Are you guys lonely?

I work a lot

Generally, life is a series of a stages:

• 0-18, education, physical development, childhood friendships
  
• 19-35, college/work relationships, self-exploration, identity formation; career, work, adulthood, dating, perhaps marriage/kids
  
• 35-55, career, work, wealth building, long-term (and maybe family) focus
  
• 55+, perhaps grand-kids, travel, leisure, perhaps retirement, legacy planning
  

It's not always the case, however, there are certain times to do things that are better than others. For instance, aiming to start a successful business in your 80s may not be the best idea, largely because you won't have the energy that you had when you were in your 20s, or 30s, or 40s.

Typically, you'll physically peak around 35 or so, and then begin to dip as your body begins a slow decline. You can still be healthy, but you're not in your 20s anymore, and you'll become more aware of this. For most people, your dating pool will also shrink with age. Though it is touted that your SMV increases, and men age like wine, you're not immortal, and fit within the physical universe where everything has a half-life.

Further, it becomes difficult to find, and form new relationships with people in your 30s because most people are busy with work, which is where most of your relationships will form, as you're well aware. Relationships take more effort, and planning. The effort can payoff later in life. Most people are also getting hitched, and having kids. They'll spend more time with other couples, while their kids play together.

If you don't have any family, or people looking out for you, your senior years can become downright dangerous. It's not hard to imagine the scenario, simply go to view a tiny old apartment, sit there, and absorb the reality where no one calls you to see how you're doing; other seniors have kids calling, are playing with grand-kids; you don't have any energy to go out and meet people, or partake in any demanding activities. And, you question whether the people you do meet only talk to you out of pity, though you're grateful for the company anyway.

It's happening in Japan. There's also the case of George Bell, one of several thousand, who died alone, and no one noticed until his body was discovered. It's quite sad.

It's not my intent to instill fear, only to broaden your perspective, and provide a glimpse of what is, or was reality for many people. It doesn't have to be your reality. Would getting married, and having kids prevent such scenarios? It's not clear. Not wanting to be lonely is a good concern though. We're social creatures, after all. I would encourage you to join social groups, and partake in social activities.

What is certain, however, is that life is never constant, change is inevitable, and must be faced. Hopefully, you're ahead of it, and embrace it, rather than futilely fight it, since time is undefeated.