I've created a couple of threads already about this woman. I'm 27 and been on 3 dates now with a 57 year old woman.

The 1st date was just getting to know each other, in a bar. No kissing or intimacy happened.

The 2nd date was also in a bar. It didn't go so well initially - we actually argued quite a bit, but ended up kissing at the end and agreeing to a 3rd date.

The 3rd date, I took her out to a nice bar, we bought drinks and shared a meal + dessert together. We were on an open bench-like seat, so I could put my arm around her and kiss her, which I did a lot, as well as talking quite deeply about different topics. I paid for the whole date - I was told this "sets the frame" and makes you appear more like a man, rather than splitting the bill. She's also much older, so comes from a generation where men paid for dates.

Anyway, we haven't had sex yet. At the end of the 3rd date, she said she was really tired (to be fair, so was I). I did try to escalate, but she didn't seem to want to go back to her place with me, and I didn't want to force the issue. Maybe I missed my chance early in the date?

Is this a disaster that we haven't had sex by the 3rd date? I've organised a 4th date and she's agreed. What if we don't have sex again? This is a big worry for me.