Dating very attractive girl with high N-Count and many male "orbiters". Seeking advice on handling jealousy.

April 28, 2020
188 upvotes

First time in a LONG time that i'm struggling here. I'm 30 years old. Generally successful with women. Title speaks for itself. This is a very sexually liberated woman, who owns bondage equipment, is a squirter, is always laughing, etc. She's only 23 years old yet admitted she's slept with over 30 guys. Which I know likely means well over 50. She was willing to sleep with me on the first date, but I didn't (I never do --it's a position of power).

We've entered into a quarantine relationship where we only see each other. I spend 3 days a week at her spot. She's very attractive and has a lot of male orbiters. Always has 20+ instagram DM's in her inbox (or at least I see the 20 number in the top right). She admitted last night when we were scrolling through her IG in bed that this guy connor "tied me up and I really liked it". She also admitted this other guy she used to fuck keeps texting her to hook up after the quarantine is over, and admitted that she would "happily be his permanent sex slave" to an attractive actor that came on the TV.

I'm struggling with dealing with the fact that I'm not this girl's world. I'm just another dude. She has tons of options. Granted she just called me babe over text like 3 minutes ago. But my jealousy and picturing her with other men is extremely debilitating right now. It's making me respect my ex girlfriend more...she was so loyal and respectful. Any thoughts or advice appreciated even if I know it's coming from a bunch of 18 year old internet dudes

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Title Dating very attractive girl with high N-Count and many male "orbiters". Seeking advice on handling jealousy.
Author rztzzz
Upvotes 188
Comments 219
Date April 28, 2020 11:35 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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[–]∞ Mod | RP Vanguardbsutansalt[M] [score hidden] stickied comment (0 children) | Copy Link

Red flags galore, both with her and you.

Realize she's not LTR material and have what fun you can while it's still your turn.

[–]Azpfx55425 points426 points  (25 children) | Copy Link

Bro shes making you her bitch. Fuck her good and go on with your life stop putting her on a pedestal and start talking to other bitches. Shes not LTR material imo.

[–]TheProfitMotive220 points221 points  (20 children) | Copy Link

How is this guy even considering dating a girl who has barely graduated college and has already fucked near 50 guys?

Jesus lord help me

[–]_DeezNuts714_78 points79 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Pretty common nowadays tbh, at least at larger universities.

[–]On_The_Tweek_Again50 points51 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Yep and it’s pretty fucking sad.

[–]_DeezNuts714_-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I mean, wouldn’t you if you could? It’s just biology sadly.

[–]HighIQBro0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Nah I wouldn’t. I’m double digits body count and honestly don’t see a point in raising it. The only reason you would is if you have no self-worth and see each fuck as validation. Your better off just repeatedly having sex with say 5 people. May go against some of TRP beliefs but that’s the way I see it.

[–]IterMercator3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Most girls I knew from first year (well first 6 months) already said they fucked 10-15 guys, which if you include the 10 they didn't, 20-25 is already enough to measure their vagina in mileage. And these were average looking girls as well, so imagine the more attractive ones

[–]Kansei-kh10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I hope I could heard this before, I was in a similar situation but she wasn't that honest and left my heart broken :( I know very stupid from me... just not worth. Glad I'm no longer chained.

[–]dtyler861 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This. 500%

[–]Senior Endorseddr_warlock1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Already in too deep, she owns him. He's not gonna reassess until he crashes and burns .

[–]TheProfitMotive249 points250 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

"Granted she just called me babe 3 minutes ago"

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 Lmaaaaaaaaaoooo

[–]ImplodedVeggies89 points90 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

He’s got a lot to learn

[–]TheProfitMotive44 points45 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Starting from Chapter 1 lmao

[–]Nergaal51 points52 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

he is still at the cover art

[–]helppc49383820 points21 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Hes lost. Poor fella.

[–]CrackDaMarco12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

A woman called me "babe". I must be winning in life.

[–]Ono-Sendai_Surfer0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I LOLed so hard at this too hahahaha

[–]Vofz0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Loooool

[–]ay-fuh-q158 points159 points  (39 children) | Copy Link

Found the unicorn, did ya? Take off the blue glasses.

[–]ay-fuh-q76 points77 points  (17 children) | Copy Link

Really? She called you babe and that’s exciting somehow?

[–]BNEDub135 points136 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Usaully it's because they don't want to call you the wrong name...

[–]ManSizedMeatballs18 points19 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

LMFAO fuck bro

[–][deleted] 23 points24 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

underrated

[–]mr4kino7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Hahaha

[–]TheProfitMotive31 points32 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

bro even my grandma calls me babe 😂

[–]SIR_SKINNYPENIS6918 points19 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Your grandma calls me babe too 😏

[–]Redraisin4213 points14 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Yeah either this guys the god of cucks or this post is a troll

[–]HellSpeed1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This comment speaks volumes about your character.

[–][deleted] 16 points17 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I guarantee you she gets diarrhea sometimes, just like the rest of us

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[–]TheProfitMotive50 points51 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

Bro i know what you mean about being her number one fuck, I had the same thoughts with my fwb who is 20 and has body count of 25 already.The thing you have to realize is that it's a waste of time.

This girls ability to emotionally attach to any man is long since destroyed, and girls with high notch counts are all invariably into really rough aggressive like bordering on rape type sex and you will not get even near as much of a kick out of it as her

[–]HellSpeed24 points25 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

I just went through this, was fucking with a really promiscuous girl. One of the things that started to annoy me, was that she'd done everything already. I consider myself to be somewhat experienced and a bit wild and adventurous during sex, but I could barely get a reaction out of this girl when I was doing some pretty wild shit. I would suggest some things and she'd be like "Nah I did that before and didn't really like it" or "yeah ok I've done that and it was nice". Really took the fun out of it. I just kept pushing it to find her limits and I swear, I would basically have had to rape her to find them. It was an experience but I'm glad it's over. A lot of the fun is when you do something dirty with a girl who's never done it before and she gets that stunned/shocked look on her face like she doesn't know whether to be pissed or excited.

[–]pussykiller00918 points19 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Next time put ice cubes in her ass She will react

[–]E_rict2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

🤣

[–]Alzatorus2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

😂😂😂😂 brilliant. I'm going to try this!

[–]enteralterego9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

My experience with this type is limited, as I tend to stay away but from my observations, for a high n count woman to change her behaviour completely as you describe, it needs some dark triad shit going on. Which is not that desirable if you're already not dark triad and will require you plan and implement some serious gaslighting and self esteem lowering psychological manipulation tactics and strategies. Which is immoral in itself and in my book, not the type of shit a real man dabbles in.

So its not impossible, the real question is how far would you go to make it happen and once she arrives at the point you want her, will she be the same person that you want to be the #1 right now? I highly doubt it.

My advice is to never try change people, instead spend the time/energy to finding someone who is closest to what you already want.

[–]lolomotif126 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You don't but this is how oneitis starts, trust me been there done that. The sex and the looks blind you, and you tell your self you will "just have some fun" and then boom it hits you like a freight train and you ignore all the red flags. I guarantee you this woman knows she has a hold on you and will manipulate you. Just enjoy the sex, and that's it. You need to stop this "I want to be her number one, I'm jealous" bull shit. Take a step back, go lift, see your boys, have a few beers, clear your head.

[–]DrunkOldBear9 points10 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

You are her number one fuck. That means she's got other fucks.

[–]Rage815013 points14 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

How many fucks do you reckon she's got left to give?

[–]TheProfitMotive5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Guarantee she was fresh out of fucks by guy #10....let alone guy #50 lmao

[–]AnmolSethi1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Happy cake day 🎂 😇

Virtual party Ahoy 🎉 🎊 😂

[–]DrunkOldBear0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Ve zon't giv a fek. Ve are nihilists.

[–]dutchgguy2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Does she even have anything else to you to offer besides sex?

[–]Endorsed Contributorbalalasaurus1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

In saying that, you’re already committing to a course of action that puts her validation of you above your own. You should never want to be an ‘anything’ for anyone other than yourself.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Why do you care, just bust your nut and leave.

[–]lolomotif12171 points172 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

You're developing oneitis for a hoe and are cohabiting with her and all her red flags. Does this sound logical to you? Have you even read the sidebar at all?

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[–]CrackDaMarco11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

After what you've learnt here, try not to be bitter, resentful, or defensive towards her. She's just doing what she does. You're the one affected here, not her. She hasn't made you feel this way. Remember that - keep your frame. Knowledge is power. She can't hurt you.

[–]alphaonthecomeup161 points162 points  (22 children) | Copy Link

She’s not yours, it’s just your turn. Next time she starts talking about other guys , tell her to give you her panties, tie her hands behind her back , gag her with the panties and take her.

Also bro this is the time to experiment all of your freakiest desires, slap her in the face, face fuck her and finish down her throat , all of it.

Literally make her your sex slave, tell her to chill with the babe , tell her to refer to you as Sir, master or daddy.

You gotta dominate this shit bro. She’s 23 and your 30. Act like it

[–]TheProfitMotive77 points78 points  (18 children) | Copy Link

This.

Girls with high n counts are always into really rough aggressive almost rape-like sex bc when you've had as much sex as they've had, near-to-rape is pretty much the only thing that can still turn them on

[–]ManSizedMeatballs15 points16 points  (15 children) | Copy Link

:( how sad.

[–]leotard-princess15 points16 points  (14 children) | Copy Link

my heart bleeds

[–]ManSizedMeatballs10 points11 points  (12 children) | Copy Link

im going to find a christian girl. What else besides religion and a religious family will keep a woman from whoring herself out? Especially when the entirety of society encourages her?

[–]DickMystery4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Check out Donovan Sharpe's video on YouTube on Christian women.

[–]ManSizedMeatballs0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I will right now; thanks for the recommendation, I learned of Donovan the other day.

[–]JSJRB149211 points12 points  (9 children) | Copy Link

I'm 19. I guess you're interested in my "story": I've been born in a trad Catholic family of 8 siblings. Work hard pray harder, always been red-pilled. Catholic school, all the rest of it. Where I come from, divorce isn't a thing, and families are happy. Common denominator? Girls were virgins before marriage and they are very practicing.

I don't care if someone is or isn't religious, religion acts like a buffer against our animal instincts. Either through scientific evolution or the doctrine of original sin (or both, like me), all of us arrive at the same conclusion: left to our own devices, we fuck up.

Which leads me to: only marry a girl if she's a tradcon, virgin, disciplined, virtuous, high quality female, 20-24 years old, and you know all her friends and family. We live in a day and age when everything that falls sort of that is a risk.

[–]leotard-princess5 points6 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

And if you fuck it up then focus on yourself and your mission. It's only if you fail as a hero that you should go home and become a family man

[–]JSJRB14926 points7 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

I intend to "live life" until I'm 35. Make bank, get jacked, learn BJJ, travel, bang hot girls, etc. After that, I'll get married and have a huge family, which is something epic. Go ahead and try to change my mind. Arnold Schwarzenegger is a great example of this. He had 6 kids with his wife and he goes to Catholic mass every Sunday. That's what I want to do.

[–]leotard-princess1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

fuck yes. Do it. Love it. Be it.

[–]JSJRB14922 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Fuck yes, man. But first, I have to finish this fucking engineering degree lol. Let's go get some

[–]ManSizedMeatballs0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

Sublimate those sexual urges into all your various crafts. When denying the most strong urge you have on a daily, denying comfort, safety, fear, is all a piece of cake.

[–]JSJRB14920 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

NoFap for life. Porn nearly screwed me over.

[–]ManSizedMeatballs1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Thank you for the solid input.

[–]JSJRB14920 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Of course, brother.

[–]CrackDaMarco-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Her vagina bleeds

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[–]TheProfitMotive-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Lol read the post again.

Every girl is into rough sex. I never said rough sex.

I said violent near rape-like sex.

[–]Musicgoon5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This man knows his shit! Props bro!

[–]CrackDaMarco0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

make her your sex slave

She's gonna gargle mayonnaise.

[–]alittletoosmooth47 points48 points  (9 children) | Copy Link

She owns you. I can tell just from the "babe" comment. You lack abundance. This is not going to end well (for you). My only advice to you is "every time you have sex with her, fuck her like it's the last time you'll ever see her again". That MIGHT work to prolong the inevitable.

[–]dtyler8616 points17 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

33 year old here. Not pretending I’m ages older and wiser, but you’re still dipping into dangerously young (and stupid) girl territory. TRP is often young guys dying to give advice, but tread VERY lightly. Prepare for the worst all the way. Either she’s bragging for your attention or she’s bragging for your attention. She’s not trying to win your heart, she craves your jealousy. She’s got it. Not because you’re wrong, because she’s young and stupid. Act accordingly

[–]Gtrplyr383832 points33 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

She shouldn’t be more than a FB. Don’t even entertain the idea of a LTR. You can always hit it some more and walk away with a nice experience. There’s a saying that some girls belong to the streets. You cannot get hung up on this type of woman.

[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev51 points52 points  (11 children) | Copy Link

Two Points:

A. You can't turn a whore into a housewife.

B. She's not yours, it's just your turn.

So what to do? Enjoy the ever loving FUCK out of your turn. Ask her what her Secret, Greasiest Little SubGirl fantasies are and do those to her. Make up all new shit and make her do them (within established limits.)

You have DAYS with a girl who wants to be a slave girl...so Make Her Your Fucking SLAVE! Have her be your sex puppet. Have you ever been rimmed? Because it's time you got rimmed my man!

So my primary slave girl has a fuck ton of orbiters - who aren't getting her. I've made up names for some of them (she's a doctor so has to check her phone when she's On Call, and sometimes it's little betafag simps asking where she is because they miss her when she's taking days off from work to gargle my ball sack.) Don't worry about them. You're getting her, they're not. Just enjoy having a slave girl and when your turn ends, it ends.

Also, this chick is probably down for an FFM threeway. You should take that into consideration.

When an attractive actor came on the TV, she admitted that she would "happily be his permanent sex slave".

Yeah, so? She wants to be the sex toy of some guy she's never going to meet, ever. Why do you even care? When she says that you should simply say, "Yeah, I'd make him my bitch," and move on with the convo.

Granted she just called me babe over text like 3 minutes ago.

Further Reading

Uncle Vasya’s Guide to Submissive Women

-How to lead when she wants to follow.

Of Human Bondage – Uncle Vasya’s Guide for Men Who Like To Tie Up Young Ladies.

-The Field Guide to playing knotty games with naughty girls.

Of Human Bondage, Part II: Slave Girls Are Fun

-When Life Sends You a Slave Girl, Put a Collar on Her.

Be Her Darkest Sexual Chapter

-How Alpha Widows Are Born

Uncle Vasya's Guide To Threesomes

-When It Comes To Head, Two Heads Are Better Than One

[–]TheProfitMotive5 points6 points  (9 children) | Copy Link

Is being rimmed actually good?

Seems kinda homo. Only reason I can see for doing it is like a compliance test thing on the girl.

[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev20 points21 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Is being rimmed actually good?

Clearly, you've never been rimmed. Did you click the link? Another guy who thought like you do, and found out that I was right.

Seems kinda homo.

Only if you're having sex with another guy. If it's a girl licking your ass, you're in the clear.

[–]MadCuntCuddles5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Not true. The only time a girl licked my ass she then decided to shove her dick up there. I had been naiive up until then.

[–]exton96 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I got news for you

[–]redknight94212 points13 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Look man, if a GIRL is doing something SEXUAL to you as a MAN that by definition is HETEROSEXUAL.

Your body is yours, no one elses. Don't be so afraid of being considered GAY -- which isn't even an insult these days-- that you wouldn't let a hot girl do unspeakables to you.

[–]TheProfitMotive-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I can't imagine it's enjoyable for her tho tbh. My ass is pretty hairy, as I imagine most dudes will be too.

I've eaten ass of a girl who had bit of a hairy ass and the hair in the mouth was a turn off tbf. And I can't be bothered to go to lengths of shaving my ass on regular basis lol

[–]KrustyKrabReject4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

That's all a part of the submission of her. It's a submissive act.

[–]alittletoosmooth10 points11 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Not gay unless you lift your ankles up next to your ears

[–]TheProfitMotive6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Thats my fear.

That it feels so good, I get used to it and then im having bitches pin my legs back, tongue fuck my asshole and spank me and call me their bitch 😂

[–]unn4med2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

LOOOL

this has truth though

[–]alex_de_tampa24 points25 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Bro. Just use her for sex and stop being so emotional. Don’t even entertain her when she brings up other guys , that has nothing to do with you. Just make sure she brushes her teeth before you kiss her so you don’t taste my cum. 👍

[–]comcain21 points22 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

If you feel her out carefully, you'll discover geological rings made of cum by her previous partner, similar to tree rings. Give it a try. Your fingers have to be as sensitive as a safecracker's, though, with this high a body count.

[–]fuggetboutit0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

This comment.

[–]themaratha0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Gold!

[–]1rugged7925 points26 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Stop putting pussy on a pedestal.

A woman whose only claim to fame, at 23 years of age is that she uses her mouth as a kid's daycare for 50+ different dudes. She's licked up more kids than a momma cat. That's who you're trying to impress?

Enjoy the ride. It's going to be fun as hell. But once it's over, I wouldn't recommend putting another quarter in.

She belongs to the streets!

[–]brosky73315 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

That's one hell of a metaphor.

[–]SteveSan8232 points33 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

You are blue pilled as fuck.

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[–]ev3rynightfireworks0 points1 point  (6 children) | Copy Link

Curious, what makes him more fragile because of his age, and also, what can she do to him in anyway shape or form that would be irreversible?

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[–]ev3rynightfireworks0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

No he doesnt; he acknowledges what this girl is and wants to keep fucking her because shes hot. Lets be real tho, they are so much fun and blow the average girl out of the water. Do you think extremely toxic psych emotional abuse could permanently damage someone.

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[–]ReaperX442 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

The moment he told himself that she's pretty, it's pretty much game over for him. He's already getting manipulated without him knowing. And he already put her on a pedestal at that point. The worst thing is that he got cucked and he's not even on an ltr with her.

[–]ev3rynightfireworks0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

You're taking this shit too far and you sound like a retard.

He is getting manipulated but its hard to deal with women with literally no manipulation. Anyone thats gonna be with this girl is going to get "cucked". The only extremely advantageous thing this guy can do is date other women at the same time and sex this girl not on priority, dont spend too much time around her.

[–]30DaystoSolstice21 points22 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Get ready to be called a simp by 18 years old then lmaoo

I kept looking for redeeming circumstances in your post but I couldn't find one. whats the point of all this whats your endgame.

Simp.

[–]elpocalypse4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I was in the same position last summer. She was 21 and I was the 24th guy she slept with. Dude, she will never love you, she’s not capable. Her mind is ruined and her whole world is about getting as much attention as possible from as many men as possible. You can fuck her, but no matter what, do not get your feelings involved. And remember to wrap it up unless you know she’s clean

[–]Redraisin4217 points18 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Idk what you mean by dating but it’s very clear this girl is a gigawhore worth nothing more than a pump and dump. Try finding a girl who isn’t trying to actively cuck you if you don’t wanna worry about getting cucked.

[–]JohnnyOmm3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You're delusional. Fuck her until she turns u into her orbiter

[–]Greaterbird3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Only 50?

[–]longjeep20050 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

500*

[–]Gordon-G5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Be aloof, indifferent. Never get attached. Fergodsakes, don’t marry her, she’s seen more sausage than a butcher shop!

Your daily prayer should be.. “forgive me Lord for I have simped”

[–]JaydXThomas4 points5 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Dude, I was in a LTR with a woman like this. A hot, ravenous, hypergamous 24yo alpha widow. She would tell me about all her conquests of fucking high profile guys and professional athletes and I'd burn with jealously. It turned me into the biggest bitch and she absolutely destroyed me after a year. DO NOT get into a relationship with this woman. See her no more than once a week, text her sparingly and get her to do most or all of the pursuing. Pedastaling her will plunge you deeper into scarcity and invariably lower her attraction. Treat her like she's just another fuck. If you do this, YOU WILL have the best fucking time with her. She's not going to be around forever, and she shouldn't, so just enjoy the damn sex and quit seeking her validation. She's not special. Get more women, and let this woman chase your time and attention. If she doesn't chase, fuck it. Don't overly pursue her as it will just turn her off. Seeing her 3 times per week is definitely not a good thing. She needs to be wondering about you. She should be posting shit on reddit not you.

[–]asskisser0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

How did she destroy you? Are these women impossible to “handle”? Why?

[–]JaydXThomas1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

No, they're not impossible to handle, but impossible to keep if you lack the ability to be strong, decisive and emotionally centered.

Perhaps 'destroyed' may seem a little exaggerated, as she never cheated on me (as far as I know) but when she broke up with me, I was absolutely torn into pieces emotionally. She pulled so far away from me in the months prior - would not touch me, or be affectionate with me, she would not talk to me about things that matter and would invalidate my feelings at that time as I was going through difficult times personally. She would not invite me out with her friends, and would cancel when I ask her to go out with me. When out, she would act distant almost as if she was embarrassed being with me. She was cold. She would have many, many guys circling around her like vultures, reinforcing her confidence. She would tell me about how risqué and exciting her previous relationships were, especially with this older married guy who 'was the best man she had ever met'. I essentially felt like her emotional slave, continuously doubting my worth and this was exacerbated by her detachment and indifference. Nothing I did seemed to impress her. I should have left a long time ago, but I was so preoccupied with chasing her validation that I couldn't leave.

My behavior played a big part in her indifference, and as a result, she lost all attraction to me. I was weak, feeble and emotionally dependent on her. I see this often in relationships where the man is insecure. When we met, I was the opposite of this, and she was in turn, the most most affectionate person I had met. When we broke up, she told me that 'I cannot love a man I can walk all over' and that she fell out of love with me months ago but stayed because she felt sorry for me. She left me two years ago and we haven't been I'm contact since.

I have since changed a lot, and I see that relationship as a big learning curve for me. It was the relationship that brought me to the RP. I could not rationalize her behavior and mine back then, and it drove me crazy.

[–]asskisser1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Damn this hits so close home. For me it was also the most affectionate person I met. I started strong and watched her become the coldest bitch ever as I slowly began counting on her and showering her with my shit weakness.

Why do we get destroyed emotionally? Why do we instinctively want to depend on them originally? Is the answer to focus more on your life and not her?

Post breakup. What stays with her? Your weak face, your strong one from the beginning, or both?

Thank you for sharing.

[–]JohnnyOmm3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Everytime a girl compliments another guy I go even harder and do a very cheesy smile. It's been working so far unless she's trying to get u into a mmf 3some lmao. I would try to escalate her to a ffm threesome before ur shit collapses cause she sounds like a freak

[–]Jackt94 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

You are setting yourself up for heartbreak and spending way too much time with her. That 3 days a week watching TV and giving her your non-sexual attention is going to build an oxytocin addiction once you become completely attached, and that shit is gonna be hard to kick once you break up. It's just your turn. Enjoy it and fuck her once a week. She likely has other dudes on those other 4 days. Pull back now and detach before it's too late. Develop a quarantine relationship with your purpose instead. If you fall in love with this bitch she's going to hurt you.

[–]asskisser0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Why isn’t the oxytocin working for her and why is she going to hurt him?

[–]Joey_Lopez[🍰] 6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Just drop her. There is no point in being her 1,000+ notch. Also get tested. Bitches like that are dangerous.

[–]BuffQuant4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Sounds like she makes a good plate, but nothing more. Keep spinning her unless you begin developing feelings. If you do develop feelings find a new plate because this girl isn’t going to do your mental state any good favors from what you’re telling us.

On the bright side, at least she has disqualified herself as LTR material sooner rather than later. This has saved you a bit of time trying to discern that on your own.

[–]Mufasavader882 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

oh my goodness the comment section is lit. Loving it

[–]fakeaccount6872 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You're retarded. Why would you even get involved with a girl like this in the first place? Even if you dont actually like her, your ego is in the way of making the best decision possible, nexting her. You shouldn't care about being some bitches #1 guy. Who cares? Do e girls care about being some obese nerds #1 fan? No.

[–]paint-the-world-red2 points3 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Yeah, go ahead and get out this situation bro. Too many red flags to count at the moment, soft next and turn her into a plate but fuck all that for a second.

She was willing to sleep with me on the first date, but I didn't (I never do --it's a position of power).

I’m genuinely curious about this part though. In your own words, how do you view as a position of power? Are you typically using a girl’s ego about knowing that 95% of guys wanna sleep with her and by denying her, solidifying your own power?

I feel like I was in the ballpark with that

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[–]Poopybuttholeman11 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Agree with this also - keep doing this - but remove feelings.exe for this girl - keep fucking her - get a hobby

[–]longjeep20050 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

No, she won’t. If a girl has found a better option than you (in her mind) she won’t hit you up.

I thought that would work too before, and never heard from my ex again

[–]paint-the-world-red0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I feel like it’s hit or miss. If she meets some 8/10 dude and you’re a 7, then yeah, she’s not coming back but if you’re her best option, you got her.

[–]TRP VanguardWhisper2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Enjoy your turn, but accept that it will be temporary.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You gonna be a sick cunt or a sad cunt bro?

[–]manfrombelow1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Dude you don't ever get jealous with girls ever.

Learn to distinguish women who are LTR material and who are just to fuck. In this case, high N-count means fuckmate, not LTR.

[–]Tambamwham1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I don’t see the problem. You need to work on your weakness... because she’s grade A fuck buddy material. Absolutely perfect

[–]Lateralanouncer1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You have committed to a slut and every instinct in Your DNA is telling you it’s a bad idea. Now your getting PNS. post nut syndrome. Remember this feeling when your vetting in the future.

[–]myfirsttimecoding1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I had a girl exactly like this. Artistic tattoos and extra piercings? She’s going to be a headache since you’re already too emotionally invested

[–]RedUtopia1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Imagine being a simp.

In all seriousness bro, drop this girl real fucking quick. She will not help your goal/mission. She will just be a roadblock to your success. With this lengthy post, it seems that you have some sort of care or feelings for this trash disgusting vile whore, and in the land of the sane, all garbage must be disposed. She is garbage to you in a physical sense, and also a mental sense. Not good.

After disposing waste, work on yourself because you are clearly vulnerable to the blue pill and simping. You need to work on that mental clarity and an iron will. Every morning you must repeat "NO THOTS" as anything will do to rid yourself of this pathetic predicament.

Godbless you going forward

[–]asskisser0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

But thots are hot no? Is a calm good girl ever gonna give him sex like that?

[–]RedUtopia0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

"NO THOTS" simply means to not put them in some sort of pedestal that will make you write a 500 word asktrp post about them. Sure you can fuck thots, just don't worship the ground they walk on, and make sure to pursue your mission so that they would worship you instead

[–]asskisser0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thank you.

[–]slamdunktiger861 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Oh lord.

Bro, all I gotta say is i hope you have a lawyer on retainer and bail money ready.

Oh boy.

Will pray for you.

[–]mr4kino1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

She will be a good mother. You should marry her /s

[–]hopingforclearskin1 point2 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

I read your post and it reminds me a lot of the last girl I dated. Her age, the DMs, the attractive actor comment, the sleeping on first date, and high N-count. I was told by guys on here to end it and I kept it going, I only ended up very hurt (still am) when I learned the truth about her. It never ends well with these type of girls.

It's hard to lose feelings after they've developed which for you they clearly have. If you keep this up, don't be surprised if you're heartbroken.

[–]asskisser0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy Link

But doesn’t she develop feelings too?

[–]hopingforclearskin0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy Link

I'm sure she does develop feelings. But given the amount of dick she's taken in the past, currently taking, and has the option to, I believe girl's can lose feelings a lot quicker than guys can. Why would a girl pine over you when she gets attention 24/7 from men?

If you disagree I'd love to know why.

[–]asskisser0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

I don’t disagree for sure, especially about the part where she will pass the “heartbreak” like it’s nothing while he ll be gutted. But we have a slight bias I think. I recently had a similar story and the girls was definitely invested and catching feelings too.

I am just trying to figure it out basically. The classic answer is that her pair bonding is fucked up etc. Doesn’t that also apply to us though?

[–]hopingforclearskin0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

what was your situation? feelings and heartbreak etc

I'd like to know as well, in my case I've been with my share of women and I feel able to pair bond. Classic advice here is that women can't but I'm not sure why it's different for them.

[–]asskisser0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

I don’t know man. I am 26 and I got involved with a woman of 33. I am way past oneitis now but i still consider it a person very rarely encountered. High on life and powerfully feminine. She admired me and we were “hooked” on each other in the beginning, but I slowly started counting on her, leaning on her, letting go of my guard and she started pulling away. I don’t know which one started first but then it became a vicious cycle.

I saw so much about me through here and based so much of my value of me on getting her (I couldn’t believe it) (plus I was actually very into her) that I got torn apart when she left me. Took me 5-6 months to recover to an acceptable state. And I was with her for only 6 months.

I guess we all get broken at one point or another.

[–]hopingforclearskin0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

For sure. What things did you do that you think helped you recover? Was it just time? Because it's been 3 months for me and it still hurts.

[–]Cum_Victor2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Read the sidebar on TRP subreddit. NOW.

[–]SecondVariety3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

23 y.o. is peak crazy, be wary

[–]DTron23323 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You shouldn’t even be talking about her orbiters or guys she’s fucked, if she does just ignore her and act disinterested. You shouldn’t be jealous, you’re not exclusive to her, so why would you be jealous over a fucking cum dumpster? This bitch has had so many cocks in her that you can probably still taste them when you lick her pussy!

Quit being a faggot, and fuck the living shit out this bitch. Literally hate fuck her, spit in her face and slap the living shit out of her when you’re wrecking her insides. They love that shit. Keep gaming other women or at least focus on your mission and passions in life, eventually you’ll realize this bitch is just like any other.

[–]catsdontsmile2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You know, squirting is just urinary incontinence...

She admitted last night when we were scrolling through her IG in bed that this guy connor "tied me up and I really liked it". She also admitted this other guy she used to fuck keeps texting her to hook up after the quarantine is over. When an attractive actor came on the TV, she admitted that she would "happily be his permanent sex slave".

Break up. Don't tolerate that shit. And I don't mean this as a power move to control what she says, just get away for your own mental health.

[–]Annapolis_Duck0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Stay Alpha and hope for the best.

[–]Savaaage0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Dude just stop this bitch

[–]bestsparkyalive0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Take advantage of the “sexually liberated” girl you have in front of you and get your absolute maximum freak on. Know in your mind this has an expiry date and do not leave this situation having the regret of not doing something in bed you might not get the chance to with a less freaky girl.

[–]TheMainGerman0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

First off, you clearly have very poor standards in women. Fix those, or you'll never get a happy, permanent relationship. I'd say most women have telltale signs, but dude: She has NO written all over her.

Second, just leave her.

[–]bert_cj0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

How’d you meet this girl bro?

[–]cman94elder0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Get swole, make money, have a big dick and fuck the shit out of average or below average women 35+ and/or with kids, preferably overweight. You are doing them a service.

[–]jdmgf50 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Honestly is it fucked up that to me 30 at age 23 doesn't even sound like a lot anymore. Honestly OP sounds like you have feelings for her and it sounds like she is not a stable enough person to give you what you're looking for. Cut off the attachment now and don't prolong the inevitable suffering and fear that comes with this chick. You can do better

[–]longjeep20050 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

30 is just the number she’s admitting to. It’s assuredly much higher

[–]jackandjill220 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

This is funny. You're entering her frame bro.

[–]AlCopperhead0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

You can’t love a girl who got ran over a lot, if you stick with her she won’t care and she will cheat unless you can change her but nothing will take back in what she used to be because you never know, I would leave her no matter how beautiful she is man.

[–]dutchgguy0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

It's just your turn applies here. If you will put her on a pedestal you'll lose her.

[–]antariusz0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

So many red flags, time to demote to a plate, and if you don't have extra plates, that's what you need to work on.

[–]savagetwonkfuckery0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Sounds like you’re dating a sex doll

[–]sapienhomo290 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

All the gentlemen over here. I've learnt more than I could. Thank you.

[–]idontevenlift370 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

You should not be dating a girl like this, period. Granted AWALT, any girl is capable of this behavior. But this one should be nothing more than an easy lay and bounce for you. She will always be moving on to the next guy regardless of who her current guy is, whether that takes a week, a month, or even a year.

[–]longjeep20050 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Bro this girl is getting trains run on her. Over 30 means over 100 AT LEAST. And she’s talking about other dudes sexually? She is 100% fucking other dudes right now. Just so you know.

But welcome to TRP, I hope you make good with the information here. And have some self respect and either next her or fuck other girls. She ain’t your girlfriend

[–]z2a1-90 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Plate until it breaks, no ltr fuck other bitches faggot its simple

[–]Indumentum970 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

If she truly wants you - and only you (atleast for now), you don’t need to worry about her orbiters and what not. But don’t be a simp.

[–]SNKBF0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Talking about other guys is just another shit test, no?

[–]travlingsomewhere0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Oneitis.

[–]fatbloop0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Bro. Fuck. Come on man. You're 30. You can't let's 23 year old hoes play you like that.

Just keep fucking her. Once a week. Rotate her with other girls so you don't get oneitis.

This plate is very likely going to break soon. Have fun while it lasts.

Fucking hell man. These are the basics.

[–]rfdgdf0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

You've fallen for a hot slut. Thats not what you do with hot sluts. Cum on her face and go find a respectable woman for LTR

[–]TWDfanuk0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

She’s not yours, its just your turn

[–]Uzinero0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Stop simping and read the side bar ffs

[–]OverEasyFetus0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Fuck and chuck the slut dude. Stop falling for a pretty face, she isn't shit.

[–]ChadTheWaiter1000 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

High N count says it all in the title. Don’t be a fuckin idiot. You already know what to do.

[–]Domebeers0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

if you cant handle the fact she sleeps with men then you shouldnt date her doesn't seem very hard

jealousy is a you issue, not a her issue. You know why you are insecure, so work on that.

[–]Chalphamale0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I don't really see anything unusual here or the need to panic. She's just making it easy for you and revealing the fact that she's definitely not anywhere near LTR material. She saved you a lot of time. Just think of her as another plate. Easy. Done.

[–]axiscontra0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

The boys said it already

[–]Kizzou0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Why are you wasting your time with this women? Stop thinking with your dick guy

[–]ballsdeepforsauce0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Next.

[–]SeasonedRP0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

You need other women in your life.

[–]Sonny_Luna0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Truly impressed with your ability to be honest with yourself and admit you’re fucking up. That’s part of what really facilitates growth. You can’t progress if you can’t see where you’re lacking. Seriously, man. You’re on the path.

I admire you for it!

[–]abortion69690 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Jesus Christ what have I done to myself

Good.

It's gonna take a while to cure oneitis

[–]TravisScottNL0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Do you have a cuckold fetish? Damn man , it hurts to read. Do somebody bodyweight workout or learn a trade or something. You better learn from this L.

[–]ProfessionalCoffee80 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Most women these days are sluts and a some kind of "N-count", all girls have sex past, so whats the point of worrying? Try dating a virgin instead lol!

[–]BusterVadge0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I'm reading this and thinking to myself that this woman would make the best kind of plate but the very worst kind of LTR.

Also, I see that you are 100% fully in her frame. If you're somehow able to claw your way out of her pussy, it's going to be hard to win back her respect. I'd move on if it were me.

[–]cfbovernfl0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

"Only see each other" my ass. Why do so many guys trust everything girls say.

And just because you say you have a high count doesn't mean you're much better than the 18 year olds you're making fun of on this sub. What you've demonstrated through this post is that you don't grasp key concepts of TRP, so in fact the advice for you like that for the 18 y/o is to read the sidebar.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Lmao only read half but, this is dead... plate only

[–]caylocsgo0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Lmao she called you babe so that erases all her red flags , amirite? Come on bro , you know what you need to do. You know the bitch is bap , throw that shit away.

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[–]Greaterbird2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

A less fun way of measuring the total inches of cock that have been inside someone

[–]Greaterbird1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Continuing this, Total Cock Distance (TCD) is a more interesting method of measurement because you can unlock achievements.

  • $5 Footlong
  • A stone's throw
  • The whole 9 yards
  • The mile long club
  • There and back again
  • Around the world
  • Across the universe

[–]____Weabooo_V21 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Number of people a perosn has slept with

[–]Purplegetraenk-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Why the fuck are you even talking about the other guys she’s fucked?! I’m pretty sure she doesn’t think you’re “the shit”

[–][deleted] -2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Plenty of girls talk about other men, I don't like it, so I always tell them to shut up and that I don't want to hear it.

They oblige, I fuck them for a while, then go my own way.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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