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Am I being blue pill or red pill, and is this moral?

January 22, 2015

I bumped into my college engineering TA a few months ago, who I crushed on in college cause she was the hottest engineer at the school. Fast forward to now, I have high SMV across the board, and confidence. So naturally we start hooking up.

About a month into casually hooking up, she wants more. She is smart and hot, so I'm pondering bumping her up to girl I'm dating from girl I'm fucking. (though monogamy will always be off the table). My condition for girl I'm dating is exclusivity to me (which sounds a bit unfair, but are my public terms, so they can take it or leave it)

She agrees and comes back a week later saying she broke it off with the other person she was casually seeing, but they hooked up. The terms were clear from that day, so I withdrew my offer to date her.

The question I have is that she keeps wanting to break it off with me (About once or twice a month) But every time she tries breaking it off, I just shrug it off and say "OK, or sure", then we do something awesome, have some wild sex, and she's back.

Am I being blue pill for not letting her go?

Is it morally ok to keep stringing her along?

(To be clear, she knows the the terms and her status, she just gets unhappy with them from time to time)

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Title Am I being blue pill or red pill, and is this moral?
Author Frisky-Fox
Upvotes 0
Comments 6
Date January 22, 2015 10:25 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit /r/askTRP
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[–]Polorutz3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Sexual strategy is amoral... stop thinking about it being blue pill or not it doesn't really matter.

Are you getting what you want from the interaction? If yes, continue, if no next.

Way I see it though, you want to have your cake and eat it too. You're asking for exclusivity only on her side. You'll still see other women so how does it affect you if she sees other men? Your frame has weak points if you think that's important in the scope of "just dating" and it will just set you up for dissappointment when her hypergamy pipes up again.

You're wanting her commitment to you without giving it back, even if she says yes, you can lose her to a guy with similar smv to you who is willing to LTR her, if you've read the sidebar, she'll branchswing whether you like it or not. All that's in stake is your ego. Take ego out of the equation.

[–]Frisky-Fox[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You're right, thanks!

[–]1Danedina0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

It's very red pill, very alpha, and you're reaping what you sow. She feels like a slut. Her friends are telling her she's crazy and you're not treating her right. She doesn't tell her parents much about you because she's ashamed. But when you're together there's real sexual energy, and she's hooked. If you're being honest then it's ethically justifiable. Whether you're being a good person is up to the person (or god) who is judging you.

To me she sounds pretty great. Smart girl who is DTF. But this drama is going to continue as long as you run against the grain of what society expects from you.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Seems like you're doing fine.

[–]Titan50000 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

You've made your intentions clear: we can date, but I'm going to continue dating other girls as well, take it or leave it. If she takes it that's up to her, those are your conditions and you must stand by them.

Is it morally wrong to string her along? No. Because you aren't stringing her along. Stringing along implies that you are telling her what she wants to hear to keep her around. All you've done is make your intentions and desires perfectly clear and she agreed to them. If she has any reason to be upset that you're fucking other girls, then calmly remind her that those were the conditions she agreed to. If she doesn't like it, then send her packing.

[–]wickedwildewolf0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

You're not stringing her along. She knows exactly where she stands with you. I don't see anything personally immoral about this. Just enjoy the ride and let her make her own decision about whether she wants to continue being fuck buddies or whether she wants to move on.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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