I do nofap/retention and pure monk mode. I am 33 but life is nowhere near ready for women yet, still paying debts, severe health/teeth issues etc. How i got this low is irrelevant but what im asking is how to develop a non needy and non validationseeking mentality towards women? I feel like my subconcious is aware of my fairly low SMV so when any woman IOIs me i automatically feel the validation and feed on it and trying hard not to get that girl to dislike me etc. I know its the wrong way. Women just distract me. I want to fuck them at the same time i dont because im just not ready and i want my mission to be my focus and not even attempt to get good at talking to women yet because its not important compared to my other things i have to sort first. Im strongly against masturbating so thats not happening, plus im a recovering porn addict.

Tldr: any advice on how to tell my brain and body that i am non needy / have an abundance mindset (without abundance lol) whenever i get iois thrown at me?