Context:

I have got a 6 months LTR prospect, we both met dancing (salsa and bachata). I know the dancing scene is a slut fest but this girl is new to it and (hopefully) not damaged yet.

If I've something else to do, and she goes dancing without me, afterward she shit-tests me, telling me about all the guys that tried to pick her up that night.

Last time, just before we were about to fuck, she brought up a guy pulling a very inappropriate sensual bachata move. I wasn't really bothered by that, as long as she rejects dancing again with guys that pull those sorts of moves, but in reply, I jokingly slut-shamed her without importance.

Such a newbie mistake, afterward I was given a cold shoulder, she didn't look at me in the eyes and I was offered a dish of starfish sex.

I could feel a train-wreck of my frame. What I did was:

  • Apologizing for it.
  • Telling her that I didn't believe she was a slut. That I knew the scene and that shit means nothing.
  • Tell her how much I hated her avoiding eye contact.
  • Rejected the dull sex.
  • Remembered her that she was dating an idiot.

Afterwards she texted me that _I left her in a disrupted state_, to which I replied with the google search for what to say when you don't know what to say. I don't know if that helped me recover frame or if her rage fit passed, but shit sort of normalized after a couple of hours.

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I realized that I don't really know how to handle female anger directed at me for involuntary mistakes. Don't know if I need to confront it, try to rationalize and justify, beg pardon, ignore or disengage and run away.

What's your take on it?