Ever since I cut my hair earlier this year, I felt like I've had a bit of an identity crisis.

On one hand, I think I probably look objectively better with short hair. I typically have a more "clean-cut" appearance now, trying to dress more "professionally", stuff like that.

At the same time, though, when I had long hair and a full beard, I was always being told I looked like a viking, and I kind of miss it. I also got a lot of compliments on my hair (though in fairness, mostly from fellow men or older women, though one female friend would constantly run her fingers through and play with my hair).

At the same time, though, I was told I looked pretty intimidating, which might put some people off (and definitely noticed it when I would meet more "uppity" people). I was also repeatedly told I didn't look "professional" and that I needed to cut my hair. Eventually, I did.

To be fair, everyone in my office made a huge deal about it, and a highly attractive (married) female coworker commented that she couldn't stand my long hair.

But ever since then... I dunno. I'm caught whether I ought to just embrace being sort of a burly guy, grow the beard back out and maybe even start growing my hair back out, or if I should just fully-commit and focus on trying to chase making myself more conventionally "attractive"?