Am I being blue pill or red pill, and is this moral?

Polorutz · 2015-01-22T11:14:08+00:00

Sexual strategy is amoral... stop thinking about it being blue pill or not it doesn't really matter.

Are you getting what you want from the interaction? If yes, continue, if no next.

Way I see it though, you want to have your cake and eat it too. You're asking for exclusivity only on her side. You'll still see other women so how does it affect you if she sees other men? Your frame has weak points if you think that's important in the scope of "just dating" and it will just set you up for dissappointment when her hypergamy pipes up again.

You're wanting her commitment to you without giving it back, even if she says yes, you can lose her to a guy with similar smv to you who is willing to LTR her, if you've read the sidebar, she'll branchswing whether you like it or not. All that's in stake is your ego. Take ego out of the equation.

Danedina · 2015-01-22T14:23:46+00:00

It's very red pill, very alpha, and you're reaping what you sow. She feels like a slut. Her friends are telling her she's crazy and you're not treating her right. She doesn't tell her parents much about you because she's ashamed. But when you're together there's real sexual energy, and she's hooked. If you're being honest then it's ethically justifiable. Whether you're being a good person is up to the person (or god) who is judging you.

To me she sounds pretty great. Smart girl who is DTF. But this drama is going to continue as long as you run against the grain of what society expects from you.

[deleted] · 2015-01-22T14:51:14+00:00

Seems like you're doing fine.

Titan5000 · 2015-01-22T16:48:28+00:00

You've made your intentions clear: we can date, but I'm going to continue dating other girls as well, take it or leave it. If she takes it that's up to her, those are your conditions and you must stand by them.

Is it morally wrong to string her along? No. Because you aren't stringing her along. Stringing along implies that you are telling her what she wants to hear to keep her around. All you've done is make your intentions and desires perfectly clear and she agreed to them. If she has any reason to be upset that you're fucking other girls, then calmly remind her that those were the conditions she agreed to. If she doesn't like it, then send her packing.

wickedwildewolf · 2015-01-23T04:00:07+00:00

You're not stringing her along. She knows exactly where she stands with you. I don't see anything personally immoral about this. Just enjoy the ride and let her make her own decision about whether she wants to continue being fuck buddies or whether she wants to move on.

Title	Am I being blue pill or red pill, and is this moral?
Author	Frisky-Fox
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Date	January 22, 2015 10:25 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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