This is my first post. It’s about a dating strategy for mature guys – not an OYS and not a victim puke. I hope MRP moderators don’t bury it because it contains material that’s not easily found in RP forums. To be clear, I am writing for a particular audience, not teenagers or 20s-30s, maybe some upper 40s-50s, mostly guys above that age. The rest of the web is totally blue-pilled on the subject.

Background: I am a 56 year old MD who was red-pilled in divorce court. My kids are in college. My ex did well financially by divorcing a doc after 20 years marriage… ’nuff said. All future contact with her is severed except maybe for graduations and weddings. I found Rollo and TRP too late, after my divorce. I read the sidebar entirely along with other RP literature. I am in excellent health, physically fit, have decent looks for my age. I am pretty marketable. I am not going to provide squat numbers or my N count. Though I am no longer married, and never will be married again, I appreciate MRP for its wisdom and its guidance.

THREE THOUGHTS ABOUT DATING IN AMERICA IN 2021, UNRELATED TO MY AGE

(1) Virtually all American women are poisoned by feminist ideas

(2) Divorced women are off limits – my choice, not theirs

(3) Single moms are off limits. They should be off limits for every man who has his shit together. Let the gutter guys have ’em.

As a medical doctor of 25 years who delivered hundreds of babies, who gets paid to examine women’s vaginas and touch their breasts, who’s dealt with every combination of STDs and psychosocial disease, who’s been immersed in the dark side as well as the bright side of humanity, I have a different take on sexuality than most TRP writers. I can list many examples of what drives my thinking but here are three ugly ones:

  • I delivered babies to several 12-14 year olds. I had pregnant girls as young as nine (9) in my career.
  • I treated the crusty trifecta of gonorrhea, chlamydia and trichomonas too many times to count and multiple times in a clinic day
  • I managed every sort of psychiatric problem, and a large number of relationship problems. That didn't keep me from getting blue pilled in my marriage.

THERE IS NO FRESH MEAT

Men have choices in how much spoilage we can tolerate in women, and how much spoilage we elicit. Are you gonna be the guy fucking a nine year old or giving an STD to an eighteen year old? Where do you, personally, draw the line with women’s ages, who is too young to fuck, who is too old to fuck, who is too ugly to fuck, who is too sick to fuck? Do you, as an older guy, want to seduce virgins?

This is not judgmental rhetoric. We each need to decide what is our personal sexual standard. I do not want answers posted here, just introspection: Are your lusts truly your own, or have you absorbed them from someone else – maybe from porn or MSM? Men should think about our programming and where it came from before seducing anyone.

IDEAS FROM A GUY WHO TRIED IT POST-DIVORCE AND GOT BURNED

(4) Twenty-somethings today are boring as talking to a wall. Yeah, they can fuck but with most of them that’s about it

(5) Thirty, forty, or fifty-somethings who were never married AND had no kids almost universally:

  • Have serious mood or personality disorders
  • Are angry at the universe
  • Blame the patriarchy

(6) Women with high body counts may be fun for a while but these cats will stray. Are they worth my time? Are they worth your time?

Middle aged and older guys have limited days on this planet and limited energy to burn. We need to stay on our mission, remain physically fit and enjoy our hobbies. While female companionship can be enjoyable if it’s not been ruined through poor life choices, the novelty is less than when we were young. Gone is our willingness to orbit a supposed goddess. Most of us have standards that need to be met.

So how is an older, professional type guy supposed to avoid the pitfalls of dating in this feminazi / thotpocalypse era? I believe it involves building and maintaining standards. So here is my current list:

MY DATING STANDARDS & FUTURE GOALS

(1) Don’t date single moms (DDSM)

(2) Don’t date divorcees (DDD)

(3) DO date women who are tired of feminism, who enjoy receiving a man, and who appreciate masculine energy

(4) Don’t date married women (DDMW)

(5) Don’t date never-married women *(DDNMW)*

(6) No multicolored flags

(7) No children, goats, or creatures that scurry

(8) No physical stigmata or psychiatric disease

Points #1 and 8 are standard RP dogma. #5 – \(DDNMW*) is deeper but we’ll call it personal preference.* The rest are self explanatory. Women with serious medical conditions such as terminal cancer might be #9 but I’ll leave it off the list for now.

The senior dating challenge is like looking at a Venn diagram or solving simultaneous algebraic equations. I created a dating strategy for myself which I enjoyed enough to present here.

The optimal solution I found is dating once-married, never-divorced single women, ie, widows.

(A brief pause for the retching and vomiting to subside.)

Some widows are amazing. Maybe it’s an acquired taste, but I like what I’m finding so far.

REFLECTIONS

What I have been finding through two years of widows “research” is that this is an underappreciated dating pool. These women generally know what masculine energy is and they value it. They are easier to seduce and they usually don’t mind being upfront about their willingness to be taken. They play fewer mind games. They waste less time. They usually leave a man with no regrets afterward. Yes, there are some wholesome pretenders, hostile, fat or ugly chicks – same as any other group – but they are comparatively more pleasant than their age matched peers.

A few takeaway points:

  • Unlike teenagers and young 20s (who are still children despite their N counts), widows aren’t worse off after receiving a man – especially a man who unreservedly enjoys the woman’s body and her feminine spirit
  • Not all widows are hags. Some are young and attractive, and some are terrific in bed. Most are willing to improve.
  • Many are emotionally healthy. Almost all widows know how to handle stress because they already did it repeatedly. Some were emotionally shattered by their loss, but they they were able to build stronger internal structures afterward. This is excellent news for guys who are exhausted by all the brittle, posturing, tatted-up females shouting about micro-aggressions and proclaiming wokeness.
  • Widows are plentiful: 13 million in the US and 259 million worldwide, but those numbers seem low
  • An average widow has more wisdom than most non-widows. That means they may not tolerate fools or lowlife as readily, though it depends on the woman.
  • They’re often more financially stable than the general public, so less of a man's time is wasted on gold diggers
  • STD risk is statistically low
  • They tend to be less shallow, have traveled more widely, have more cool hobbies, a broader outlook, can talk about interesting things, and have fewer sexual hangups. When they do have sexual hangups, those are easily plowed through.

Guys can throw stones at my observations but I ask instead for logical responses rather than spouting emotionality or clichés. Maybe some guys will give widows a try instead of going MGTOW?

Any good stories?

LAST THOUGHT...

Not all old cars are Bentleys, but some of them are. Why not enjoy a classy ride?