Hey guys, just some backstory on the situation. Theres this chick in one of my classes, lets call her Kate, that I brought back to my place 3 times now, and each time she gives me this crazy LMR. We never end up fucking, and I get her to leave shortly after. The last time this happened was on thursday. After she left I figured I probably blew my opportunity to turn her into a plate, so I planned to go no-contact with her.
So yesterday comes, and she texts me asking which club I was heading to. I simply texted her back, "(Name of club) tn", to which she replied, "Probably more like (name of another club)". I then said, "well i'll hit you up downtown if anything", and she replied with "Lets hope so". I didn't respond after that, I didn't want to have her on my mind at all last night.
Later on, my boys and I end up getting hammered and heading out to the club I told her I would be at. It turned out to be a pretty good night for me, I escalated on quite a few girls so I was all socially lubed up. I start running game on this one broad, and I bring her outside to have a smoke and isolate. While I was mid conversation with the girl, in my peripheral vision I see Kate come out the club I was in, and shortly after she spots me.
I figure this ran a little bit of dread in her seeing me with another chick, so she hovers around me, and eventually I made eye-contact with her and she came over. We start talking and she starts giving me major IOIs that were really overt, so I take her for a walk to isolate. The whole time we're stopping in random alleyways groping up each other and making out and what not, but we were both pretty hammered. I tell her we should get out of here, and she complied so I grabbed the next cab that I saw.
As soon as we got in I told the driver my house address and then got back to escalating on Kate, trying to test how far I could go in the car. 10 minutes later the driver asked me where we were headed to again. I repeated my house address, and then right after she said in a playful tone, "I'm not going back to your house, i'm going back to (the house of the group of people she came out with)". I instantly thought this was a shit test, so I tried responding with amused mastery and saying "hah whatever" followed by a chuckle. I told the driver my address once again, but I had to stop at an ATM down the block to grab some money for the cab.
When I got back to the cab, I could see that her and the cab driver were talking while I was gone, and right when I got in the car she re-stated that she's going to the aforementioned house, because it was down the street from the ATM and her car was parked over there. I just looked at her and said, "Are you serious", in a casual tone, and she said yeah. I said, "Alright", and froze her out. I tried to be outcome independent and act like I didn't care, but it only took like a minute to get to her house so I don't think it had much of an effect. She left, and then I headed home right after.
This morning she texts me saying, "Did we cab home together ln?", and I haven't replied yet.
Right now I feel like I got used as if I was a beta orbiter. I'm just about ready to next this girl, but if theres a possibility I can still smash, i'd rather get something out of this aside from a bunch of my time wasted. The only thing with nexting her is that we're in a small lecture together Tues&Thurs, and she usually sits beside me/saves me a seat. If I next her, I don't want it to come across as butt-hurt at all, so i'm not sure how to approach this.
I figure my failure comes from a combination of her not seeing me as high enough value, and the fact that I gave her all the validation she needed from all the making out and shit.
Any criticism and advice?
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