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Do you actually regret screwing up any past LTRs due to being Beta?

July 6, 2017

I've had two LTRs, both of which I'm glad I got out of when I did. Both were with low quality women who I let treat me like shit. If I hadn't been such a Beta bitch, sure, I could have made the relationships last longer, and I guess they would have been slightly higher quality. Actually, if I had my head on straight, I never would have taken either of these women seriously as long-term partners. But regardless, I don't regret those relationships ending when they did.

What about you? Any regrets?

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Title Do you actually regret screwing up any past LTRs due to being Beta?
Author dontbedenied
Upvotes 9
Comments 13
Date July 6, 2017 12:07 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit /r/askTRP
Archive Link https://theredarchive.com/r/askTRP/do-you-actually-regret-screwing-up-any-past-ltrs.93695
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[–]Helmet_Icicle19 points20 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Shouldn't matter. The only use of the past is a barometer for your current pursuit of self-improvement.

Pining is mental rent being paid on a sunken cost fallacy. Use your brain dollars on more salient investments.

[–]Pluglord8 points9 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Excellent vocabulary

[–]aasman11 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Sick metaphors brah. Really well put.

[–]Renzotl565 points6 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

firm believer of no regrets and after all going through the bad experiences helps you know what to avoid and what you don't like for the future.

[–]dontbedenied4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I'm still getting over a bad relationship...I don't really miss the girl that much, I'm mostly just ashamed of myself for getting into the mess and investing so much emotionally in someone who really disgusts me in retrospect. I regret having the relationship although it was without a doubt the most eye-opening relationship I've ever had.

[–]Renzotl566 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Sometimes that's the best thing that can happen to you. You realize how blind and incompetent you can become. Makes you change and get your shit together. At least that's what it did for me.

[–]dontbedenied0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link


[–]AwakenedSovereign3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Easy trap to fall into. You ask yourself: if I had only known better, could I have made it work?

But if you had really known better, you probably would have avoided getting serious with toxic women to begin with.

[–]falecf43 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

All of my "mistakes" made me who I am and what I am. I didn't make any serious mistakes like kids or getting married even though I used to think thats what I wanted.

As you go forward you will know how to handle that hot chick, how to avoid crazy, how to own your job and it will all be because you screwed up at some point earlier in your life and learned from it.

[–]Westernhagen1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

No need to regret screwing up relationships with low-quality women. I cringe when I think of how my past beta-bitch behavior screwed up relationships with high-quality women (or caused me to get shot down before I even had a relationship).

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I do, but I don't really think about it basically ever.

[–]GreenPiller0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Nope. I wouldve married those bitches if they hadn't dumped me. Now I dump them

[–]Redshoryuken0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

The word "regret" implies that you could do otherwise. I mean sure, the vast majority of us would agree that we would rather have it natural either via upbringing or whatever.

But your past is what brought you to this moment, including fuck ups. Undoing those would diverge your path. In a very sick sense you ought to be glad that you had a reason to question your world view and beliefs and that eventually made you grow.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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