I'm 31, overweight, and I'll just say "emotionally weak". I spend a lot of time obsessing over how much I dislike my appearance, and even though I've been trying to turn things around, I feel like I'm just so far from being considered even remotely attractive or happy with myself, I get caught in a spiral of beating myself up, and wondering if I'm just "too far gone" to ever have any sort of worth.

I dunno. Shit's really been bothering me lately, and I just wonder sometimes if we really can change such deeply-ingrained thoughts and behaviors, or if I'm just sort of "stuck as the person I am, so just get used to it".