Married 11 months. I’m 25, wife 24.
Took the pill roughly a week ago. Trying to read as much as I can. Started lifting regularly.
So a few days ago, I came home from a 12 hour shift. Wife was suppose to make me food, it was around 8pm. She asked me to wait a little longer because the food wasn’t ready. I patiently waited, as I did the day before — no complaints — but around waiting until 8:50 I asked her to hurry up in a normal tone. She then got an attitude and felt offended.
She said “let’s go to the kitchen together and bring the food to the living room”.. I obviously sensed the power move and jokingly told her to “not make a big deal of it” and go get it for me. She refused... my wife is the stubborn type when she’s upset (funny thing is the food was already done cooking) . Then I got up myself and put it on a plate. Half way in doing say, wife says “I want to eat ”, I tell her “wait, you want to eat with me or on a separate plate?” As I gently walked from the kitchen into the dining room — trying to talk to her like I care. She notices and says never mind. Shortly afterward I come over and try and kiss on her on the cheek.. she says “don’t come anywhere near me.”
I gladly put on my gym clothes and leave the house. I’ve been doing STFU. But the problem is my wife tries to match my energy and just gives me the silent treatment. This use to bother me a lot but it doesn’t anymore.
She keeps saying, before this incident, that I’m more mean to her, that I’m not as nice. She even went as far as to say “you’re trying really hard to be cool lately.” But every single time, I don’t acknowledge anything, I just continue as if it’s nothing.
Basically I came on here to get advice on how to break the silent treatment without apologizing while maintaining STFU. Funny thing is I went to the gym the night before as well the wife called and tried me with a comfort test about her being sick. I asked her if she needed meds and that I’d be home shortly.
When I came home .. she apologized for getting gum stuck to our couch (random i know— but she apologized like a little kid) .. I told her it’s okay and gave her a kiss. She then said she felt hungry and wanted a snack from the kitchen. I told her I’d make it for her when I got done taking a shower. She said “but I want it now..” I said no, not right now. When I got out she was in bed. Lol she hasn’t spoken to me since. I keep saying hey to her and making normal convo.
Any advice would help fells!
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