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2019 approaches. What the fuck do I do?

December 31, 2018

Full disclosure. I was born in 1990, but I went to school with people born in '89. Naturally I gravitated towards people older than me.

I am willing to admit that I prefer older girls, at least 1-4 years older than me. Call it a big sister complex, but I've always felt most comfortable with older people, which makes me naturally gravitate towards girls born in 1987 - 1990.

But red pill theory mentions that girls, as soon as they hit 30, they would hit the "wall" in which they would drop their party-going ways, and start finding a nice guy to settle down with. They would be able to find a stable source of income while still pursuing their alpha fantasies.

I both understand and hate this reality.

I do not want to date someone who can't relate to me (e.g.: "what's an N64, Phoenix?) but my contemporaries have moved on. I don't give a rat's ass if the girls are older, but I do care if I'm taken care of. In other words: I see stories of nice guys getting screwed over by their crushes.

Since '15, I've swallowed the hard truth that I'm at the position I'm at because of me. I went to the gym, I've gotten in shape. I've read Models and No More Mr. Nice Guy (a friend was very nice to have gifted me the Rational Male trilogy on my birthday). But I wonder if it is all for naught.

I don't just wanna have sex. I want a meaningful relationship. Yes, I've read many a post in this subreddit saying that can't happen, but I still believe it can.

And Yet, judging by conventional wisdom, it can't. I am doomed to an existence where I am consigned to an existence of loneliness, or one of fake affection where I can pretend to relate to a Gen Z child who has nothing in common with me.

I don't know what to live for. I don't want to take my own life, but I feel likje it's been wasted.

TL;DR: 28 year old realises his friends are going to turn 30, including the girls he's into, which means they're all going to hi the wall. WTF do I do?

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Title 2019 approaches. What the fuck do I do?
Author BlackPhoenix01
Upvotes 0
Comments 5
Date December 31, 2018 8:11 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit /r/askTRP
Archive Link https://theredarchive.com/r/askTRP/2019-approaches-what-the-fuck-do-i-do.72089
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/ab58ol/2019_approaches_what_the_fuck_do_i_do/
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[–]plumo1237 points8 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

I'm afraid you will not find a meaningful relationship with your attitude... Sorry :(

The problem, yet again is not with women hitting the wall, it is with you, same as when you were 15 bro.

You talk about not having any meaning in life, a possibility of suicide because you can't find a meaningful relationship with a WOMAN... WOMAN, WOMAN, WOMAN... See where I'm getting at?

The hard reality is that you will turn into beta bucks if the center of your attention and the source of meaning and happiness is a woman, end of story.

It is of course possible to have a meaningful relationship with a woman. The issue is that it probably will not look like the Disney fairy tale you would like it to be, where you are "taken care of".

LTR or marriage is a constant game that you need to play perfectly in order to keep playing.

[–]BlackPhoenix01[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

You're right. My life absolutely should not revolve around women. That leads to things like oneitis and whatnot.

I'm just wondering what to do now that most of the girls I'm into are reaching Wall territory.

[–]plumo1230 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Nothing changes. You still game them and vet them same way. I would say it will be even easier once they reach the wall

[–]Builtblind2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Bro just stay on your purpose

Trp is not a bible

You take the parts that resonate with you and absorb them into who you are

Use the knowledge provided to find your way out of bad situation and find your way into good ones

I am a firm believer that if you want something bad enough it will come to you....but when it does you gotta be prepared or it won’t last long

Stay on your purpose and trust the process of life

[–]MisterRoid0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

So you can't have a meaningful relationship with a 30+ woman because TRP says so? They are attracted to the same things as the young girls. If you are that scared of a woman chosing you because she thinks you are her beta bucks, then you probably are a beta. In the end all that should matter is whether she's doing a good job pleasing you or not. No need to overthink things.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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