This is an unusual post on here and I feel like it makes for great discussion. I want to mention that I use to be a nice guy a long time ago (18 -20 years oldish) but I in no way consider myself one as of now (27 years old).

I really dislike the "nice guys" subreddit and let me explain why:

Now look, a guy is an asshole if he turns out to be really rude and becomes a dick if a girl rejects him (go to that subreddit to see what I mean). No man should act immature and cuss a girl out for rejecting her, but that sub has mostly women in it and they don't understand how frustrating it is to be a guy and trying to date. Dating in general is very difficult for men and we get rejected a lot, not so much women (use some common sense here, we have to ask women out while women don't have to ask guys out, they just need to exist and they can find a boyfriend easily). So that subreddit essentially kicks guys when they are down. But you know what ? I'm sure if the women on that sub were men for a week, they would realize how frustrating it is to be a guy and to get a date or to find a girlfriend in general. Although men should not act like a dick all of a sudden when they get rejected, they don't know how being rejected a lot or being rejected in general feels like most of the time because they don't ask guys out and they don't have to.

I got immensely downvoted for making a comment saying that if men have feelings for a girl, she rejects him, and she asks to be friends instead, then guys should delete her number, reject the friendship, and move on to the next chick. They all hated me for saying that it is not a good idea for a man to be friends with a girl he has feelings for when the girl doesn't like him back in that way. They essentially accused me of seeing women as objects essentially. If a girl rejects me, I say "ok", delete her number, and move on, but most people on that subreddit said that is a very asshole move and it was surreal that they think that. Anyone can choose whomever they want to be friends with it and it was so crazy seeing all the responses after saying that. A man with a goal of finding a girlfriend should not be friends with a girl they got rejected from because it is immensely counter-productive and a waste of time. Most older and experienced men (I would say above the age of 23) know this. No man wants to be in a platonic relationship with a girl they have or have found attractive when they got rejected by said girl.

So why is there this gap and misunderstanding when it comes to what women and what men think when it comes to rejection and friendship ? Why would I appear to be an asshole for not wanting to be friends with a girl I find attractive who have rejected me and for wanting to move on to the next girl ? Why do women want these men to remain friends if they don't want them sexually/romantically ? I am honestly confused because I genuinely don't know why my attitude appears shitty to most women.

This post is not directed at me, but its more me trying to get some answers/opinions/feedback to these open ended questions. Why would women want to remain friends with a guy they don't find sexually/romantically attractive ? I just don't get why our opinion (referring to Red Pillers) is not popular. This is not brigading, this is just me trying to understand the psychology of women essentially.