Hi all. Haven't posted in a while. 42 - 6'1" - 225 lbs. Lifts are still good and about 8 months + in my MAP. Owing my shit and focusing on my growing small business and loving it.
Relationship with my wife has been great. Having fun together, she is submissive, good sex 2 to 3 times per week (she initiates about 1/3) of the time. She takes care of her health, and dresses elegantly when we go out. I tease and banter with her and she is flirty and sweet. For all newbies here, there is something to the redpill. Do the work and be a man, and women (hopefully your wife) WILL respond to you.
Here my question. We planned a family vacation to the beach earlier this year. Me, the wife, our 4 kids, her sister and her husband and their 2 kids, and my mother in law. Leaving this weekend and looking forward to relaxing and having fun.
My wife over the past week has been frantic and whiny about her sister and her mother's drama. I just laugh and poke fun and she'll join in and come to my frame, then a couple hours later, she'll get moody again. She was packing clothes and trying on swim suits (I like to watch her do that cause I think she's smoking hot). She's looking in the mirror and freaking out saying, "ugh... I look so fat." "I hate the beach" "god, my sister's gonna make fun of me and give me shit" and "blah, blah, blah".
I think the fretting is kinda cute. I won't say much and then I'll walk down stairs and get busy with something, then come back up and flirt with her and keep it light.
I think it's just female emotimg and her just being a girl that is stressed about traveling and being with her family. I have learned not to draw into that frame and bring attention to her drama and "making it real" for her little mind, cause that only amplified it in the past and we'd end up fighting.
My strategy has been successful and I've been in my frame. Although she is stressed, she is sweet and respectful to me and affectionate. She hasn't been too sexual this week, but I think the stress in combo with shark week (yeah forgot to mention) has her preoccupied.
Am I missing this as a comfort test of some sort? I don't think it is, because it's not directed at me and about her relationship with me. I assume I am getting this right by not caring as much about her mood swings like I did in the past, because it's not causing friction with her and she isn't giving me shit. I DO want her to have fun with the family, but I guess that's on her. I've decided to go and have fun. I suspect she'll come around, but my new red pill reality is telling me to not worry about her moods. Am I seeing this correctly?
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