Gents, following up as requested. Previous posts show why I did what I did. I hired a PI and they followed my wife for about a month. She does exercise classes on M and W and that is her time off, so the right place to find if something is up.
First two nights: nothing, she went to class and then the grocery store. Third night: went to class, and afterwards she gets into a truck that I later find out belongs to one of her car group friends. The PI stated that there was no PDA, they just got in drove around and stopped and talked in the gym parking lot. PI stated this was unusual but it looked strictly platonic from what he saw. Last check: she went to class and then went over to his house. They were in the garage working on a project car. Again PI didn't see anything weird, and provided video and a report. She was there for about 30-45 minutes and left without any PDA or anything like that.
Now this is where I stand. A few months ago i would have been all about this, like 100% insecure well fuck I guess I was if I got a PI.
Anyways this is a gut check to myself that the wife will do what she wants but I cannot run a story in my head. She likes cars, guns, and motorcycles. She doesn't have many female friends so I can see her doing this without any ill will. She would rather hangout working on cars then get pedicures. She had mentioned that she wants to hangout with friends more but doesn't have the time due to being deployed.
Friend in question is in his 40ies, overweight and LBF.
This BP victim needs to die and I think it is. The fact that the ghosts of insecurity got the best me is a hard pill to swallow. I think if it was more it would be easier but this is more reflection of myself now. I'm going to lift and kill these false ideas.