Make new couple friends?

helaughsinhidden · 2018-08-13T16:34:02+00:00

Here you go.

Find cool shit in your area that YOU like to do. Concerts, hiking, boating, sporting events, stand up comedians, movies, bbq, cars n coffee, gambling, wine tasting, restaurants, golfing, under water basket weaving (jk), etc. Not here to judge what you do, but just find something you and your wife think is fun and keep it in mind, like with your memory.
As you live your life, make small talk with other humans part of your normal activities. Practice often so you don't sound like Data from Star Trek. Ask questions, nod agree, ask more questions as they talk and mention anything of interest.
When you identify something they say interesting, ask what kind of shit they like to do regarding that topic. Example; they mention the word handicap and aren't in a wheelchair. You ask "are you a golfer?". He says "Yeah, but not really good" You say, "Me either, but they let you drink and drive, right!". He laughs, you tell an anecdotal story of a golf thing that you did.
Then you mention your wife likes to come with but just to drive the cart, so you say something like "We were thinking of going to a new course next week, how about you join?".
Give absolutely no shits about his wife and your wife getting along. If you do, you are living in her frame. Plus, most women do not like each other, so just drag them along anyway.

johneyapocalypse · 2018-08-13T16:24:51+00:00

If you have kids, then parents of other kids are front-runners.

If you have kids, then clubs and sports are fantastic options; your participation is great for both you and your kids.

Otherwise - kids or not - there are a few things I've noticed over time:

Be thoughtful. The most popular people I know are thoughtful. They remember birthdays, they remember events, they create events. They go out of their way to be in your face, especially when it's important for you.
Take initiative. The most popular people I know take initiative, they don't wait to be called, they do the calling.
Be stimulating. The most popular people I know ask questions and stimulate conversation. They challenge you to use your mind.
Be charismatic. The most popular people I know are charismatic. They light up a room.
Be active. The most popular people I know are very active. They go places and do things. Cool places and cool things. As a result, they meet lots of other people, often like-minded people.
Be a connector. The most popular people I know connect people. The more people the better. Super connectors are impressive specimens of life.
Achieve power. The very most popular people I know are all those things above and powerful, too. Wealthy, successful, and generally ahead-of-the-game. They seem to have the world at their proverbial fingertips, and people are attracted to them.

iloveairplane · 2018-08-13T16:28:58+00:00

groupon type activities (wine tours, wine and painting classes, sunset cruises, concerts, segway tours, progressive dinner tours, etc - usually have couples). Church (if you go). PTO and kids sport involvement (if you have kids).

Lead your wife and demonstrate your high value by being the one who introduces yourself to the other people in the group and introducing them to her.

Raise your "hang out value" by doing exciting things often and inviting others to join often. (also wearing deodorant helps)

justpickanyusername · 2018-08-13T15:57:09+00:00

First off, why do they have to be "couple friends"?

If only there were a sidebar book that talked about how to win friends and influence people.

RedPill-BlackLotus · 2018-08-14T06:43:15+00:00

Just be interested in people, they can talk for hours and hours about themselves.

The same rule applies to people that applies to females. Watch their actions and you can tell what their desires are.

Someone into fitness will be carrying their food. Someone into golf will have a faggy glove or a set of gold clubs. They might have golf magazines around their desk. That's why people suggest you going to places you are interested in to look for friends.

I read it somewhere and it's stick in my head and has proven true by my life experience.

Stop worrying about being interesting and more about being interested.

Ask people questions and actually listen to what they say, don't use the time they are talking to try and think of something cool to say. Actually listen.

Don't think about YOU getting friends.

And fuck your god dam wife. Leave that woman at home. Make some male friends outside of your marriage. The way your post is written you sound like a blue pill pussy faggot.

You want to spend more time with your wife? Wtf~~~

nantucketghost · 2018-08-16T03:00:31+00:00

I think it’s really depends on your age. As you get older your friends constantly change. Most people I know or hang out with today revolve around where I live. We have three or four really good neighbors who live in the area we do things with now and then.

Of course as I have moved the people I used to hang out with I no longer see. Not by choice, but mostly due to convenience.

Another great way to meet people or through clubs

BostonBrakeJob · 2018-08-13T16:35:52+00:00

What is the redpill version of increasing your value for friendship?

Imo, it's all the same...friendships and relationships. I have a pretty new friend that has complained about his old buddies never coming around, not staying in touch and so on. It was pretty off putting when he started in on me with the whole "I never hear from ya" bs. Comes across as needy and makes even the thought of hanging out with him exhausting.

I also have lifelong friends that go MONTHS without hearing a word from me. When we all get together though, we pick right up where we left off.

Don't be needy. Hang out and have a good time. Do your own thing while they're doing theirs. As far as making new friends, the possibilities are endless, but the rules of engagement are all the same. Be an attractive, not unattractive, friend lol.

CalvinRichland · 2018-08-13T17:00:58+00:00

For me it has been a lot of luck. Find a dude you like doing stuff with in your same life phase and then test out the girls together and see if they get along. If it works out they will take over a lot of the social planning.

WolfofAllStreetz · 2018-08-14T12:31:29+00:00

Am I the only person not looking for new friends?

If you both own your own businesses you must come into contact with a lot of people. I can't imagine asking if they want to do something at night would be difficult. They perhaps may think you are swingers however.

lostinpatagonia · 2018-09-07T21:40:35+00:00

I am really starting to see the value in befriending people(couples) that are older than me(us). If you pick them right, the wisdom and the maturity that comes from them helps you grow and get your shit tighter. I also have firsthand experience about what happens when you start befriending couple that don't have their shit together, their instability can rub off on you and your partner. So CHOOSE the couples you want to befriend.

StandardDeparture · 2018-08-13T16:04:55+00:00

I'd say try planning things far enough out that they can make it - if they're still flaking on even small commitments, it might be a different conversation to have with them about your friendship.

As far as making new friends - follow the same rules as making individual friends. MeetUp, find couples-related classes/activities to do and meet people there, etc.

MrChad_Thundercock · 2018-08-13T17:20:45+00:00

Gay post.

How do I make friends mommy?

Title	Make new couple friends?
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Date	August 13, 2018 3:43 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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