Family and friends giving me guilty conscience for breaking up with unicorn LTR

sicrm · 2021-06-20T13:39:37+00:00

those same people would give you a lot more shit if they caught you cheating.

cafeitalia · 2021-06-20T13:17:26+00:00

A 21 year old girl with fake tits is a unicorn? Hahaha. She is not!

Current-Ticket4214 · 2021-06-20T14:58:55+00:00

She wasn’t a unicorn my guy

VasiliyZaitzev · 2021-06-20T17:19:59+00:00

”I don’t want to lead her on.”

vreshbaby · 2021-06-20T12:20:50+00:00

How is a 18yo girl with fake tits ltr material

You did right my man, enjoy the ride.

MattyAnon · 2021-06-20T13:19:29+00:00

How do I answer when people try to shame me for my choices?

"But I'm gay". That should shut them up.

More seriously:

"I'm not ready to settle down yet".

Just because THEY have scarcity and just because THEY couldn't find better doesn't mean you have to settle for something that isn't right for you.

DS_1900 · 2021-06-20T15:12:06+00:00

OP in no world ever in your life is a girl with fake tits a unicorn. That shit literally brands her as from the streets.

That her family let her get them also says that it is not a good family that she is from. That your family (and to a much lesser extent your friends) are giving you shit for breaking up for her shows that they don't know what the fuck they are talking about.

Since when does a 21 year old have a good job either?

Please get out more (and it looks like you will now so enjoy it).

Flaky_Lakey · 2021-06-20T15:42:06+00:00

They're all blue-pilled betas who think that good-looking women are somehow a scarce resource.

High value men are the scarce resource. Just focus on being the best you imaginable and you'll naturally reap the rewards.

ObjectiveDay8 · 2021-06-20T11:59:37+00:00

You’re too young to get married anyway, under 25 and settling down is an absolute no. Also, the fake tits already suggests she’s not wife material, trust me on that one. Build your brand, get your career going, wait until you are at least in your late twenties, you will find someone else.

Don_Draper27 · 2021-06-20T15:57:43+00:00

Women develop long term issues with breakups because they are often incapable of not milking the victim mentality.

The friends and families will always side with her. Even if she broke up with you because she's been fucking some other guy and now she wants to officially date him, it's somehow still your fault.

The only thing you can do is stick to your guns, show your integrity, and make a note of who your real friends are.

life036 · 2021-06-20T19:15:58+00:00

"For every hot girl out there, there's a guy who's tired of fucking her."

Human nature.

AllMyHoesWearJoggers · 2021-06-20T19:36:52+00:00

How does one have fake tits at 21... everyday a part of me dies inside :,)

officerfriendlyrick7 · 2021-06-20T17:21:20+00:00

OP it depends on your SMV, id like to shed light on something society also does; they tend to undermine a man’s attractiveness, even if he’s like an 8 or even a 10/10 people expect you to be satisfied with like a 4, a man’s attraction is never considered in the equation, because they generally don’t even acknowledge a very handsome man as being handsome, society tends to ignore that, it’s bullshit, if you look really good most women won’t turn you on.

Shipbldr2000 · 2021-06-20T11:56:51+00:00

You don't answer them. You don't need to.

There is never ever any need to justify yourself to others unless you have broken a commitment you made.

You have acted as a man of honor. If it were me, the most I would say might be "I wasn't happy and I wasn't going to cheat on her, so I broke it off." -That's it.

Well played.

BasilevsNihili · 2021-06-20T16:24:13+00:00

Lmao half of the posts here are either 'My LTR is a landwhale absolute disgusting whore that cheats on me what do I do?' or 'My LTR is a perfect unicorn that cooks/clean/sucks me on command and absolutely would never cheat but I'm bored/want somehing else what do I do?'

Besthater · 2021-06-20T22:01:12+00:00

Fake tits or not, the way you feel about her is likely not going to improve. You very likely should not get married at your age, and going out to live your life a bit is a good idea. Just keep in mind, there aren't a lot of good ones. You may get to pass on one or two, but you may live to regret it.

Equal-Home · 2021-06-20T22:54:42+00:00

Tell them u prefer natty tits

narutosleftnut · 2021-06-20T12:15:55+00:00

You are too young to settle down dude, I won't even think about marriage before 32 at least.

have fun.

prollysober · 2021-06-20T20:20:14+00:00

Why do people say this unicorn nonsense? A unicorn doesn’t exist, that’s the point of the term. AWALT.

tropicsGold · 2021-06-20T21:44:45+00:00

The number one most important lesson is to follow your own path and not GAF about what other people want or expect. You passed with an A young king.

T00kTheRedPill · 2021-06-20T22:09:55+00:00

OP, most people are BP and plugged in. Most people’s relationships are fucked up and doomed. Most relationships end and most of the time end in divorce, yet they still keep at it. Those are the people advising you on what you should do with your life because they’ve bought into this BP Disney bullshit.

OP, you need to stand up for yourself. When they say this shit to you again (and I’m sure they will), genuinely thank them for their concern, but with respect, I’m choosing to live my life the way I choose to. When they bring up yet again (they will), you need to be more firm, aggressive, short and to the point. Look them in the eye and calmly tell them to “Just stop. I’m serious, I never want to hear it from you again.” Then leave it at that. If they bring up 1-more time, if your in person, say absolutely nothing more and leave. Ghost these people. If you’re in a [living] situation to where you have to be around them or even work with them, keep ALL conversation very limited and if they bring her up again, ignore it, leave, or whatever. Just dont engage with them.

Ultimately what you need to do, if at all possible is ghost these people permanently, or at least until they call and leave you a voice mail or text apologizing for their idiocies.

Good luck man, and STOP TAKING SHIT from people, including family. Blood doesn’t mean shit to me if that blood disrespects me. Take that same approach.

Pezotecom · 2021-06-20T15:49:20+00:00

say "my body, my choice"

no one will defy that one in a group setting.

ay-fuh-q · 2021-06-20T13:03:25+00:00

Family and friends giving me guilty conscience for breaking up with unicorn LTR

Not sure if you're being sarcastic with the "unicorn" thing or not...

Been in LTR for 3 years (since 18, now 21) with this unicorn female, I was her first everything. Last week I decided to end it, main reason being I want to fuck other girls without being a cheater.

STILL unsure if you're being sarcastic...

I gave up on a 8/10 girl with fake tits, innocent face, good family, good job, yada yada yada. But I still seem to not give a F about her. Only thing bothering me is how everybody shames me for leaving her, telling me “you will never find one like her again”.

Still unsure what makes her a unicorn...

How do I answer when people try to shame me for my choices?

Who gives a fuck? If this is what you worry about throughout your life, you'll be living your life solely for others.

Curious_Dog_95 · 2021-06-20T18:21:55+00:00

RESPECT! You don't owe anyone an explanation, you did the right thing by sparing her for a man that will be faithful to her. You are young and your family and friends should just accept that.

saiyantmr · 2021-06-20T20:07:01+00:00

Lmao unicorn with fake tits same as a unicorn without the corn and with only 2 legs.

Youngmarcybeats · 2021-06-20T20:52:22+00:00

She was never a unicorn stop it

TheRedApostle · 2021-06-20T22:43:20+00:00

Think about those people the next time you're deep inside another unicorn.

OneTrueQ · 2021-06-21T00:46:08+00:00

Fake tits? 😂

TheGreatestSpice · 2021-06-20T15:44:03+00:00

You are right and they are wrong. Society will always try to make you feel like shit for putting yourself over pussy.

tradsouthernmale · 2021-06-20T15:59:26+00:00

News Flash: If she has fake tits, you were not even close to being her first.

Fake tits = low self-esteem = validation seeking = promiscuity

callthedopeman · 2021-06-20T13:48:36+00:00

"1000 better girls in my city"

No. You've got a unicorn. There are not 1000 other unicorns in your city.

With that being said, do whatever the fuck you want. Doesn't matter what anyone else thinks.

LLL3peat · 2021-06-20T15:04:49+00:00

If she had everything going for her your family might be right. To find a "unicorn" and your family loves this person it isnt usually common. its pretty uncommon to find someone like that and they maintain it regardless of city. Then again you wanted to play the field, and i hope you told her that. I also hope you left the door open that if you DO decide to boomerang back into her life or she does in say 5 years she doesnt scream you did the relationship/breakup badly.

All you have to say is you weren't ready to settle down and that's that. Ask to change the subject or pull back on contact/conversation with those individuals who keep prodding.

assholesfinish1st · 2021-06-20T19:23:46+00:00

Because it's what a lot of people want or at least think they want. Being her first means there's a good chance that a marriage and family would succeed between you. I wouldn't have made the same choice, but I have different values than you do.

Why answer? Let your decision stand and don't apologize for it or explain it.

Pycnostyle · 2021-06-20T21:19:29+00:00

Your friends and family don't know your ex as well as you do, so they see her differently. That's why they're saying what they're saying. From how you described her, you were right to have moved on.

That being said, there's no reason you need to badmouth her. You can just say something like, "You're right, she's a great girl and she'll find her Mr. Right. But we weren't a good fit together. That's just how it works sometimes."

Some others have said to say some variant of "I'm not ready to settle down yet," and that's acceptable too, but it leaves open the possibility that you might get back together with her sometime in the future, after you've matured or whatever. But that's not the case, because it was her insecurities that turned you off, not the timing.

Ultimately, this problem will fix itself within a few weeks/months. People are having their little tantrums because they thought you two were the perfect couple but they were wrong. After everyone's processed the news, they aren't going to hassle you anymore. And that's kinda why I'm less of a fan of the "bad timing" answer. You don't need people bringing up your ex years from now when they think you're older/wiser/matured/whatever.

GulpAndCry · 2021-06-21T01:49:46+00:00

a lot.of.irational.fake titty hatred here. wierdos.

in answer to.your question。

tell them that you would rather regret something you did vs something you didnt.

GulpAndCry · 2021-06-21T01:51:01+00:00

yeah a lot of americans putting their fake.tit culture onto your ex. ignore them. it doesnt add or subtract anything from her unless you want it to.

NotAbot556 · 2021-06-21T04:17:19+00:00

Just ignore them or push them out of your life. If there is anyone being negative to me I stop talking to them.

Ankuno_ · 2021-06-21T09:32:18+00:00

I'm gonna disagree with most people here, I think you should strive to be with the girl that gave you her virginity and hasn't had sex with anyone else. How many virgins or chaste women do you think you're gonna find when you're 35, do you want the mother of your child to have a high body count?

The best relationship you're ever going to have is with the woman you've been the first love to, they always remember and appreciate that guy to a whole different level. Build together, grow together, become better together. Focus on your goal and improve yourself. And you know what? If you provide enough value, she won't mind you cheating on her now and then.

I know you might not love her now, but most of the times, love is hard work and it's something you build instead of something that just happens to you.

scepticferret · 2021-06-20T12:17:58+00:00

Your an idiot and time will reveal this to you. I hope I'm wrong.

TopRPd · 2021-06-20T13:10:30+00:00

Good job OP, I just fucked similar girl last night. Thanks for letting her go so I can blow.

Title	Family and friends giving me guilty conscience for breaking up with unicorn LTR
Author	narutosleftnut
Upvotes	57
Comments	116
Date	June 20, 2021 11:52 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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