Edit: thanks for the advice, I got some wisdom out of this. Gotta keep improving
*Background: * hb8 I work with. Nice body (she runs track) and some significant acne scarring but still good looking. I am tall and handsome, which will explain some of my thinking later. Both of us are college age teens. There are few enough interactions between us that Every single one fits in this post.
Our Interactions 1. She brings a customer to my section with a giggly smile and asks me an obvious question, which I answer and excuse myself.
A week later I get bored and start making trips through her section to try to start up a conversation. At some point a customer asks me a question as she was walking by so I stop her and ask her for help. She is once again very smiley and says she’ll “see me around” as I’m leaving
Later that day I run into her in the back and introduce myself and ask her name and some other info. As she’s leaving she says “see you around” again, which I thought was funny because it was so childlike and forced
As she’s leaving she comes back through my section and gives a big wave, and in my head I’m thinking “fuck it, let’s go for the number” because she is rarely in the store. As she is walking out I shout to her and beckon her over (she complies) and I give mer my number. I felt like this could have been a bit more smooth and I stumbled a little here but I guessed it didn’t matter because...
...She texts me about 30 min later. [I will now switch to text formatting. The number between texts represents time elapsed]
Her: Heyyyy ;)
15 min later
Me: What up
1hr Later
Her: Heyyyy How are you
*1hr later *
Me: [what I am doing]
next morning
Her: My bad I fell asleep. Good morning though
she double texts me 30 min later
Her: [asks me about some quiz idk wtf she was talking about]
*3hrs Later *
Me: no I never took that. You could study with me though
*12hrs Later *
Her: my bad just got out of work and was doing homework (BS meter: 100)
1hr later
Me, realizing I need to switch gears a bit: you must love homework I never saw you around last year (we go to the same school)
next morning
Her: you went to [awesome school]? Lol yes I love to learn new things
double texts again a few minutes later
Her: good morning by the way. [then asks me about that quiz again. Wtf]
5hrs later
Me: [i tell her I still go to the school and that I don’t know what quiz she’s asking about]
At this point she stops reading my messages (it says delivered though so I know she saw it.) I get the impression that it’s not happening, and two days later I put the final nail in the coffin with a “wyd Saturday.” When I next see her at work she seems like she’s avoiding me and I haven’t said hi/spoken to her because if she really is then it’ll make work awkward. So I’ve taken it as an unspoken agreement to not speak until she approaches.
My questions
- Did I make my blunders?
- Should I approach her in person as if nothing has happened? Or how should I handle it?
I know this post reeks of oneitis and you’d probably be right to diagnose me with it, but I’ve taken more of an ego hit (after recent success) so I’m wondering if it was my fault. Thanks if you read this and would appreciate any guidance
TLDR: don’t blame ya
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