Why do I feel so empty inside?

KirthWGersen · 2021-08-03T09:02:33+00:00

"I have my shit together and am way ahead of most of my peers in terms of status, power, career, finance and even looks."

"Why am I still not happy?"

Because those things do not make a person happy. And you are comparing yourself to other people instead of focusing on what is important to you.

It sounds trite, but happiness does come from within.

In my opinion, developing a personal philosophy, an approach to life, that satisfies you, is the most important thing a person can do. Reflect on life, read about the experiences of others, find out what you value beyond the mere physical and status.

The happiest people either do not have those things you mention or are not attached to them when they have them. We are sold a lie about success bringing happiness. It does, but only a fleeting happiness. Then we are back where we started. The superficial goals we chased then become the new baseline. And the striving continues.

The ability to be alone, reflect, walk in the park, kick the leaves, love without attachment, fear, guilt or obligation: these free you from the superficial trappings of our brief existence.

I would suggest spending time alone with yourself, walking alone, asking yourself what you truly value. And read: good poetry, good novels. They are thought experiments that enable you to reflect on life from different perspectives and learn the humility of truly knowing that your own perspective only gives you a limited glimpse of reality.

As Socrates said, "The unexamined life is not worth living."

Examine yourself, ask yourself what would remain if you stripped away all but the essential, and build from there.

oobertas · 2021-08-03T11:50:48+00:00

There is nothing wrong with you. You are just unskilled at living at your edge. You are doing what other people recommend, not what you truly desire. You have not done the hard work of NGAF about what the world expects/wants and instead making yourself the man you want to be. Good news is you can start now.

If you don't know what your mission is, then you know your mission is exploring yourself.

Redpillbrigade17 · 2021-08-03T10:35:55+00:00

You’re living the life that society told you you should live. Think long and hard what’s important to you, what game do you really want to play and get good at. What life do YOU want to live?

And if you’re so fortunate how do you give to others ? Do you volunteer? Do you give money away ? Happiness that comes from giving surpasses that which comes from taking. Ask yourself if you’re giving enough to the world, whether it’s time or money or energy and attention.

Ultimately it may still be a part of unfinished work you have which is to find your own way to be happy and satisfied. Usually it’s not in the material things or fleeting things like hot sex or a delicious meal. What are you building? What will people say about you after you die? “He paid all his bills on time and had a hot woman he was banging” ?

Good luck.

RoccoPinkman · 2021-08-03T13:04:26+00:00

Why am I still not happy?

The Buddha said ‘everywhere you go, there you are.’

I’m pretty sure even people who we would perceive have all one could ever want, still have this feeling.

I had all what you talked about and still felt lack. Then I went to prison in December for 5 months and realised that none of that stuff actually mattered as much as I thought. I had and still have a feeling of lacking something spiritual, I’m not taking about religion in a traditional sense, I’m talking about myself/god/a real understanding of my own consciousness.

Anyway I went on a bit there but my point is that as long as you have your shit together, your warm, safe and have food, your kids have clothes on their back, then you should probably just chill out and get to know your self a bit better.

Taipanshimshon · 2021-08-03T13:10:15+00:00

What are you doing that you haven't been told to do ?

Also ... Happy is a dopamine burst.

If you're not at peace or not satisfied with life that's a different discussion and worth having

Cloudy_Pirate · 2021-08-03T13:42:10+00:00

There is always another dragon.

Praexology · 2021-08-03T14:18:25+00:00

I really fucking should be that dude that is living his best life as a young, financially independent, successful man.

Only a man who has done the work to earn it "should be."

What the actual fuck is wrong with me, what did I miss?

Your mission was pussy. Congratulations, you got it. Now what?

hopeunseen · 2021-08-03T17:01:37+00:00

Happiness is complicated and multifaceted.

Tony Robbins theory of happiness is that people are happy when their expectations for how life should be MATCH what they are actually experiencing life to be.

You had a picture in your mind of what life would be like when you got your shit together, and that picture doesn't match your experience. Therefore, you don't feel happy.

I think there is something to it.

In my life, I've also noticed that I am happiest when a) I feel like I am making PROGRESS and my life is moving forward. b) I am experiencing and sharing life with amazing people (quality relationships)

Psychologists have varying opinions on what creates happiness, but they all pretty much agree it's about more than ONE thing - It's about having a level of health and prosperity in multiple areas of your life, and when one is out of balance, happiness is hard to come by.

2wo2wo3hree · 2021-08-03T17:54:21+00:00

You’ve climbed the peak of the mountain. Find another mountain.

There’s no finish line.

RuleZeroDAD · 2021-08-03T19:36:54+00:00

Impostor Syndrome.

You're playing a character called MeRP.

You're in the frame of retards on the Internet.

Until you answer the only question that matters, we can tell you what we would do, but that doesn't matter.

"Be like me, it works for me."

J10H

That quote is for those faking it to make it.

You claim four years in the Dojo.

What do you want?

RStonePT · 2021-08-03T17:10:02+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/4duudk/why\_youre\_lost/

Cam_Winston21 · 2021-08-03T13:19:47+00:00

195cm, 92KG

Bench max: 65KG at one rep max

Squat: 150KG at one rep max

Deadlift: 100KG at one rep max

So, over 6'4", weigh 200, bench 140 and deadlift 220.....but squat 330?

man_in_the_world · 2021-08-06T19:09:10+00:00

Why do i feel so empty inside?

Because you lack a Mission: something larger than yourself that you truly care about, believe in, and are actively and regularly working towards making some smaller or larger part of the world a better place.

Somelier1234 · 2021-08-03T15:46:37+00:00

I mean that’s your problem dude you think things like money and prestige are what brings you happiness. The human condition is very strange we flock to strange ideologies like RP hoping to gain some happiness outwardly searching for satisfaction when it all comes from within. You basically just did what everyone else sees as an idea of success ( financial security, societal prestige) I don’t blame you man I don’t know where you are but western culture makes it seem like success and money are what matters. Anthony bourdain was an old soul who had all the money, travel, and expertise in cooking in the world but it’s just never enough. Consumerist America is a toxic wasteland we have everything we could ask for in this country but most of the population is depressed. Do things for yourself and enjoy life it’s a ride for sure and just realize there is much more to life than success. Check out the book meditations by Marcus Aurelius

jamesbond8181 · 2021-08-03T14:11:05+00:00

Islam

Donediggin · 2021-08-03T21:13:16+00:00

How much do you meditate?

Perfectinmyeyes · 2021-08-19T10:30:20+00:00

Because you are in the worlds frame and not yours.

Who is in charge of your life if you measure it by the woman/women you are with, the contents of your wallet, the weight you can lift? You?

thisisme0007 · 2021-08-03T16:28:16+00:00

>Ok, so this is going to be a little different

Oh you special little snowflake you.

>Why am I still not happy?

Who the fuck cares? That's not our job.

Go masturbate at trp.red or wherever the fuck you belong. Start doing something for yourself that doesn't come from an idea posted by a random stranger on the internet.

Title	Why do I feel so empty inside?
Author	abratoki
Upvotes	22
Comments	46
Date	August 3, 2021 8:46 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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