Does it not make sense to make dates/plans days in advance? (Online dating)

MattyAnon · 2021-06-20T02:52:36+00:00

I assume it's because emotional state changed and/or they've come across better options

Also, they don't think you're serious if it was arranged 72 hours ago. They all have ADHD and assume you do. They need reassurance.

BUT never say "we still on for tonight?"

Best way is to trickle details...... "Cool jaz band Saturday"...... next day, if she agrees "It's at XYZ place"...... on the day "Pick you up at 7". If she doesn't answer, you don't bother to chase.

It's a waste of time if I'm planning on a date

Plan less, and plan to meet three. Pick your best option on the day, cancel the others. It's what they do.

IAmCoochieMan · 2021-06-20T01:50:27+00:00

There has to be some kind of connection BEFORE hand, which is what makes it really tough. The comment about video chatting is great because that's probably your best bet. Right now, you're a picture and words on a screen. That's it. You're not really "human" yet because they haven't actually had a human interaction with you.

The next issue is a theory of mine, don't know if it holds weight, but the longer you go without making a human connection, the less likely you are to actually meet due to one reason; they're still matching with other people. If you set up a date a week from now, they're probably going to match with someone better looking, makes more money, gives them more tingles, ect...time is your number one enemy when it comes to online dating.

Yashugan00 · 2021-06-21T11:48:37+00:00

" Anyone else noticing this?"

Yes, that's why the dating market is imploding. Women killed it.

Big data suggests that women meet the top 10% exclusively on social/dating sites.

You're not alone, and it's not an indicator of what you deserve.

it's all part of what the feminists designated for society: no repercussions sex, women meeting the warlord class and snubbing the "patriarchy" (eg beta men, builders of society). Girls want to have fun and no-one is going to tell them what to do.

as the saying goes on this sub: "enjoy the decline"

This is not on men to fix.

DomoSmoove · 2021-06-20T01:10:20+00:00

I found that most of my success from online dating came from girls I called/video chatted with that agreed with a date plan no matter how far ahead in advance it was

Mostass · 2021-06-20T14:09:52+00:00

I usually do next day meetups for this reason, I still get flakes though. Whenever I do a few days in advance they will flake on me for sure, just had 3 flakes this week alone.

Title	Does it not make sense to make dates/plans days in advance? (Online dating)
Author	hedden93
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Comments	6
Date	June 20, 2021 12:39 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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