As a late 20s virgin, how do I not completely fuck up the first time?

mrpoopistan · 2014-01-17T17:49:35+00:00

Sex is almost always clumsy and sloppy.

There's pretty much no good way to do it, which is why people who've been banging for 30 years still buy books to explain better ways to do it.

Accept that fact. FTR, women respond more to a guy's attitude than anything during sex. Being an energetic and involved lover will get you further than trying to press all of the right buttons (with the exception of the lower neck -- that's a right button, and you should learn how to press it).

Butimdifferent · 2014-01-17T17:55:47+00:00

The first time isn't the one that matters. It's all the other times.

When you try something new in life, are you always scared about it like this? Go in and have fun, man! Tickle her titties with your toes. Lick her ear. Sniff her armpit. Whatever man just be curious and have a good time. Over time you'll find out what you do and don't like and what works for you.

InscrutablePUA · 2014-01-17T17:50:47+00:00

Don't bother. You'll fuck it up. We all did. She's 30, don't let her fool you, she knows it's time for business.

LPT: If you try to bang her in the evening and it fails, try it next morning, worked for me.

heist_of_saint_graft · 2014-01-17T20:09:49+00:00

Close your eyes and think of England, brother.

drallcom3 · 2014-01-18T16:06:47+00:00

It's actually difficult to really fuck it up as a man.

Just do the "boring" stuff. Start with the missionary position, then maybe some doggy or her on top. Before that a blowjob or fingering/licking. Use a condom, no matter what she says.

Or just ask what she'll like. Women over 30 don't have a problem with that.

Protip: If you end up going down on her, mentally pretend you're a dog. I was told multiple times how good I am using this method. In reality I have no idea what I'm doing there.

You can only fuck it up if you can't get an erection. If you have one, she'll put it to use.

j_arbuckle2012 · 2014-01-19T20:41:02+00:00

There's really horrible advice in this thread.

Lead the interaction. Read Sex God Method if you can get your hands on it, pick one technique in that book (or attitude) and work it like no tomorrow. Sex is 90% psychological, you can have the hottest sex in the world while doing boring missionary if you're present and know how to push her envelope. Alternatively, you could try all sorts of freaky kama sutra gymnastics and never get anywhere, because your attitude and leadership aren't there.

Most importantly, make sure it's better for you than it is for her. Focus on what gets you off, and do that. If you wanna see her bent over with her ass up? Tell her to do it, or manhandle her. Better yet, do both, chicks go crazy for that shit. Also talk dirty, it'll seem awkward at first but you'll get better and women melt when you do it congruently.

mr_irrelevant215 · 2014-01-17T18:12:04+00:00

Do what you think she would like. If she doesn't she'll show you what she like. In her age, she'll definitely know what she likes and it's easier on you she'll just tell you. No guessing.

[deleted] · 2014-01-19T01:27:17+00:00

You're going to.

No one is going to care.

Title	As a late 20s virgin, how do I not completely fuck up the first time?
Author	InscrutablePUA
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Date	January 17, 2014 5:40 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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