I admit, I can be pretty jealous sometimes and I made the mistake of showing it early in our relationship before reading some redpill. LTR got a text today from an old work friend who basically told her that it's been a while since they talked, he's been divorced a while now, the ages of his kids, where he's living and that he'd like to meet her for coffee. I know this because she told me. She introduced it to me by saying that she felt worried when she read the email because I've been jealous in the past, and she texted him back that she could catch up by phone rather than meet in person. She wanted to run it past me and to see if I was comfortable with her meeting him for coffee. Before I replied she said that she wants to be in a relationship where she doesn't feel worried like that, and wants to have the freedom to have a coffee with an old friend - male or female. I asked her if she thinks he's interested in her, and I mentioned that I think he might be interested because he mentioned in his text that he's divorced. She asked me what she should do? She said that I can tag along with her. I don't want to babysit her and be the 3rd wheel, so I said no it's fine meet him if you'd like, but I have to admit it does bother me. She said okay, and that if he wants to meet her a second time afterwards that I'll come along with her.
So yea, I probably lost my frame by mentioning that it bothered me. I think it's best to be decisive in these situations, either say no I don't date women who meet single men 1 on 1, or say sure go meet him for coffee. Either way, she's probably going to meet him now. How should I deal with this situation in the future? It obviously bothers me.