Bad day.. how do you Red Pillers get back up?

yellowmonkeyzx93 · 2016-09-07T16:03:11+00:00

You're not going to meet your goals every day. Down days are 100% normal.

If it happens too often, change up your routine.

It's cheesy, but I'll actually stop and think to myself how fucking awesome I am. I forget it sometimes.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2016-09-07T21:23:36+00:00

Let me tell you something. I figured out a long time ago that I was never going to be the strongest, the fastest, the best looking, whatever.

But I could ALWAYS be the TOUGHEST.

So you need to decide, every day, you are going to be TOUGHER than what life throws at you.

You know what happens when my feet hit the floor when I get out of bed in the morning? The Devil says, "Oh, FUCK! He's AWAKE!"

And my Rice Krispies don't say "Snap! Crackle! Pop!"* they say "SHHHH! Quiet! Here he comes!"

Life isn't about never getting knocked down. We ALL get knocked down. Life is about bouncing back up with the juice to FIGHT BACK.

/mic drop

onmyownpath · 2016-09-07T17:14:20+00:00

Look at this image and realize how fucking awesome your life is:

http://i.imgur.com/tanxtYu.jpg

Realize that the photographer later committed suicide because of the horrors that he saw.

You have the internet, you probably ate this morning, and you probably have a place to live.

sneekeemonkee · 2016-09-07T16:25:06+00:00

(written in mobile, horrid format/spacing ahead)

How do you get back up? How do you let something keep you down? How do you choose to suffer? Step one: Determine if you've landed at ground floor, or the basement if it's REALLY bad. Step two: Quit feeling sorry for yourself and get back on your feet.

When you let a 'rough' day own you, there is a definitive moment when it becomes entirely yourself that is allowing it to persist. No one is coming to save you. Count to five and move, even if it seems an atrociously small step. Then repeat. Hell - count to 5 again and again if you need to. But you MUST keep moving. Anything motivational would do nothing more than cover a gaping wound in single-ply toilet paper. Buckle up and wade through the shit.

TL;DR - Discipline. Get some.

from_the_ashes_me · 2016-09-07T16:58:30+00:00

The difference between people who succeed and people who fail is that the people who succeed see setbacks for what they are... a temporary detour, a hurdle, something to work through without losing sight of your goal.

Focus on the big picture, which is continued improvement in whatever it is that drives you. Education, job, fitness...

Make a list of your goals. If you don't identify your goals, you're like a ship without a rudder. You can't chart a course.

After you define your goals, start cultivating a "no zero day" mindset. Goals take focus and 'long game.' For each one of your goals identify something that you can do, no matter how small, to get yourself closer to that goal. It's about constant, relentless progress...

Read a book, lift, work on your resume, approach, fill out college financial aid forms... it doesn't matter what the goal is... you can do something right now to get you closer.

No Zero Days.

BeyondDedication · 2016-09-07T18:53:03+00:00

If you have bad minute does it ruin your hour? A bad hour ruin your day? A bad day ruin you week?

Less micro, more macro. Stay focused and keep kicking ass.

vorverk · 2016-09-07T17:36:16+00:00

http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-Ju580NLuccs/UkSVXXzL_XI/AAAAAAAABdQ/N6j81QmZrvw/s1600/success-sketch.png

Just keep going. Fails happen.

jeezydasnowman · 2016-09-07T17:23:02+00:00

Four weeks ago I made $300 in two weeks. All my bills got behind, my car was in the shop for way longer than it should have been, things were terrible. Soon as I got the car back I put in an eighty hour week - bills paid and almost caught up now.

When things get rough grind it out. If your job doesn't allow overtime get a side gig for a few weeks/months til the bills are paid.

trancedj · 2016-09-07T20:08:56+00:00

Never take yourself or life too seriously. No one gets out alive. Dust yourself off, lean on your bros if you can, then get back at it.

Good luck man and stay awesome.

Shamlei · 2016-09-07T21:39:33+00:00

When I fail a day I like to chill out, pop a beer and a cigarette and relax thinking about why I failed and remembering why i'm doing this. I also plan out my next day which will be lived 110%.

Failing one day is okay, just chill and relax, failling multiple days in a row is very bad and you should stop and change your way of living.

Rdeasnuts · 2016-09-07T16:26:37+00:00

i try to tell myself that theres no such thing as a bad day, only a bad hour. you can change or do something to make it better.

also, every day comes to an end. the next day is different from before.

I also put down my phone, laptop, television off, etc for 15 minutes a day at least and just meditate with myself and think about how i could be better tomorrow than today.

deadwoodcylon · 2016-09-07T16:45:04+00:00

Discipline. Force yourself to get up and do little things like making your bed, doing laundry, putting shit away, or cleaning your place to get yourself started.

You don't need motivation. You need discipline.

For example, if you call yourself a creative artist, you don't sit around waiting for motivation, you get up at 7 a.m. every fucking morning and create something whether you're feeling it or not.

latiostw · 2016-09-07T17:51:38+00:00

Keep in mind Rome wasn't built in one day. It takes effort and discipline to become the best man you can ever be.

Keep going at it.

Aywing · 2016-09-07T21:01:53+00:00

Imagine having total control over your future, and then picture it as awesome as you want it to be, hard to stay down after that.

drqxx · 2016-09-07T23:49:12+00:00

"Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day. You shall begin it serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense." - Ralph Waldo Emerson

chaseemall · 2016-09-08T01:04:01+00:00

Honestly, the first thing I'll do is ask myself:

Did I get enough sleep?

Have I eaten enough?

Do I need caffeine?

Did I take my Vitamin D this morning?

Have I gotten enough sodium (other electrolytes too)?

Have I missed more than one workout?

If all these things are taken care of. I simply remind myself of my singular truth:

I deserve to exist.

I follow the chain of logic from there to realize that I have all that I need to survive. If I didn't, I wouldn't deserve to. Not only that, I deserve to be happy, because happiness is having all that you need to survive and reproduce.

I follow the logic, reason it out for myself, and I feel better.

Hope this helps!

1v1mebruh · 2016-09-08T01:10:57+00:00

A few things help me. It's about catching the negative thoughts and depression and u-turning every time they come up. The methods below help me u-turn instantly, have a mental slap in the face, and think "jesus, that was stupid, let's get back to kicking life in the ass."

1) Having a positive mantra you can say to yourself and connect with on a spiritual level about confidence and fighting on. This sounds gay and cheesy, but it's not, it's honestly pretty simple. There's a book out there called Unbeatable Mind, written by a navy seal who I guess was so god damn good at what he did, he went on to instruct navy seals, and he talks about the mantra "feed the courage wolf". He talks about how everyone has two wolves inside of them, the fear wolf and the courage wolf. When we are depressed or scared or don't believe in ourselves, we are feeding the fear wolf. You choose to feed the courage wolf instead; every time you are depressed or lack the confidence to do something, you recognize that you have been presented with an opportunity to feed your courage wolf, push on, and grow stronger. You choose to feed your courage wolf, confront the source of your fear/depression/anxiety, and become a tougher, stronger man. You can do this every time you have a negative thought.

2) Meditate. If you can get good at mindfulness meditation, you can literally close your eyes and meditate for a few seconds and you'll feel your anxiety and depression dissipate. Then open your eyes and get back to life. You may have to do this many times throughout the day, but it's SUPER effective.

3) Recognize that any challenge you have been presented with, even if the challenge is some bullshit hardship you shouldn't have to endure, is a chance for you to prove that you're better than everyone else and can handle it without letting it break you. I have a few bullshit injuries right now, and instead of wallowing in my own self pity and being miserable that I can't go work out and be buff like normal people, I recognize this as an opportunity to face hardship and beat it. Doing all the physical therapy exercises, icing all the time, not being able to do a lot of normal things, it really sucks. BUT I don't sit there and cry, I realize that I am being tested, and I will beat my hardships and pass the test and prove that I am a superior man.

Meditation and a quick mantra are to be used for the quick mental u-turn to start feeling positive in that moment, and the last point about viewing hardships and struggles as chances to prove your character and will should be used as your frame for handling longer term struggles.

brooklynisburnin · 2016-09-08T02:17:26+00:00

Due to a lack of a father figure, I am my own father figure, every time blue hits hard I just remember where I come from and what I've achieved in the short time I've done it. The decisions I had to take, the sacrifices I had to make and the goals I've already achieved.

It's definitely a self pat on the back, but we all are humans after all, the difference is that we have the ability of picking ourselves up, we do not depend on others to tell us that "it's going to be alright" because we know so.

bonerfleximus · 2016-09-08T05:11:28+00:00

In my bluepill days I asked a friend who always seemed to be focused and motivated this same question. His response was simply "you have to find it in yourself" and for some reason that changed me. From then on, pursuit of happiness was just something I do like brushing my teeth. When shit got bad I'd take a step back and acknowledge that life is long and one bad day/week/year can be replaced by 10 good ones. The " life is short" people are the ones who stop trying

roeddit · 2016-09-08T08:29:40+00:00

Get some sleep - that's the best medicine - resets your hormones, neurotransmitters, emotions.

Do something dumb with your bros if they're around.

BowlOfCandy · 2016-09-08T13:52:44+00:00

The Red Pill may not be the most useful toolbox to manage depression, essentially you're just gonna hear "man up" several different ways. What TRP advocates is really just that, so it could help depending on your perspective.

I like to perceive TRP through the guise of Hedonistic Nihilism - Hedonism is the pursuit of pleasure, and Nihilism is the concept that everything is pretty much meaningless. This framework is useful in dealing with many facets of life, particularly inter-gender relations. Concepts like Briffault's Law, AWALT, female conditionality of love, disposability of men, Alpha/Beta dichotomy, etc. are dry extensions of human biology. There is no sense in trying to negotiate new behavior - TRP enforces this perspective, "man up". Embracing this gives you a sense of abundance in life - kind of like a "shit happens" perspective.

In the end we are all alone as men, it's lonely at the top and we don't get a day off. Perhaps the best we can get is a fraternal bond with another man, which provides a sense of solidarity that you can never get from a solipsistic woman. She is but a responsible teenager, that's it.

I wish you the best in getting out of your funk.

procrastinator789 · 2016-09-07T16:37:46+00:00

I look at "old money dog" memes, always puts things into perspective

postreformedpua · 2016-09-07T22:08:00+00:00

You need to hear this

Title	Bad day.. how do you Red Pillers get back up?
Author	yellowmonkeyzx93
Upvotes	32
Comments	55
Date	September 7, 2016 3:59 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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