Obligatory stats:

29 5'6" 133 BF16% Navy

SQ 165 BP 110 Row 115 OHP 75 DL 180

You married guys sometimes post about how you start appreciate your wives in amazing ways after you develop and improve yourselves, like you never seen before. Here's an insecurity issue I have, in which I compare my plates to each other in the good parts and also the bad ones, in personality as well as physical qualities. I am a big believer in a man ability to mold his girl with his strong leadership and dedication to his mission, she will and should submit, unless he lost his sight to his big goals. But despite the morals being malleable to changes, physical characteristics are not. I find some more appealing than others and I never find my balance, and by lurking over r/ deadbedrooms, the magic fades in the bedroom despite the beauty being there.

I'm talking about how fair her skin, voice tone, big her butt/boobs, or hair type. But I usually develop oneities, so I don't know better than to accept everything coming from her after 3-6 months. I know life is not meant to be perfect, but I'm sure there is a better way to look at life and choose what to give my fucks about. So far, I can't be yet assertive on my decision to compromise on specific qualities so I enjoy other qualities that please me. If my girl is submissive, feminine and fit and I get horny thinking of her tight pussy, will giving a fuck about her hair curls type get in the way of my happiness?

How to calibrate my bar to accept a girl as she is to join my ride?