I heard Rollo Tomassi mention in an interview that men will "...have the burden of performance at all times..." and it got me thinking. What does he mean by this? Is it to say that men in relationships with women have, at all times, a burden to perform a certain role in an ideal way because it's instinctively expected of them?

Does this mean we must put on a show that is not a representation of our true selves, or does this mean since we will always be expected to perform, that we should change ourselves in order for the performance to become who we are? The image I conjure in my mind when this was mentioned was men will be expected to put up a shield in front of them when they face the world, never exposing their true, inner self to anybody save for perhaps a close father or lifelong friend.

What is an example of performing versus not performing?