6'2" 175lbs, Early 30's, married for 1yr, together for 4yrs, No kids. Lift heavy 3times a week.
My wife and I had a fight about 4 months ago due to our infrequent sex life. During the fight, she asked me "Will you still marry me if I had told you we won't have sex during the marriage" and I responded with a NO. She flipped my response and started crying that I married her for sex. She even made the same claim to a therapist during our visit and also threatened to tell our family and friends the same. This falsehood got me really infuriated.
We eventually had to sit down a few days later to resolve our issues(at least so I thought). But since then, she tries avoiding talking to me by any means possible.
For example,
Even though her company allows remote work, she still would prefer to go in every day and when she gets back in the evening, she only wants to talk for a few minutes, and then she goes into her room to be on her phone and TV. (Note: we sleep in different rooms because of my snoring)
During her off days, she would leave the house sometimes around 9-10 AM and not get back till about 5-6 PM claiming she was at Starbucks and also doing shopping.
Whenever we are going on a dinner date or event together, she would be so quiet in the car and would barely have conversations with me. However, once we get to the restaurant/event, she becomes lively, laughing and talking. Once we start heading back home, the cold attitude continues.
This behavior is really affecting me psychologically and I try not to let it show outwardly. Our sex life has gotten worst even after the therapy session and multiple discussions and I am losing patience.
I am beginning to suspect she might be cheating on me even though she does not appear like the kind of woman to do something like that. Sometimes, I am tempted to want to check her phone even though I know that's wrong.
How do you guys suggest I approach this issue?
Thanks in advance for your candid responses!
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This woman lies, twists facts around and manipulates you + others around you. And you don't think she has the capacity to cheat on you? Really?
Her going into the office instead of working from home shouldn't be an issue with you. I like and love my wife, but the thought of being home with her 24/7 would make me go fucking nuts man.
All the other shit you mention is a serous problem. You've only been married for 1 year. You don't have a wife. You have a roommate. You have the type of marriage some of my friends have after 20 years.
A part of me thinks you did a shitty job vetting this woman. The other part thinks you're a shitty leader who allows problems early on to fester into the larger problems you see today. We don't know, but we do know this couldn't have happened just overnight.
If by chance this was a 180 on her part, move on quickly.
Your time, attention and energy are the most valuable things you have in life as a man. Don't go wasting it on women who don't value it. Don't squander it. Be selfish and put yourself first. Always.
You're in your early 30's and still have your life ahead of you. No alimony, no child support. You have all the options in the world. There's 4 billion other women on this planet, but most of them will also give you problems unless you become better at vetting, leading or both.
Don't use MRP to try and fix a situation that addresses your woman's baggage. Use MRP to fix your own baggage that allowed you to enter into this situation that you may have helped cultivate what it is today.
Sidebar, lift, build your empire.
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