My father wasn’t around much until I was 10. He was finding ways to make ends meet. He himself never grew up with his parents. He’s from a third world country, barely speaks English now. Has alpha traits, he has mom by the finger, everything goes his way in the house.

He’s beginning to be a problem. Whenever his kids misbehaves he’ll lash out in anger, or he will not talk to you and give you the silent treatment. When he finally wants to talk he does all the talking, or more so “lecturing” as all Asian parents do. I’ve never really sat down and talked about a problem with him logically, and I’ve been conditioned to be scared/afraid of him since a young age till now 23.

So earlier today I guess he found out I smoked. I don’t smoke regularly but I’ve tried it here and there. He automatically went into preaching mode and starts saying how I’m hanging with the wrong crowd, if I’m under his roof I can’t smoke etc etc. I told him I don’t smoke, he says he has photo proof. I said lemme see, he says “don’t lie to me, don’t make me angry, I don’t wanna get angry, we’ll wait till mom gets home.” It’s shits like this, he’ll complain to mon how hurt he is because of me and how sad he is cuz of Me, but never really talks to me about it. He once smacked me so hard my nose bled, I was 14. He’s just all around difficult as hell, mad sensitive over lil shits, mad petty. Idk how to deal with him. Especially about this smoking situation. I honestly wanna move out but that’ll hurt both my parents. Help!