Looking for genuine advice here. My ex and I live in the same city and have shared custody over our 3 year old. For the past year my ex has been seeing a guy off and on. She never shares details about her personal life with me but I am able to put 2 and 2 together over the course of our small conversations.
Although she just refers to him as her "Friend" She has made it known that his guy does martial arts, and roids. Over the past two years I have declined a number of her offers to get back together, so she tries to tell me about guys shes seeing when she is rejected.
My concern is this. Yesterday she went to the hospital from a broken collarbone. She said she fell down the stairs on her way to work, and was alone at the time. She then told me she called 911, but they were taking too long so her "friend" took her to the hospital. She is a compulsive liar and I catch her in lies all the time.
I went over with our son today so she could see him and as we were walking up the stairs I said "is this where you fell? how far down?"
"oh it was like the 3rd or 4th step or something"
First of all, nobody snaps a fucking collarbone in half falling off 3 stairs. There were also railings on each side. Even with your hands tied behind your back nobody is that clumsy.
Secondly, when we were in the house, she showed me where the break was and I got a good look at her shoulder. No scrapes, no inflammation, nothing. She said "I was wearing a jacket thats why theres no marks or anything".
If I was going with my gut I would say she said something to piss this guy off and the injury was caused by something with him. She is a psycho bitch and really knows how to instigate people. She also starts physical fights with people all the time. I could see her attacking this guy and he did something to retaliate and over-did it. I have no idea. Or it could have all been him going through her phone or some shit I have no idea.
Im concerned about my son spending time with her if there is potential for domestic violence. He is not talking alot still so I can't ask him directly, but he should be a good info source(that he is in safe environment, not about her personal life, I don't care what she's doing with her personal time as long as it doesn't endanger him) over the next year or two. I also don't need someone putting my kids mom in the hospital, but if shes dating guys and having serious issues of that nature, its just more of her bad decision making and there ain't much I can do about that.