TRP advocates for being the leader, in the sense that you’re doing you and she can come along for the ride if she wants. In this sense, she can play by your rules or she can leave.

However, I think there must be some sort of give-and-take in play. If you’re completely unaccommodating, you’re not going to be enjoyable to be around. So there has to be some kind of middle ground.

My question is, how do you determine what that middle ground is? How can you tell if you’re giving/taking too much, or if you need to give/take more?