personally, I never stinted on telling my wife (and now my girlfriend) that she looked sexy or fine as hell because I wanted her to know it mattered to me and that I noticed and I want to live in a house coat free zone. Lol

sexyshoulderdevil · 2016-05-17T22:52:28+00:00

If you think she looks nice, say it.

Also, try being more intricate with any compliments.

Mention her earrings were a great choice. Put your hand up and gently touch her earrings. Give her a kiss...

Compliment how the dress she picked really looks nice on her. Slide your hand along the small of her back. Give her a kiss...

Notice how she did her hair one time and tell her how hot she looks with it that way. Put your hand under her chin. Give her a kiss...

Admire her if you admire her. Tell her she's admired. She wants to be desired. Desire her...IF you desire her. If you don't desire her...well...hmmm....

druganswer · 2016-05-18T16:07:21+00:00

how often does she tell you how hot you look? is she always complimenting your muscles? etc.

either way it's a shit test. she may have a point and you may want to start saying something if you notice it "that dress looks great on you" or whatever. But in this exact instance it is absolutely a shit test no matter what these guys are saying. She wants your validation and not complimenting her beauty (because that is what EVERYONE but you notices about her) raises your value in her eyes... but of course she wants comfort but the comfort will absolutely lower attraction.

Show her you think she's hot with your actions.. but if there is an outfit, hairstyle, etc that really does it for you make sure she knows that you like it.

2016-05-18T13:53:23+00:00

I read here to ignore appearances and compliment actions.

I think you may have misconstrued, ignore what she says, pay attention to what she does.

I absolutely love my wife's tits, and I make sure she catches me looking.

In case you don't want to actually say anything, you can still compliment her.

But I agree with others, let her know you appreciate the efforts she makes to look good for you.

plein_old · 2016-05-17T23:05:07+00:00

I think a woman feels beautiful, on every level, when she feels loved and desired (i.e. fucked good) by a man she loves and respects.

Self-consciously trying to compliment a woman's looks, in order to please her, if it doesn't feel natural & right to you in the moment... I dunno bout that.

Maybe the answer is "agree and amplify". Make a joke about it next time it comes up. The key is to make her feel loved by your actions, not by verbal proclamations or speeches or whatever, which I think mean relatively little to most women, in spite of what they may say.

On the other hand, if you like an outfit she puts on, I don't see a problem in saying so.

cj_aubrey · 2016-05-19T16:05:33+00:00

She's complaining about a lack of emotional availability from you. Shower her with compliments after she does things (sex, sweet wifey shit) that you want to encourage.

2016-05-18T15:29:50+00:00

We say here that: Women want attention, and men want sex.

But I think its even fundamental that: Women want to be desired, and men want respect.

Seriously, think about what respect means to you... when someone you admire gives you an attaboy, when your opinion alone is what carries an argument, or just the self-respect you feel from doing something really well. As a man, respect is how you measure your place among your peers.

A woman wants to be noticed. She wants to be chased. She wants to feel like the prize. That's candy to her. It's what women who have emotional affairs are looking for. It's what gives her tingles -- way more than dread or her place in the social pecking order. It's ingrained at a deep level because its the measure of how much power she has over men.

So just fucking show her that you desire her.

BluepillProfessor · 2016-05-18T01:50:53+00:00

I've avoided complimenting her appearance though. "You look nice" is probably as far as i go.

This makes no sense. Why wouldn't you tel your woman she is beautiful? Try this: Next time you fuck her, after you blow your wad, cup her face in your hands, gently kiss her, and tell her how beautiful she is right now.

Title	LTR has made a point to tell me i never compliment her.
Author	rathalos1
Upvotes	11
Comments	23
Date	May 17, 2016 10:06 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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