Older MRP: was it worth it?

2ndal · 2018-09-20T17:18:20+00:00

If you're expecting her tests to stop you're looking at it wrong. I've been quoting Deida a ton lately. Here goes again.

The feminine part of your woman is either opening in loving surrender (easy moments) or closing in what ends up being an emotional test of your capacity to open her (difficult moments). This cycle of the feminine is like all cycles in nature: it never ends. The sooner you learn to embrace and dance with these moods of closure, the sooner both of you will grow beyond the psychodrama and see the humor of the play.

The game of life is to find each situation workable, to transform each occasion through the magnification of love, to give your fullest gift in every moment, and to have no attachments to the outcome, knowing it’s all going to rise and fall and rise again.

But the dark masculine energy has been suppressed so thoroughly these days that the ordinary man would prefer to paste a smile on his bored face, rather than penetrate his woman’s tension with uncompromising love. And he’s just as cautious about disrupting his own well-planned life of comfort and security in order to penetrate his own fear of death.

Her gift, if she is a good woman, is to test you with her darkest moods, over and over and over, until your consciousness is unperturbed by feminine challenge, and you are able to pervade her with your love, just as you are here to pervade the world.

If one of your highest goals is psychological or spiritual freedom, then you will highly value your intimacy. Nobody will press your buttons or reflect your asshole to you better than your woman. She will point out your weaknesses better than a boot camp drill sergeant. She will reflect your ambiguity or clarity better than any workshop teacher. She will do you better than a whore and give you more loving than you can handle. And all the while she will shower your life with radiant blessing, healing, and enlivenment—if she learns to own her true feminine desires and you learn to own your true masculine desires.

-- The Way of the Superior Man

Big_Daddy_PDX · 2018-09-20T19:00:21+00:00

Worth is relative. I married the wrong woman for the wrong reasons and then stayed with her for 15yrs and two kids. I added MRPl and realized that I was getting great benefits, but she was still atrocious. The realization that you could be stuck with a low-value harpy for the rest of your life is pretty sober. So, I ditched the Ex and ended up with a HB9 that's 15yrs younger. It's amazing how different a relationship can be if you start it with a good woman and you implement RP principles from the beginning.

Edit: it should be obvious, but wow, youth is an amazing aphrodisiac. Now I understand why it’s so common to see guys with younger girls.

MrPurplePoison · 2018-09-20T20:12:12+00:00

It is currently.*

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justpickanyusername · 2018-09-20T17:20:32+00:00

Does it matter? If I tell you yes will it make you stay? If I tell you no will you divorce?

She can follow along if she chooses. You can move on if you choose. You will likely find success stories with those who have stayed and those who have left. The only real promise here is that you will come out ahead either way. You will either exit a bad marriage or rekindle it with a happier more submissive woman.

straius · 2018-09-20T19:22:45+00:00

Only answer to if it worth it is one you'll define for yourself of what you want.

Becoming the leader you need to be is the only way to figure that out while also figuring out where the ceiling might be for your wife on the key areas you find important.

Some people get divorced. Some get to exactly where they want to be. Some don't but decide their orienting principle is around their children and they make do with what they have. Some get big improvements and divorce anyway because they discover Monogamy itself isn't for them.

RPAlternate42 · 2018-09-21T07:46:43+00:00

Worth it?

She's not a bad wife or mother and she never was. For me, it was just the sex, but once I accepted that my attraction drives her desire, I focused on that more than anything. So I improved my attitude and mood, and removed the covert contracts, and I was in fine shape before RP, but now I lifted too. I got bigger, more defined, and stronger, and as everything improved, so did her attraction of me.

So for me, it was easy, just stop being shit head and be bigger. Done. And I continue to do so.

But even if she was like her sister (lazy, whiny, entitled, etc. -your basic thot-type) I could nip a few things in the bud long enough to get the kids old enough that divorce is easier to understand... but she's not.

And the kids really are what make it worth it. My contingency if my wife ever just stops having sex (doubt it would happen) would be to just fuck outside of the marriage, stay married, be polite, be professional, fuck her when she wants it, and just continue that for until she serves me papers... then I take my half and jet.

I'm 38 and married 19 years with 2 kids.

MrChad_Thundercock · 2018-09-20T17:33:28+00:00

“wife is happy (or as happy as she can be).”

Still balls deep in her frame.

viderelux · 2018-09-21T20:00:49+00:00

married 26 yrs. 4 kids. RP 2 years.

Out of marriage have come my highest highs and my lowest lows, both. Yes, it continues to be worth it.

The earlier the RP is taken, the more 'worth it' it will be...

Title	Older MRP: was it worth it?
Author	MrPurplePoison
Upvotes	16
Comments	44
Date	September 20, 2018 5:10 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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