I know the standard things to say are "find male role models, find male friends, do masculine things, lift", but I'm hoping to go a little deeper than that (or is that really all there is to it?)

Story time: I was at a party last night and I really re-realized that most of my male friends are kind of faggy, some of them gay. Among them I am more masculine, but i have a slim build and I'm 5'8" and i just dont feel like I compare to a lot of these dudes around here that are typical chad material. I was always a bit low test, slightly higher voice, more feminine, I have problems with reactivity and lack of state control and focus etc. I'm wondering how changeable this stuff is, how much it all matters, looking for general advice etc. Is being more feminine just something you're born and stuck with like being gay? Im still damn well attracted to women, but yeah idk. Should i look to make friends with these chad type guys?

I'm a fan of deida so more abstract and 'spiritual' type answers are also welcome. The main thing is it seems like these chad guys (or just real men in general - older successful rp uncles, etc) have some lower frequency or something. Theyre just more grounded. More solid. They dont react they dont care they own it all. How do I develop this/is it possible to develop this from being faggy/feminine.